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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Is wanting better than having? Please see details.

You know how when you really want something or someone, that feelling that really gets your fire going? Well is that feeling actually better than the satisfaction of getting that person or thing? Is the saying "wanting is better than having" acurate?

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tonifitch: 11 months ago

It depends on what you want. If it is an item, and you do receive it with no difficulty, you will probably get tired of it.
I had to pay for my own class ring,saved my money and earned it. The ring was very special. If my parents had bought it for me, I would have liked it but appreciated it more..I don't think so.

Not sure what you mean about wanting a person...if it is a true respectful relationship..go for it. If it is for sex, you might just take the moment, abuse it and feel cheap about yourself, so yes, desiring it is better than having it because having a whim or something like that, isn't meaningful.

I do know that it is better to give than to receive because I have had many blessings come my way. There is no better feeling than to know you have put others before yourself or shared what you have been given. I do enjoy helping others. It is all about what you expect from life and how you look at life.
Yes..wanting is better than having.. You appreciate what you have so much more. God bless:)

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Not neccessarily about sex, more about the feeling or passion of having something over wanting it. There is probably some chemical brain reaction that takes place in wanting that is more powerful than having. I am undecided as to which feeling is better.lol

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tonifitch: 11 months ago

Life is amazing...Funny how people look at it. I have never been a material gal but I like nice things or traveling ,but most important to me...my family....it trumps anything material.. all the best:)

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I actually have simplified my life so I can get more enjoyment out of it. having less so you can do more. Know what i mean. If I have $100 bucks in my pocket i will spend it on a good time rather than something material. I think that defines living for me

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tonifitch: 11 months ago

You have the right idea..You are making memories..The kids and adults are too into material things,,A little is good, but most abuse the good life.A walk in the woods, A bike trail, the ocean..Nature.You know, stop and smell the roses..
If you don't get the latest ipod..who cares..Oh..don't get me started hahaha..

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Funny Toni, I'm still listening to cd's lol Thanks Rob

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Thanks for the heads up! will pay attention to that warning in the future! :):)

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I agree, and that is one of the main reasons I like this site and I don't want anything to hamper my interaction with so many nice people. Thanks

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I already unfollowed him. let's see what happens. will proceed with caution.

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I didn't know that. will do thanks

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I left a comment on that depression question, And I hope that clarifies this situation for him. thanks for the heads up

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gatorblu: 11 months ago

It depends on what it is. In the case of true love, it is better having it. As for most material things, yes. Too many people attach status and self esteem to objects. Once you get those objects you soon find out they really haven't changed a thing. You are still the same person.

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Thats true but some people want someone for a really long time and then when they get that person, its not what they expected or the energy is not as strong as when they were wanting that person. The actual feeling of wanting might just be more exciting and pleasurable than having.. Even though I see your point when it comes to human interaction you want to be with someone Ya know?.

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gatorblu: 11 months ago

Most people who want someone have this idea about them. I don't know anyone who can live up to what some people expect. Real life is not all sunshine and roses, and to expect everything to be that way all the time is just fooling yourself. Also people have many sides to them and their public persona can be very different than the private one. Once you are dating that person and start to see all side you really don't know that person.

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I agree 100% with that statement. people see one side of you but aren't very excepting of ALL sides of you which in turn makes you shield your true personality at times. Once in a while you come across someone who admires your weirdness

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Partypop: 11 months ago | Last edited at 10:10AM on 6/2/2012

Well I would rather have an iPod Touch then just want it, now wouldn't you.
PS iPod Touch was just an example. Just to stop any further questions.

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Well yes so you get the ipod touch , you fiddle around with it for a month or two, and than you have an urge....................... The ipod GOLD, PLATINUM, with the extra doo hickeys just came out and all of the sudden your ipod isn't as appealing as it was a month ago. You know I am right..so then you get that high that wanting urge again and before you know it you are standing in the rain over night, the 78th person on line outside an apple store. Get my point?

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tonifitch: 11 months ago

right on! :)

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Ya:):)

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s.elleann: 11 months ago via iPhone

I don't agree with that. When I want something I obsess about it constantly and it gets in the way of other things I need to be doing or thinking about; when I have something that I wanted, that's no longer an issue and I'm happy to have it. When it comes to love, wanting someone may give you butterflies, but it's also stressful and it hurts. Actually having the person that you want and knowing that they want you too is the best feeling there is. So personally I think that having is better than wanting, although I will agree that having something after wanting it for a long time amplifies the good feelings.

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

Thanks I appreciate your insight on the matter:):)

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Drob3023: 11 months ago

yes wanting is better/greater than having

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winetastergirl: 11 months ago

I'm curious why do you think it is?

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dancingPhotons: 11 months ago

once a person has something, he really doesn't care (in some cases). the desire then, which he has when he wants it, dies.

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winetastergirl: 10 months ago

Good point. I guess desire is like a high. I see people waiting in line over night for the latest video game or gadget. 2 weeks later the same people are selling it on Ebay. Seems like an endless cycle to me.

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dancingPhotons: 10 months ago

yeah you got my point :)

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