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My husband just hit me in the face. What should I do?

This has never happened before. We've been married just over a year. We were in the car and arguing over something trivial. He's driving and just reached over and just slapped me. I swung back and he hit me twice more. And says he'll hit me if i keep hitting him. I was not raised to take an ass whippin but I stopped cuz that last one really hurt. My heart, pride and FAce! He's never raised his hand to me in the past and never even cursed at me. I thought we were so in love. This is my second marriage(widowed) and he's been a Wonderful Father to my children. My two sons have been thru alot and I dont want to take them from my husband because their so in love with him. Im hurt and confused. If I had the funds I'd leave him right now but we've put all our money into our business. Idk what to do.

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Use your common sense, abuse is not a good thing, regardless of the circumstances, you stay in that relationship, and youre giving the message that what he did is ok.

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I would get a divorce sorry

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Ask him why he did it, talk it over with him calmly, if there is a reason try and sort it out.

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If he slapped you for no reason he needs mental and relationship help

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No woman should ever be hit. You've been through a lot, but is this how you want to live? It's never a good sign when a man physically hurts a woman, especially when you're fighting over nothing important. It is up to you, but I suggest to watch him. If this continues, it's a necessity that you leave.

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you should leave town for a while and if you should leave or give him a second chance. if i were you i would leave town for a week then come back and give him a second chance

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Go to the police. No one ever has the right to hit another person. Ever.

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Stop pissing him off.

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I'll use "idiot" as candy did.. but i can tell you I have cruder words in my head to describe THAT comment. Ever heard the phrase "if you have nothing nice to say then dont say anything at all"?
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jordy... its guys like you woman cant stand!
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I beg to differ. I don't agree with her abuse, I was just using reverse pyschology. Don't piss him off, till u get the fuck out.
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Honestly if it happened once theres a big chance that it will happen again. If he can't control his anger he can't be a family man. Maybe theres something he's getting into that could be making him act this way? I would confront him on it and say "u know that really hurt me and i wont accept that kind of behavior.. What made you do that to me?" ik it sounds childish but he acted like one and needs to be told. If he ever hits you again call the police RIGHT AWAY. & get a divorce. Don't even hesitate. You don't want to be stuck with him all your life living in fear and being trapped in an abusive relationship. I'm not trying to scare you or tell you that it will turn out that way because who knows it may never happen again. But if it does police & divorce! keeping you in my prayers. God Bless

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Needhelp? Why would you ask him why he did it? Like , you mean there is a legitimate excuse, girl, get your children go to the police station, file a criminal report, and a restraining order. He will be forced out. Next day, get an attorney. Don't ever ever ever let him do that again! If he does it once, it will happen again.

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I totally agree. My husband has hit me many times and when I try to discuss it with him he denies it ever happened. His comment was...no blood, no bruises so why bother calling 911. I think he is right there. What will they do when they get here..nothing Ask him if he did it or WHY...they cant just cart him away on my sayso and Id be terrified to be in the same house as him when that cop car pulled off empty. We are not a young couple..he is not drinking so no abuse issue there..it is his ANGER issues and I am the one available. I cannot leave. In my state in order to get a legal separation u have to live apart for a year. How is that suppose to happen. We own the same house and are both retired. I have no funds to go out and find a new place to live...and, I will not leave my animals for a shelter . Just had to comment, never have before but the statement about WHEN is is EVER Acceptibal just got to me ... my husband of many years has told me to leave if I want to. Easy to say. but where to go.
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if he hits u tell him not to go to sleep because you'll take a bat to his head, I'd he hits you once he'll do it again put a stop to it before it esculates to something worse

