I suggest he gets off his lazy butt and cleans the house himself! He is the stay at home parent, so what does he do all day while you are working your butt off? If he is home taking care of the kids, part of that is cleaning up after them and himself. I'd be telling him to shut up and do it himself or get a job that will support the family and if he doesn't want to then he'd be getting a new wife to treat like crap cuz I'd be kicking him to the curb.

You are a grown woman...aren't you? You should already know the answer. Of course it's not right. Geez

BeanieQueen: 11 months ago

C'mon...give her a break. She's already got her husband jumping down her throat...

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Your husband should appreciate you for the fact that you do most things after coming home from work. However, you should not get angry when you find the house messy, since not all men can maintain tidiness around the house. Your husband should understand that you try your best to organize the house, especially in the presence of the kids.

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I really can't put it better than mamamimi, but in the interest of there being several answers saying that he needs to step up and help you out more, I'm adding my agreement to what mamamimi said!

Now you know what every responder is going to say. We will all trip over each other telling you what a lazy, good for nothing, old man you have. You can than print it out and show it to him.
My question would be, if what you say is true, how did you get yourself into this situation? Why did you let it go so long, and what made you suddenly realize it was not an equitable situation? You apparently set it up. You must have thought it was fine for a time.
Our lives change, and sometime there is a need reevaluate our relationships and our positions in a relationship. This is natural and healthy. If you do it thoughtfully you relationship may grow. If you do it in an accusatory fashion it may not work out the way you want it to. Be gentile.

It is evident that you are hurting and I’m sorry about this situation. Check out this article http://bit.ly/JZzJIO; it might help you on how to deal with his anger in a particular situation. Meanwhile, you may take comfort reading this article series here http://bit.ly/Iv1b3y, and here http://bit.ly/HqopnL . Both talk about communication and conflict in marriage. I'd probably think counseling is best for working these difficulties. I'm with Focus on Family and I thought you might interested to know that they have licensed therapists who would be happy to chat with you and perhaps offer you a referral in your area, at no cost to you. You're in my prayers. Grace and peace to you!

My husband and I had this situation ourselves not that long ago. I found that by explaining things to him calmly worked. I pointed out that being a parent/ spouse was now his "full time" job, and that he was responsible for most of the care of the home. I would help and do my part, but it was his job to keep up with most of it. As said by previous posters, if they don't like the terms, then they can get the better job. Till then, they are to take pride in what they do at home, and do it well. If he is not capable at this time to be the bread winner, then he has to be the bread maker. Plain and simple.