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Last edited at 8:57AM on 6/11/2012
Tell them "I am sorry to hear that. What can I do to help?" Ask if they want to talk about it and if they do listen, if not let them know when they are you will be ready to listen. Do not become overly fussy and do not try to hide from it and them. They'll let you know what they are comfortable with.
Sometimes you don't have to say a word, a hug says it all.
Let them talk about it, sometimes just talking is a huge help. Hugs help, your friend will need physical contact because it really helps. Learn all you can about their type of cancer so you will be better prepared to help. Offer any help you can, a ride to the doctor when they are tired, meals for the freezer or fresh ones on treatment days, offer to clean house or arrange for maid service once in a while, cut the grass. Your friends family will appreciate the help too. Most of all if you see something that needs doing, do it, don't ask. Cancer can be as emotionally and mentally debilitating as it is physically.