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Don't encourage violence dude
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So, you're saying killing him will make it better?...I think you need to get some help
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Well lets see he committed assault and domestic/family violences and then you turned around and did the same and then he committed aggravated assault by threatening you more violence = you should of told him if he hit you again his ass would be in jail for now you would think about it all and see why you were arguing and how it resulted in assaults and violence (especially in a car going down the road putting you /him and everyone else around you in grave dangers - you could over look it - though you never said why yall was arguing and he said he would hit you again == there is EPO s - DVO s why should you leave when he can and can be made to leave and never come back

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Find a neighbor, friend, church, family member. You need to be far away from him. My advice is leave, however because you have no money, nowhere to go, children, you are not in that position. If you stay it will happen again. It's a sacrifice in comfort right now, but you really need to address this, not take" sorry, it won't happen again "

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FYI; I have over 30 years counseling women in abusive relationships. The good news is you already have the answer to your own question. “If I had the funds I'd leave him right now”. Now the bad news; “I was not raised to take an ass whippin but I stopped cuz that last one really hurt. My heart, pride and FAce!” “Im hurt and confused” From your own comments, it appears that this is not a new situation. Either (1) your 1st husband was abusive, or (2) your current husband has been abusive before, (either mentally, emotionally, or shoving you around) and you just don’t want to admit it to yourself. You did not say how soon you remarried after the death of your previous spouse, how long you have been married to your present spouse or if you and your sons ever sought grief counseling. Please consider this: If your husband hit you while driving down the street, you could very easily been involved in a serious accident. Where will your sons be if something happens to you? If your husband hits you, how long will it be before he turns on your sons? Your sons may be learning it is ok to beat up on women, is this what you want? Please seek help from professionals like the police!!!

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My first husband of 14 yrs was at times abusive but I fought back and eventually left him. He moved in with another woman and died 2 yrs later 2010. My current husband has never even threatened to harm me and i've known him since i was 16. Thats why this is so devestating to me. The argument was over rather to have my teenage daughter walk home from the salon or not. "trivial". Now its rather to leave my husband or not. The man that hit me today is not the man I thought I knew. I dont want to stick around and ever see that cruelty again. I feel like a real f@Kup and now I know theres no such thing as a happy ending.
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You dont need a guy to be happy. Leave this fool...NOW!!!! Trust me! I was in a violent marriage. Once he realizes he can hit you and get away with it, he'll do it again and again. But you already know that. Your first marriage was like that. Screw if you can afford to leave him or not. Swallow your pride, get over the issue of not having your :things," and get you and your kids to a womens shelter. They'll help you with the legal aspects, re-establish yourself and get your belongings. Your life and the life of your kids is FAR TOO IMPORTANT! Get the hell outa that house!!!!!
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You need to leave, I have seen it hundreds of times, people who hit in anger never change. It will slowly escalate, into beatings, leave now. file for divorce, and go somewhere safe.

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i work with men at various levels that NEED treatment in various ways. at the min.. create accountability from and for him. make sure it is real and that he is (in) vested. create support for YOU in safe ways (for the children). clean it up. you WILL know immediately IF he is willing to do the work (and that is just the beginning). protect the kids and yourself first (likely leave if you can.. -make it happen if there is any degree of unhealth- to a safe spot for your safety and so he gets the message). i never know from "here" what the reality is (that YOU may or may not know yourself). i have seen situations (rare) where the abuser has taken immediate and full on going responsibility for a single act (and meant it) all by him/herself. did i say rare? dont let yourself believe something that you want to believe (again accountability and support).

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What do I make a man Accountable for this kind of action if I plan on staying with him for now. All I feel is fear for our future, my kids, myself. Like no matter what action I take it will have a negative impact on the kids n myself. Im tired of running. This was supposed to be my place of peace and now its turned into a big mess.
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there are versions of assertiveness (including intervention/s). you need support. and need to be safe. this isnt about today/short term only. create a vision of what you deserve in this or in a dif version of this. make a plan and work it. you and your kids deserve safety and then fullness. in this kind of situation, DOING WHAT IT TAKES (the work) is not fun stuff. but it is necessary. get solid advice from someone in your real life. im leary of giving too much adv or you listening to some of these others as things get "thrown on the wall" sometimes out of their own convoluted and unbalanced positions
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I agree with Candybarr. I know it's a hard thing to do, but you have to.

