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livlafluvlizzzy: 1 year ago via iPhone

How do I build up self-esteem?

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gatorblu: 1 year ago

One thing is to stand tall and walk with your head up and shoulders back. You will look confident. Once you appear confident people will treat you with respect. Their respect will feed yours.

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TexasDogMom: 1 year ago

This is definitely true, Blu. Roll your shoulders back, hold your head up high and walk and sit with this posture. Look at people as you pass through the hallways, smile at people you don't know and don't give a darn if they don't smile back. Behaviors lead to feelings, Lizzy. It's called "fake it till you make it," and it just means do the actions, and the feelings will follow.

This is a challenge to you, Lizzy. Take this on and just do it. You will be surprised at how your confidence will rise, day by day, until you feel comfortable living this way. Good luck!

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bowler156: 1 year ago via iPhone

Matters by why you need it.

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TexasDogMom: 1 year ago | Last edited at 10:25PM on 5/31/2012

The way to build true self-esteem lies in facing challenges and overcoming them. Self-esteem is simply believing yourself to be a competent human being who can handle the hard stuff as well as the easy stuff. People can tell a child how wondrous and perfect s/he is forever, and it won't build one ounce of self-esteem. The only way to feel truly self-confident and assured is to face down challenges and rise up to meet them.

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shaylen: 11 months ago

I think people do have an affect on each other's self-esteem.

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TexasDogMom: 11 months ago

Of course they do, especially peers, and especially teen and twenties peers. But a person who knows herself to be a good person, and who believes she can handle whatever might come her way, stands a much better chance of weathering pissy little peers.

I don't believe that a mother can talk her child into having true self-esteem. The child might believe it when mother tells her that she is a smart, beautiful, wondrous little creature, but the first time she faces a crisis, like the first time she finds out that she really isn't all that smart, she will crumple completely.

If mother had instead given her daughter tasks to complete, easy ones at first, of course, with just enough help that the child can master the task, and she does that throughout the child's life, with ever more complex tasks and ever decreasing help, the child will learn what she is good at, and being good at things builds self-esteem.

This isn't all there is to self-esteem, I know that, but it's a very important part of it.

Are you in college now, Shay? What are you studying?

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Cjkenkel: 1 year ago

You build self esteem by learning to love YOURSELF. Do nice things for yourself. Get a manicure, a pedicure, heck go get your hair done. Buy a cute outfit that you love, that makes you look good. Do nice things for other people. Look in the mirror, and instead of pointing out your flaws, tell yourself all the things you love about yourself. Smile, you ARE worth it! <3

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TexasDogMom: 1 year ago

Spoiling yourself doesn't build self-esteem, it only breeds conceit. But, doing good for people who are in need WILL build up your confidence and your compassion. So you got the important part right, CJ. :-)

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Cjkenkel: 1 year ago

By doing something nice for yourself when you are feeling low, first is NOT spoiling yoursefl. Second, how is it being conceited to feel good about how you look?! I like doing nice things for myself, every once in awhile. It helps me feel better about myself. And I am one of the least concieted people I know. So think as you wish, and talk as you wish. If this helps someone feel better about themselves, then I have done my part. Thanks.

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TexasDogMom: 1 year ago

I understand what you're saying, CJ. I would be thrilled if I had extra cash for a mani or a pedi once in awhile. I haven't had a good massage for over fifteen years.

Please don't be upset, CJ. I'm not picking on you or trying to hurt your feelings. I'm glad that you feel good about yourself, and I wouldn't want to try to make you feel bad. Trying to help young women find their personal power is what I'm all about, and self-esteem is critical to that. Are we okay?

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Cjkenkel: 1 year ago

You can't judge the people who do have the money to do nice things for themselves, by saying they are conceited.

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mairzyd: 1 year ago via iPhone

TexasDogMom is right. The best way to build your own self esteem is by doing something that helps others. There's nothing that you can buy in a store that will increase your self esteem. When you do something good for someone else, you feel good about yourself-it never fails.

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MichaelHarrick: 1 year ago

The best to accomplish your self esteem is by simply understanding and to appreciate your worth. You have to realize how important and how beautiful you are.

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mswhite56: 1 year ago via iPhone

Also lizzy, stand up for what you believe in, respect yourself and never, NEVER accept 2nd best! You deserve all that life has to offer!! Grab it ;))!!

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Firebombs: 1 year ago

Accept yourself and don't say things like "I'm so ugly".

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mswhite56: 1 year ago via iPhone

The less you degrade yourself, even if you think you're kidding, the more confident you'll be!

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Firebombs: 1 year ago

Indeed :)

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joshuwahr: 1 year ago via iPhone

Love yourself. Accept your flaws in a nonjudgemental way. Meditation might help. So would exercise, healthy eating and a lack of chemical abuses.

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PsalmBody: 11 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 12:09AM on 6/1/2012

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pious666: 11 months ago via iPhone

Acquire knowledge & learn to utilize them. Know your limitations & overcome those. Be honest to yourself in private exactly the same as in public.

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brittybee: 11 months ago | Last edited at 3:29PM on 6/1/2012

think of how great you are and how you deserve to be respected. wear what makes you feel pretty and say whats on your mind! remember there is no one else out there who can be you! only you can!!XD

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