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ok theres this boy I like and he supposably likes me back, but I doubt he likes me because he doesn't talk to me that much in school, let's this girl I hate hug him when he could always just say no, doesn't want to be my boyfriend but says he loves me a lot? and he tells me all these sweet things like I'm pretty and he loves me etc. but only texting never in person unless I say something first and I'm usually the one to text him first he rarely text me first unless he knows I'm mad at him and I just have the gut feeling he doesn't love me like I love him I feel like he loves me, but not a lot he loves someone else a lot which is why were rarely seen together in public I think he doesn't want the person he really likes to see me around him that's why whenever we do talk it's when there's absolutely no one around to see, but he tells me I'm just being negative and paranoid, but I don't think so and he's going to the same high school as me so I'll see him for 4 more years. what I want to know is if it's even worth liking him anymore? should I just give up and forget about him? do you think he likes me?

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Hi, I think maybe he's confused...but don't text him, ignore him..and wait as much as you'd want to talk to him hold it! And wait for him to call/text you, DONT! If he likes or loves he'll notice that you've been ignoring him and he'll come to you, if he doesn't do anything that means he doesn't care about you you'll get your answer! Be be strong and ignore him TOTALLY!! Best of luck and I'll love to know If it worked..

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I've been doing that I started on the beginning of May and I haven't texted him since then and he's been texting me a lot but I don't answer him I actually noticed doing that has been making him come over to talk to me a lot
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See told u it'll work! U dont need him anyways..waste of time
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Exactly
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Sweetheart, if he can't hold your hand, and kiss you in public, and tell you all these sweet things when his/your friends are around, move on! There is a perfect boy out there for you, these things just take time!! But he is definitely not the right boy for you! Chin up, smile, and keep looking! You will find him <3

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so true and you will meet lots of new people in the next 4 yrs so have some fun and don't worry so much about getting all tied down to one guy. There is nothing wrong with having guy friends
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Thanks c: that made me feel a lot better it's just a little hard to forget about a person in one day
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I know sweetie, but might as well do it now, before you get more attached! He's obviously not as serious as you are, and if you're looking for serious you deserve to have someone taking you serious.
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True and I know I haven't texted him since the beginning of may but he still keeps texting me, but ignoring him has helped me get over him a bit
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@cjkenkel that was perfect!!!! GrEeN!(:
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Did you type that all in one breath?
Sounds like their isn't a problem.
It doesn't matter who hugs him.
He might be shy. You might be pretty and that might scare him.
and their is no way you guys are in love.

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Why is there no way they are in love?! My husband and I met, and started dating 13 years ago, when he was 15 and I was 17, so teenage love is possible!! :)
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Haha yeah my parents dated when they were 13
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You may not have been in love them though. It grew over time.
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I loved my man from the first time I seen him :)
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^ I agree there isn't any way their "in love" I am 14 and I don't "love" anyone and nether does anyone I know they just think there in love cuz they have never truly been in love what they think is love is probably just a strong crush/liking for the other person
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How can you be in love with someone from the sight of them?
You wanted to love him and cultivated it... but you didn't love him until you did.
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you were infatuated with him. as an adult, you can't really say it is love like a love in a marriage. I'm with my 7th grade boyfriend as well and I know that. besides he just says "love" on texts. ( I'm 32)
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Ok I used the wrong words I meant "like" I just used the word love because I just assume its basically the same thing but okay ?_? I understand and it's true
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It's definitely not the same thing.
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Yeah I see that
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Wow... Well first off I would just try talking to him about the situation and tell him how u feel and maybe try to figure out how he feels. But if he won't accept you around everyone else then he isn't worth it.