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Call the fuzz, Lady! You don't deserve to be hit!! No woman does! 9-1-1 is the right way!!

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Take a picture if your face. Call the cops and gave him locked up

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If he slapped you or hit you anywhere you should not stay with him. No one would ever hit the person if they seriously loved them. tell the cops that he hit you. & about your kids loving him that is a good thing but even though they love him you still dont need to be around him since he hit you once he will do it again. just divorce him there are plenty of others out there you dont deserve that! it will only get worse

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It's never happened before? What was the relationship before this like? Loving? caring? Respectable? Or difficult, argumentative, name calling? If the answer is like the first three, I would tell him that that was the first and last time and counseling is mandatory to keep you in the relationship. If the answer is the second three, I would simply say its not acceptable and he has lost you. You made a mistake hitting him back you know that! However the history of your relationship is the predictor of the future.

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Get help maby u can still save your relationship

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DIVORCE HIM, and take your half of the money and watch as he goes bankrupt and the court will relize that he is not worthy of having kids and they will give them to you and you will live better knowing that wife beater is living on the street and you will have a good life.

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do it once, shame on him. do it twice, shame on you.

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Like you said, he's never hurt you in the past, but why is it happening now? There could be some factors now why he's starting to change. But regardless, he should never hurt you. It wouldn't be just physical abuse, but verbal abuse as well which means it affects you as a person. Go take a counseling: http://www.harrisfamilylaw.com/colorado-divorce.cfm . Your decision lies on your children's future. Ask questions.

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I would leave with the kids somewhere u know he wouldn't go and u can always turn to family members! :)

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http://www.asafeplaceforhelp.org/

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He needs anger mangment.. no one should every hit someone, peroid. for no reson! and if he doesnt want to get the help, then you and the kidds should leave. it only gets worst. no abusv person start off mean or they wouldnt beabil to countral you. if he beahved that way and you only knew him for a day you would have an ezer time leaveing, know what to do.
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You have to take action that will clearly define your relationship in the future. By doing something now may prevent what is surely to come later. More Abuse?

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Talk about why he did it

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my own mom has been hit my her husband it was done in front of my little brothers and we gave him another chance and now because of his abuse we are moving before my brothers school gets back in because we can't stay another year its really to much
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Leave him and call the police. His reasons are not important if he was yelling at you I would say talk to him the next day, but Hitting your wife/Girlfriend is wrong! Don't matter if it has not happened before. The saying " once a cheater always a cheater" it goes with this only the word subbed for cheater should be abuser!

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LEAVE HIS ASS IN THE DIRT! 911 IM SORRY BUT HE NEEDS TO GO

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im about to get married july 8th and i know we will go through hard times wich we already are. When anybody has problems like this instead of jumping straight to the divorce route like most people do yiu should def seek oustide council someone neaither of you know like a pastor or phyciatrist. working things out together after both people are hurting this much is an unreachable goal. I hope it works out for you either was i hate seeing marriages fail thats why i would like it if you read my question so i can get a girls perspective on my relationship

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if he hitting on you you need to leave him or hit him back cause no man supposed to hit a women because they hit on women is because they scared to hit a man and scared to go to jail

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It is NOT OK to hit- PEROID! Leave him while you are still alive

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Leave him! You don't deserve to be hit.

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Dont leave him, dear.. Make him understand how much love you have for him. He must change himself. There is nothing so powerful than love.

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My husband physically hurt me several times, too... I'm debating to leave him or not. His personality is like Hulk. He seems like a wonderful guy when he is not mad. He destroyed the house when he got mad, slapped on my face, pushed me on the floor and kicked me. He cruised me... I feel deeply sad.

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