Why men cheat would take forever & a day. Why they ask the ? is because they want to steer your thinking. You know they have, they know you know, & yet they'll attempt to steer the blame back to you, & women buy it. Time after time I've seen guys caught red handed, toss some anger around, change her line of ?, & have women thinking maybe he didn't do it It has always amazed me that happily married men have no problem cheating, & don't consider it cheating because it's just sex--the same rules do not apply to wives (if you do it you're a dirty****) So if your husband or boyfriend can throw the blame back onto you by asking if you don't trust them -they will. The hope is that you'll feel bad about not trusting them, in essence any & all problems are caused by your insecurities. He'd never cheat on you---don't you feel bad now
I think a husband cheats and asks you why you don't trust him any more so as to know how you think of him. Some ask as a way of defending themselves and proving that what you think of them is not true and that accusing them of cheating makes them feel offended.
I agree with what they said.. But my boyfriend (well ex currently) did that to me and played it off like he didn't.. Gahh!! It was agravating and he was like "Why don't you trust me JENNA??" and it confuses me cuz idk if I should believe him.. D:
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Most men cheat because they feel left out some way in their marriage. As for asking why you don't trust, they should understand why. Simply state her broke your trust by having an affair. Any true pain does not heal over night. In the mean time I hope you can get some counseling. If he won't go with you than go by yourself. Good luck to you.
Read some books on the subject. It will help clarify the cheaters mindset. It's all about ego stroking and low self- esteem. They always affair down. They look for the easiest sure thing who will not take much work to "get."
It's completely his fault and if he won't accept that, he isn't worthy of your forgiveness. It sounds like he wants to pretend it didn't happen. That isn't going to work.