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How to deal with a selfish/self-centered sibling?

My sister is by far, the most selfish person I've known to exist in this world. She seems oblivious to her actions and selfishness. For example, when I buy treats from shops, I'll usually share it with the family and her. I'll allow her to take as much as she wants and she seemed "pleased" to eat whatever I have. However, she never once ever thought of offering me anything from her snack drawer, nor did she ever leave those snacks on her desk at plain sight. She would hide it deep inside her drawer and (possibly) "hide" it from me. I have every penny to buy tons of those snacks so I don't know why she's doing that? But it hurts to see her actions. Furthermore, she would ask my mom to buy her favorite treats and foods. Some of those foods I would dislike but she didn't bother to ask anyway, she just asks my mom to buy them. Item wise, when she lends me money or any stationery, she would keep an eye contact with it, and demand it back immediately after I've finished using it, when I loan out my stuff, I do less to bother how long it took for her to return. Why is my sister so self-centered?

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I believe it is in her personality. I also think you are frustrated due to some expectations that are not met, which may also be in your personality to give without clear expectation of return, but be disappointed anyway when return doesn't come . We all have different personalities and wonder if something happened to cause them or are they just there to begin with. I think they are there to begin with. I came across this book about personalities I found it quite interesting about the "enneagram". Then I found more about it on some websites, check out enneagrams it's fun and interesting.

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try to treat her the same or deal with her even if she is selfish

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You should consider talking to her about your concerns and reservations towards her behavior. You need to treat her well and don't try to revenge or treat her the same way as she does since this won't change. You will be required to remain good to her since this will actually bother her conscience.

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Dont change the way you treat her. When she more mature she'll see how selfish she was being and be grateful you didnt treat her like she treated you

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Is she quite a bit younger than you? If so this would be normal behavior.

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I have two grown daughters and you sound exactly like the younger one describing her slightly older sister. One daughter is very giving and the other more reserved, yet they were raised in the same environment. I believe it is mostly character related. That's just how they are. You can talk until your blue in the face to her and she will budge a little but will not genuinely change. Accept the fact that you like how you are and be willing to accept how your sister is. Her stubbornness my serve her well in some capacity of life. So endure.

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That's so good to hear! Thumbs up for this awesome reply. :)
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People don't change. My sister has always been selfish, my mother who loved her dearly and spoiled her rotten even noticed it. She is now a lonely selfish, and self centered woman who complains all the time and only treats me nice when she wants something. She will act nice for awhile, but there is usually a reason for it and she will revert to her mean spirited self in time. I have half a mind to leave her alone and let her fend for herself. She has no children, few friends and is unlikely to ever marry or settle down with another human. She weighs close to 200 pounds and is on the road to nowhere career-wise. She won't listen to any advice I have to offer and insists on eating garbage and laying around the house watching TV. She doesn't need me I guess, and I certainly don't need her. She's 56 years old, not about to change.

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