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I know and I have talk to him about it, but I don't know he always manages to change the subject
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Hmmm ...Have u tried talking to him in person? Or through the phone?
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No I haven't ever tried talking to him in the phone but I might talk to him about it in person because then I know he can't weasel his way out of it
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There u go! Sit him down and tell him how you feel! If he can't accept it and doesn't feel the same way then he isn't worth your time! There is some one out there who will love you wayyyy more than he ever did!
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Yeah I know I'm going to make it clear to him I'm going to my school dance this Friday and he's going so I can talk to him then
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Okay!! Good luck!! :)
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Ok huh i think if you like him then like him theres nonthing he can do but if he dont want to talk to you in public or even around his friends dont bother with him anymore because im going through the same thing hun

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Yeah it sucks he does talk to me, but I don't know I have way to many doubts with him.
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1.) YOU NEED TO CHILL OUT!!!
2.)He's probably just wanting to be a really great friend to you and maybe even possibly he don't know how you feel.
3.)Guys LOVE attention,their like dogs haah.He may just like it when the girl hugs him cause 1 u don't and that means a girl likes him...
4.)TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!!See if he likes you too and if no then just be friends honeslt no girl or guy likes a guy or girl without having a tiny bit of feeling for them I mean at least he tries to fix thing when your mad at him so he obviously don't want to lose you.
5.)DON'T 4GET HIM UNLESS HE BREAKS YOUR HEART OR HE STOPS TALKING TO YOU!!!
6.)He probably don't hang around you cause he wants to talk to other friends you can't hog a guy he needs his sp[ace and it's not like ya'll are dating so he don't think he has to be around you that much unlike if yall were dating...
Hope I Helped!!! <3

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we are not like dogs! if anything girls are the dog cuz lots of them are b!tches
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Haha I know I really need to chill out haha and know the girl that hugs him already has a boyfriend and she's cheating on that one with some other kid in my class and she for some reason doesn't like me because she knows I like him that's why she does it and I know he needs space but he never is around me It's always when there's no one around or if I'm with only one of my friends
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If he doesn't want to do/ say anything in public, he's not the right person. If he loves you then he wouldn't hide it from anybody. I'd say move on

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Yeah I think so to I just wanted to see what other people though
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Good luck :)
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Tough luck kid, its kind of hard to say this but if the other girl doesn't start falling through, you might as well give up sista.

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The other girl doesn't like him she has a bf and she's cheating on that one with another one and the boy I like is in the same class as the boy she's cheating with and she knows I like him she just hugs him to make me mad which I don't know why because I never did anything to her
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Ignore him

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I think so too
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It sounds to me as if he is possibly just stringing you along. I think you definitely already know in your heart this may be the case. You have too many doubts inside and are questioning the validity of his feelings towards you, there's many red flags around as to why it is probably best you just let him go. There could be a slew of reasons as to why he acts somewhat interested in you and then doesn't but really in hindsight it doesn't matter because he's not giving himself 100% to you like you deserve. I think you should start highschool off fresh and find a boy who is going to respect and care for you. I hope everything ends up well for you.

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Yeah that's exactly what I'm thinking and what majority of people basically think so I think I know my answer now
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I meant to say yes and what she said here lol
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Haha yeah ik
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*i know
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he prob. likes you but he prob. wants to bang the girl who us hugging he. most likely thinks that you are to classy to hook up with him so he is keeping his options open ...js i no it's just a hug but if he really wanted just a hug he would have asked you to give him a hug. or maybe he thinks that his friends don't like you so he doesn't want them to see you guys hanging out and stuff

- I am a guy and I know how guys think so I think that my opinion is more truthful then the girls who commented because they don't really know what guys are like/

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Yeah but that girl always ask him for hugs he never asks her and she does it on purpose cuz she knows it upsets me she has a bf and she cheats on him with some other kid that I have in the same class as the boy that I like so even he can see what type of girl she is and I really don't know it's more like the other way around the majority of the school hates the boy I like because he's supposably "thinks he's all that"
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yes, what she said :)

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Agreed
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Honestly, he just wants to have his fun and maybe keep you around for back up. You're both young, so I suggest you do the same. Go out and have fun with others, if he likes you he will start to chase.

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That's what's happen to me to I'm very confused

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I know it's very confusing :/
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