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im on a date with this 16 year old from school and he and i went to his house to just hang out but now he's acting like he wants.....you know.. i dont want this to be happening to me again. should i break up with him or should i talk to him about it?

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EMO girl, You are not good at answering people so far... What ever happened with your pregnancy? Are you still? I cant believe you are moving on so quickly. Whether or not you are sexually active...You should be looking at your life right now, not running into another relationship. Here is a little girl advice.. Did you know that if you were prego and you got an abortion, then you have sex shortly thereafter your uterus will be distorted and you could ruin your chances for having a normal pregnancy.

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wooooooowwwwwoooooowwwwoowwww leave her alone let her do wut she wants plz
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pinkhotttie5992
um, no...she needs 2 no the onportant stuff, mss. sensitive ears!(no offense!)
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I am not trying to be mean. When you are a grown WOMAN hopefully married and decide to have a baby, you could honestly be setting yourself up for a miscarriage or a stillborn! it is not a joke RESEARCH it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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If you really like him talk to him about it. If you feel uncomfortable DON'T do anything. If he likes you he will understand.

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The best thing to do would tell him your into him but you don't want to go that far yet , if he likes you he'll understand

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exactly!!!!!:)
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U mean you'll NEVER go that far right? And Eric for heavens sake take of ur sister! And u take care if ur self for Pete's sake. Geez.
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do what you are most comfortable with. protect your body its the only 1 you've got

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thanks
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Yeah listen to her.
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Lol every guy wants some action in any relationship your in just tell him you don't want that. If he turns it around and tries to make it your fault, dump him!

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talk to him about it and then if he doesn't agree then brake up with him make sure the next time you go to his house BRING YOUR CELL PHONE !!!!!!! i almost got rapped and i should have brought mi cell phone

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Sccccaaaaaaarrrrrrrrryyyyyyyy.
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I would Brake up w/ him u don't want to get involved on that stuff

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yeah. ive got pregnant before and im only 14
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Green!
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so... green for go? or red for no? i dunno even know what you mean...WWUAHha duuDe
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What did u do with the baby?
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Ya what did u do w/ the baby
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Ok, I'm sorry I'm not a girl first of all, but hear me out. Men are naturally inclined to want, as you call it "you know", so it's not a surprise he is like that. Anyway, you should NOT break up with him over it. Simply talk to him, and tell him that this isn't what you want right now. If he understands, all is good. If not, THEN, you should break up with him.

If TL;DR, then talk to him, and if he understands, good, if not, break up.

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Just tell him that you're not ready. And if he doesn't accept then leave.

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wow, 13 seconds and the exact same answer! Have a thumb.
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Yay! You can have a thumb too:)
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Very good advice! Third thumb!
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Yay! Thank you
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U should leave in the first place what a creepy guy!
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Tell him straight up, "I'm not ready." Then if he keeps pushing the issue, leave. Simple as that. Be strong.

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You get my thumb, too! Great answer.
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Thx
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Yep .. time to have 'the talk' .. time to set some boundaries. If he doesn't like it, then it's time to move on.

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Totally!!! Green! : )
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Talk to him first

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Everyone keeps saying talk to him? This Dude totally knows what he's doing and his intents; he's being an arrogant pig.
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So she needs to talk to him duh
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If he becomes aggressive you need to get out now. Explain to him in no uncertain terms that you aren't interested. If he cares about you at all he will respect your decision and back off. If you feel scared or uncomfortable, get out, listen to your gut.

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great answer!
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tell him that you are not ready yet. i hope its ' not ' the first date with this guy.(?) if it is....and he wants it....he's got no class.

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its our 3rd date. and i have had sex before lots of times but the 3rd date? no!
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sis, it better not start either.
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yea, i started at 16!!!
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Oh my gosh u guys...... I'm getting sick.
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Me too gross seriously I can't believe u people
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Sounds like he is putting you in an unfair position, I would break it off. At your age, being alone in a house with a guy isn't an appropriate situation at best. Keep your head on straight and stand your ground then tell him you are Nobody's fool!

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Tell him you like him in all but your not that type of girl anymore

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Well, the first mistake you made was going to his house in the first place. because here is one thing you need to know... i dont care what type of guy you go out with, all guys want sex...it's a guy thing.but i would talk to him and if he does not understand or respect your decision excuse my french but screw him,

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Abstanince!!!!! Tell your parent(s) straight up! Watch Law and Order:SVU also. Please be careful. I will be praying for your safety. Not that anything bad will happen but keep your gaurd down.

