Am I over reacting?
I know this is long, but please read
A couple months ago my husband had a text from a female friend saying I miss you darlin. And he responded "aw darlin.. I love that"... I accidentally saw it and I scrolled up and saw a msg saying I love you. I asked him what was up and he flipped out and asked me why are you going through my stuff? .. He deleted the messages so I never saw the rest of the conversation. We almost divorced over it because I didnt feel like I could trust him. He said he was upset because he thought I was checking up on him (because his ex wife did that) and that made him mad. We talked a lot about it and worked it out. He promised he wouldnt do it again. Today I saw this random picture of my sisters cleavage(who I jnow he is attracted to because he asked her out 2 yrs before he and I met) in his phone and he said it was an accident, but cleared out of it and deleted like 4 pictures from the thumbnail viewer so I couldnt see what they were and said he deleted them because they "looked bad". I think its just a huge trust issue(like he doesnt trust I wont freak out over something non important and Im not sure I trust that he isn't deleting them because there is more there)..im a huge believer that a relationship is nothing without trust and really considering the possibility that we should split. Opinions would be greatly appreciated! Overreacting or being reasonable?.