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Im 23 and ive cheated on almost every girl ive dated since i was 11, im a natural flirt and i wanna stop cheating. how do i stop?

im also a male nurse and surround by women constantly. i just found out my gf pregnant and i wanna be faithful but i dont know how!

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You know what? Stay single. Step up and be a great dad, but quit lying to yourself and to the ladies and just be single. You need to learn how to respect yourself and women's feelings before you will be mature enough to appreciate how great a loving, trusting relationship can be. Perhaps when your child is born you will see what it's like to love someone more than yourself and your libido. Anyone can have sex, but only a real man knows what it is to be happy with himself and have the ability to please another. If you step up and take care of your child, you will see unconditional love and perhaps grow up enough to have a mature relationship with a woman. Cheating is for the weak...

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Coming from someone married for 33 years, that's a big compliment! Thank you and I hope you have a reflective Memorial Day! Saw that you're a vet and was hoping I'd get a chance to tell you that and Thank You for helping make our country great!
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think about the baby. thats a mini you coming to this planet. when he/she grows up what kind of image you gonna wanna give em. you want to be that guy in a kids life who just couldnt control himself settle down and be a faithful father/husband. keep that in mind.

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great advice
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welcome.
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I would maybe suggest therapy to find out if there are reasons behind your infidelity. Sometimes there are reasons behind the things we do and we never realize it until somebody else can shed the light on the issue for us. If you feel there is no reason then perhaps you are just not ready to be monogamous. You are in fact young, you could just not be ready to settle down. If you find a need to cheat on your pregnant gf, at least give her the courtesy of ending the relationship. The last thing she needs is to be devastated by the person who should be there for her.

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Keep the gf on your mind... If u get turned on by someone else (which is fine..) then put her face in your mind and then bottle up that feeling til your with your girl later.

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You can't

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Not true.. You CAN. You have complete control over what you do... Although I will agree that a huge majority of ''cheaters'' never stop cheating
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I totally disagree with the "huge majority" comment. Yeah some cheaters cheat again, but give credit to the cheaters that are contrite and sincere. There are good people out there, you've just got to find them! People do make mistakes and learn from them. Don't lose the faith!
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I have faoth. I just mean in my experience most that cheat will do it again but ppl can change. :) my husband actually cheated on his ex and we'v been together for 5 1/2 yrs and hes been faithful.
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What do you mean you don't know how?
Does your girlfriend not mind this? And is it ok for her to cheat on you??
Being in the medical career field I am aghast that your girlfriend is pregnant. I'm afraid for her and for the unborn child. You go out cheating, doubtfully using condoms, because you didn't use them with her. I wonder what kinds of diseases she is now incubating because of you.
Is your girlfriend ready to be a single parent? Does she know yet that you won't be around for her and the baby, because you have to go sleep around because you can't help it?
I have a feeling she won't approve of this unless maybe its mutual.
Loving someone and respecting them should be enough to keep your pants up and the thought of all the incurable stuff out there should help too.
I suggest therapy.

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dont bash me for my careless way, atleast im coming to turns with what im doing and im in the medical field you seriouls think im that mis guided to not wear protection when im doing the unthinkable? i posted this asking for advice and not to be told what ive already come to terms and as far as her being a single parent its not gone happen thats why im asking for suggestion about my promiscuous ways and how too deal with it...
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If you LOVE someone you don't show them that with the ultimate disrespect. I'm sorry for the bashing, but people like you (thinking with the little head) is part of the reason for STDs.
Is it truly ok for your girlfriend to be promiscuous and blame it on enjoying to flirt? How would it make you feel? That might be a start in correcting your behavior. Think about someone other than yourself. It may take you far.
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Her being a single parent CAN very well happen if she doesn't approve or forgive this behavior. If you plan on marrying her you need to be straight up with her before you get married and let her know about this. A good marriage REQUIRES trust.
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Stop making excuses and see if you can't muster up some morals.

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think about the baby. when he/she grows up do u want him to cheat on loads of girls like u? if ur answer is no then just make yourself stop. :)

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well it is a messy situation the only thing that can help you is your WILL POWER and by the info you have provided its not going to be easy for you...look the will to change yourself that has born is you is very good sign and you trying to know more about it will help you to gain self control on yourself...you know every person has two things talking in their brain..one is your heart and other is your brain(mind)..if you wanna be strong and win this ....you always gotta hear your heart..when a girl throws a smile at you don't allow your mind to bring back all the flash back memories of your life...the very second say a word inn your mind "i am strong i can withstand this temptation"......cause if you sincerely follow this for 1 week you are out of it..the first 1 week is the terrible period..this is going to be tough but nothing is impossible.....If you wanna stop this thing...you yourself gonna build your strength ..all the very best ...just remember one thing..when you get old and fat...only a true love and a true wife gonna stick to you .....in ur health and unhealthy and if you follow this filthy track anymore at the end all that remains is...regrets.

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If you truly wanted to be faithful you wouldn't be asking you would just do it. Some guys are just players and go through life using people for instant gratification. The fact that you say you have cheated so often and don't know how to quit leads one to believe you are void of conscience. What does it take to be your girlfriend? Is it good sex? the things she does FOR you? The challenge? Looks? All of these things are fleeting...they don't last. At this stage in your life you have not found the right person that brings out the best in you. I would pay her child support and quit having gf's that create a commitment at all. I know that's hard to do bcuz you want the security of having someone there that you can depend on. Doing the right thing in this case would be to marry her and be a husband in all aspects of that responsibility. You aren't willing to be that person and so you need to be there for her through the pregnancy and man up to the financial and the father role but no more. Just be the player you are and don't make promises you can't or won't keep. Seeking counseling would be good but mist if the time you will revert back to your old habits. Maybe someday you will meet a woman that you can't live without and that through her actions makes you will respect her and want to be faithful. Or, you'll just be the player you are right now...and what a worthless existence that would be!

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This is an addictive behaviour and you may need help to be able to stop. The fact that you asked the question shows that you do want to stop. If it were me, I would prayerfully seek a pastor to counsel me, but there are other counsellors who help with this type of issue.
There may be a fee for counselling wheras pastors don't charge to counsel you. You should also be honest with your girlfriend. And, as well, she might benefit if she wants, by receiving help in this time from the counsellor. No one is perfect but some things we do hurt us and sometimes others more severely. But, you can overcome because others have. I've known of even husbands and wives who have overcome this same type issue and are living happy lives. If you begin to get help and stay on that same road you are one step closer to success. Others have traveled it and made it so I believe you can too. I wish you well!


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Self-control. Just stop doing it.

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go to therapy and just remember that if you do that again she will come back for revenge! remember: one day at a time.

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