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mother inlaw issues

I don't think my mother in law likes me. Everytime I go over to my boyfriend's house his mom cooks but she doesn't offer me any, she does ask my boyfriend if he wants and sometimes she will just serve him a plate and say nothing to me. I feel really uncomfortable, I try to talk to her and I always greet her when I come and go. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months already, and I just feel rather hurt :/ should I be ?

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First thing; She is your boyfriends mother, not your mother in law.

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More green for you.
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i know the feeling, maybe she just needs time to trust you :) good luck i really hope it all works out why not find out when her birthday is? try win her over then :)

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What she is doing is wrong, because even if you weren't her son's girlfriend, courtesy dictates/requires her to serve you a plate as well. Since you cannot change her, you best talk to your boyfriend about not going to his house, because by now he should have seen what she does. If he sides with his mom, perhaps it is time you thought twice about the relationship.

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That is a cold thing to do. It is understandable that it would hurt someone's feelings. It seems that it is even an insult to your boyfriend. Maybe it should bother him too. It may but you didn't say...if not, I know it would bother me if I were him. Just is an insulting way to be treated!

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Don't go over there anymore. Clearly she is rude and is going out of her way to make you feel unwelcome at their home.

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well look..........people have a tender sensitivity when others take their loved thing away....................what would you do when you are a child and some one takes away your doll.......you are practically taking away her son.......whom she has given birth with 9 month burden and lots of pain.........i ain't saying what she has done is good...........but you should try to empathize her........love her the way her kid does and you will get a mother in return.........i know its hard when some one tests your temper that way...............but try to go and hug her like a lightening............in a sec and run away while you go out of house........so that though she wanna be offensive she wont get that chance and after you do it 3 times she her self will hug you.......give her some love girl

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If your boyfriend really cares for you , he would notice his mom's negative and unkind behavior and intercede on your behalf...

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Instead of Coming in and out of the house , Maybe offer to help TELL your guy to find out why his Mom is so hard on you.
Just ask her .

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He needs to say something to his mom. Why would he allow her to do this? He doesn't feel rude when he sits down to eat and doesn't offer you a plate??

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She doesn't like you around for whatever reason. She probably made it clear to your boyfriend, or she is hoping her rude actions will. I wouldn't go over anymore, I'd also rethink the relationship because if he is close to mom this may never end for you. It's not worth it.

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You're welcome good luck!
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