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familyoffour2009: 11 months ago via Android

i need to trust my man...but i dont know how to when every past bf cheated...how can i trust him?

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cyber_sense: 11 months ago via iPhone

Tell him that you have a problem with trusting people but that you were not always this way. (Don't give him the specifics about past romances because that could become a problem in itself. It will be a turnoff.) Ask him for his advice on what can be done to make you feel better, more comfortable, and back to your old self again.
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Men like to solve problems. He will be flattered that you asked for his opinion. And you have served him notice that you have issues in this area. Hopefully when you say or do something in response to your fear, he will cut you some slack by not taking it too personal as if you did not trust him. Good luck!

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itzagr8life: 11 months ago via iPhone

I think you already know the answer. Sadly, he has proved to you that he can't be trusted. You deserve better.

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itzagr8life: 11 months ago via iPhone

Sorry, misunderstood thought he had cheated in the past. I agree you have to give him a chance. If it were me only one chance & tell him that up front. I always did that. I believe if they cheat once they will cheat again. Good Luck.

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ghopgood: 11 months ago via iPhone

You can't blame him with what past boyfriends have done to you. You will have to trust him until he gives you a reason not too. Don't drive him away with jealousy and constantly harassing him about what he's doing when your not together.

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kendra33: 11 months ago

Just get over your past. If he's your boyfriend now then he did something that past boyfriends didn't. So don't compare him to them

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jasonid: 11 months ago via iPhone

Do you trust yourself, and do you like yourself enough to attract a trust worthy man?

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SmittyJA24: 11 months ago via iPhone

Get counseling.
The man you're with NOW doesn't deserve to be measured by the jerks from your past!!
The issue is in your head, not by anything your current BF has done. Do him & yourself a favor & seek professional counseling.

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jojo2430: 11 months ago via iPhone

You have to trust yourself that you will be ok no matter what he chooses to do. Tell him you have trust issues and ask for what you need, to feel safer with him.

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cyber_sense: 11 months ago via iPhone

Green JoJo

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