Use your common sense, abuse is not a good thing, regardless of the circumstances, you stay in that relationship, and youre giving the message that what he did is ok.
Ask him why he did it, talk it over with him calmly, if there is a reason try and sort it out.
If he slapped you for no reason he needs mental and relationship help
No woman should ever be hit. You've been through a lot, but is this how you want to live? It's never a good sign when a man physically hurts a woman, especially when you're fighting over nothing important. It is up to you, but I suggest to watch him. If this continues, it's a necessity that you leave.
you should leave town for a while and if you should leave or give him a second chance. if i were you i would leave town for a week then come back and give him a second chance
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Go to the police. No one ever has the right to hit another person. Ever.
Stop pissing him off.
Honestly if it happened once theres a big chance that it will happen again. If he can't control his anger he can't be a family man. Maybe theres something he's getting into that could be making him act this way? I would confront him on it and say "u know that really hurt me and i wont accept that kind of behavior.. What made you do that to me?" ik it sounds childish but he acted like one and needs to be told. If he ever hits you again call the police RIGHT AWAY. & get a divorce. Don't even hesitate. You don't want to be stuck with him all your life living in fear and being trapped in an abusive relationship. I'm not trying to scare you or tell you that it will turn out that way because who knows it may never happen again. But if it does police & divorce! keeping you in my prayers. God Bless
Needhelp? Why would you ask him why he did it? Like , you mean there is a legitimate excuse, girl, get your children go to the police station, file a criminal report, and a restraining order. He will be forced out. Next day, get an attorney. Don't ever ever ever let him do that again! If he does it once, it will happen again.
if he hits u tell him not to go to sleep because you'll take a bat to his head, I'd he hits you once he'll do it again put a stop to it before it esculates to something worse
Well lets see he committed assault and domestic/family violences and then you turned around and did the same and then he committed aggravated assault by threatening you more violence = you should of told him if he hit you again his ass would be in jail for now you would think about it all and see why you were arguing and how it resulted in assaults and violence (especially in a car going down the road putting you /him and everyone else around you in grave dangers - you could over look it - though you never said why yall was arguing and he said he would hit you again == there is EPO s - DVO s why should you leave when he can and can be made to leave and never come back
Find a neighbor, friend, church, family member. You need to be far away from him. My advice is leave, however because you have no money, nowhere to go, children, you are not in that position. If you stay it will happen again. It's a sacrifice in comfort right now, but you really need to address this, not take" sorry, it won't happen again "
FYI; I have over 30 years counseling women in abusive relationships. The good news is you already have the answer to your own question. “If I had the funds I'd leave him right now”. Now the bad news; “I was not raised to take an ass whippin but I stopped cuz that last one really hurt. My heart, pride and FAce!” “Im hurt and confused” From your own comments, it appears that this is not a new situation. Either (1) your 1st husband was abusive, or (2) your current husband has been abusive before, (either mentally, emotionally, or shoving you around) and you just don’t want to admit it to yourself. You did not say how soon you remarried after the death of your previous spouse, how long you have been married to your present spouse or if you and your sons ever sought grief counseling. Please consider this: If your husband hit you while driving down the street, you could very easily been involved in a serious accident. Where will your sons be if something happens to you? If your husband hits you, how long will it be before he turns on your sons? Your sons may be learning it is ok to beat up on women, is this what you want? Please seek help from professionals like the police!!!
You need to leave, I have seen it hundreds of times, people who hit in anger never change. It will slowly escalate, into beatings, leave now. file for divorce, and go somewhere safe.
i work with men at various levels that NEED treatment in various ways. at the min.. create accountability from and for him. make sure it is real and that he is (in) vested. create support for YOU in safe ways (for the children). clean it up. you WILL know immediately IF he is willing to do the work (and that is just the beginning). protect the kids and yourself first (likely leave if you can.. -make it happen if there is any degree of unhealth- to a safe spot for your safety and so he gets the message). i never know from "here" what the reality is (that YOU may or may not know yourself). i have seen situations (rare) where the abuser has taken immediate and full on going responsibility for a single act (and meant it) all by him/herself. did i say rare? dont let yourself believe something that you want to believe (again accountability and support).
I agree with Candybarr. I know it's a hard thing to do, but you have to.
Call the fuzz, Lady! You don't deserve to be hit!! No woman does! 9-1-1 is the right way!!
If he slapped you or hit you anywhere you should not stay with him. No one would ever hit the person if they seriously loved them. tell the cops that he hit you. & about your kids loving him that is a good thing but even though they love him you still dont need to be around him since he hit you once he will do it again. just divorce him there are plenty of others out there you dont deserve that! it will only get worse
It's never happened before? What was the relationship before this like? Loving? caring? Respectable? Or difficult, argumentative, name calling? If the answer is like the first three, I would tell him that that was the first and last time and counseling is mandatory to keep you in the relationship. If the answer is the second three, I would simply say its not acceptable and he has lost you. You made a mistake hitting him back you know that! However the history of your relationship is the predictor of the future.
Get help maby u can still save your relationship
DIVORCE HIM, and take your half of the money and watch as he goes bankrupt and the court will relize that he is not worthy of having kids and they will give them to you and you will live better knowing that wife beater is living on the street and you will have a good life.
do it once, shame on him. do it twice, shame on you.
Like you said, he's never hurt you in the past, but why is it happening now? There could be some factors now why he's starting to change. But regardless, he should never hurt you. It wouldn't be just physical abuse, but verbal abuse as well which means it affects you as a person. Go take a counseling: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/colorado-divorce.cfm . Your decision lies on your children's future. Ask questions.
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my own mom has been hit my her husband it was done in front of my little brothers and we gave him another chance and now because of his abuse we are moving before my brothers school gets back in because we can't stay another year its really to much
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Leave him and call the police. His reasons are not important if he was yelling at you I would say talk to him the next day, but Hitting your wife/Girlfriend is wrong! Don't matter if it has not happened before. The saying " once a cheater always a cheater" it goes with this only the word subbed for cheater should be abuser!
LEAVE HIS ASS IN THE DIRT! 911 IM SORRY BUT HE NEEDS TO GO
im about to get married july 8th and i know we will go through hard times wich we already are. When anybody has problems like this instead of jumping straight to the divorce route like most people do yiu should def seek oustide council someone neaither of you know like a pastor or phyciatrist. working things out together after both people are hurting this much is an unreachable goal. I hope it works out for you either was i hate seeing marriages fail thats why i would like it if you read my question so i can get a girls perspective on my relationship
if he hitting on you you need to leave him or hit him back cause no man supposed to hit a women because they hit on women is because they scared to hit a man and scared to go to jail
Dont leave him, dear.. Make him understand how much love you have for him. He must change himself. There is nothing so powerful than love.
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