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What do you tell your wife when she finds out you had an affair ?

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Wow that's a tough one. Best thing is to come clean first! It's better if she hears it from you. Beg for her forgiveness and tell her you'll go to marriage counseling or anything she wants. And it's up to her from there. I didn't forgive my husband and left him. My sister n law forgave her husband but 7 years later there's still trust issues. Once u break that trust it's hard to get back. I just hope ur truly sorry.

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Apologize & admit what you did wrong how you betrayed her trust & disrespected her as a women & that she should leave you & find someone more faithful since she wasn't good enough I mean you did have an affair so...

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Once that trust is broken its never coming back no matter what you so therea always.going to be doubt in her head that your having another affair.

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What can u really tell her to heal her.broken heart??.. Nothing Just prepare yourself to say its ok I forgive u when she decides to do the same thing to u.. An eye for a eye..just sayin

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The only thing you can say is the truth and if you want to save your marriage agree to anything. (Marriage Counseling) We all make mistakes, but that was a doozy.

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Ima a dumbass and didn't realize what I had in front of me !

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Be honest and tell everything. Never tell half the story. Update all your STD labs and start converting your garage into living quarters.

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Is she going to find out from you or through some other means? I hope it is from you first rather than letting her feel humiliated by hearing it from strangers or neighbors. Try to remember that one "oh sh*t",wipes out ten thousand "atta boys". You are in for a long period of winning back respect and trust. Good luck.

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There are not enough " I am sorry's" or "it will never happen again"... Be honest... Don't try to pin the blame on anyone else.... Let her make up her own mind if you are worth another chance... If you're lucky, you'll get another chance. If not, I hope you have learned not to take for granted what you have in front of you the next relationship you are in....

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Ask her how much she wants in alimony

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kalical
Start with all the money that was spent on entertaining the mistress with interest. That's a clean 5,000 a year just to start.
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Maybe 10k including the cheating spouse.
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You end all contact with the affair person through a formal no contact letter and you get yourself into counseling to find out why you did it. Go buy a few books on the subject. Answer all of her questions. Provide her with a timeline of the affair. Both get tested for STDs. And work your a$$ off to prove yourself to her. You need to be completely transparent with all cell phones, email accounts, passwords, your whereabouts, etc.

Was it worth it? Was the OW worth destroying your family? Do you think a woman who would have $ex with a married man is a good catch? You need to figure this out, take all the blame, and fix it. be supportive of her. She's going to need that from you.

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You don't tell her anything but to admit it, then you ask her from then on because the tables have turned, she is now in charge, she tells you!

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