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She's already had sex.
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and a child!
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I personally would break up with him, but that's your choice, you could also talk to him and tell him that you arnt ready for that or you do want to do that right now, if you are not feeling comfortable seeing him in person( your worried he might rape you) then text or call him and talk to him, just tell him that you got pregnant at 14 and you don't want that to happen again, explain and don't let him boss you or force you into something your not ready for. I hope this helped!!(:

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alexa if he's wanting you to do that i need you to live with me! mom and dad aren't going to stay together. im moved out. im a year from being 18 i can take care of you!

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What the heck?
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hah this guy is super weird, ive seen other tihngs he's commented on and its all jst weird
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Alexa needs you Eric! Its a good thing she has you so she can be under your care, since, of course, you are a blood relation to her and care for her.
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guys alexa is my sister! if you didnt know that then i know how weird that sounded. just look at her profile to see if im her brother.
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Its true. Eric, Ali has told me so much about everybody she loves on here. (You included.) and she told me all about you. She is very happy being with you :)
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awwww and i am very happy to be with her. :)
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awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww how cute Eric you really deserve her don't do anything STUPID luvs
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haha i wont
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pinkhotttie5992
hope so, she needs it...u her lil' bro!!!!
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@keoke he's just looking out for his sister...
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im the oldest
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It's about time Eric!
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Its about time u started looking out for her. :)
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i have been
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I see you feel you have a problem.Well you do not.Tell this friend that at this point in your life.You have set new goals for yourself and would love to date but right now nothing serious in a relationship.If he has a problem with that let him go.There is many young men out there that would respect your stand.It is nice to have a steady boyfriend but not at such a high cost.Good for you! Your on th right track:)

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Hi down here.
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waves to the uppers,lol
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Tell the parents of the father first.

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Hey, Alexa sorry I'm not a girl, but I think you should talk to him about it, if he still wants to do it refuse to. Don't have sex with him or anyone until your at least 18 and in a good relationship.Hope things work out for you.

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awwww...thats so sweet!
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U should not do it intel u r MARRIED!
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Yeah, that's what I meant by "in a good relationship"
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Did you not learn your lesson the first time? Grow up a little and learn to say no. Or you could just keep having abortions for the rest of your life, because if you keep it up that is what is going to happen. I'm sorry if I sound mean but someone needs to put some sense in your head.

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tell him how you feel about being sexually active.

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use your words (I'm a boy)

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hahaha, stupid.
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no doy!!!!
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SOOOOOOO talk 2 him about it. he needs to respect u girl.
<3Em

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Talk about it girllllll. <3 dont you b having sex... But on your profile it says you like sex... ewwie...

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DoNt DoO AnY oF ThoSe tHInGS!1~1 uR PurFect

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You should break that, or if you really want to stay with him than tell him your not ready for that yet or you just don't really want to now.

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well, first talk 2 him....if it gets bad, dump him......its happened to me 2....many boys are attracted to me and want to use me for sexual purposes

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Thanks for the comment, sorry that people use you.
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talk about it to him

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Don't break up with him yet! Try telling him how you feel, and if he listens to you and is understanding, keep him!

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tell your not ready for it yet and if he understands keep him if he still wants it dump him becuz ur not ready

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if you can't talk openly about the act don't do the action.Keep in public places where your not in the position of having to say no. This is called DATING. Having sex is a relationship. If you have to ask are you ready. Then there's your answer. Your ready when there is no doubt. Once it's done you can't rewrite time and take it back.

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I totally think you should just talk about it. If he understands, he might just back off. If not, his loss!

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Hi! Just because you are on his "turf, being his house, he has no right to do, or make you feel you have to, do anything against you're will. You mentioned this happening again.. What do you mean? It's hard enough to be 16. Try not to complicate it any more than it already is! Tell him when you're ready, he will be the first to know! Take Care!

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talk to him about it. if you're uncomforadable with it, he'll understand if he's a good boyfriend 4 u

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I am only answering cuz I like to help + your a female and you should never be mistreated. Sounds like he wants it. Just like the others said. Time to have the talk. If it sounds the same still, just straight out ask. If he says yes, I would dump him. (I am not gay) Also dont get into relationships too much. JUST SAYING. Good luck.

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if your uncomfortable about it talk to him about it and if he really likes you like that he will understand

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if any guys do that to you, DUMP THERE SORRY BUTT

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if he really loves you then he should respect your answer if he still pressures you into stuff you don't wanna do then dump him.hope this helps

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DUMP the MAN

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Talk to him about it

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