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one_life

Should i leave them? Read on, AND PLEASE DONT DELETE!

okay so i have these friends that are really troubled like drugs, alcohol and stuff and i dont want to be around that, but to them i am the only person they have and i care about them and i have tried to help them and tell them its bad, but they dont listen and i dont want to be around them anymore,should i ditch them? or should i try to help more, just please help.

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I would say get some new friends who have your upstanding morals. Like it or not, people judge you by the crowd you run with, even if you're not doing it.

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Definitely!! Guilty by association
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Why would you care if other people judge you before you know you? Help the troubled kids!!!
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What the hell are you talkin about Steam??
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@Steam
you dont want a bad rep, cause if you do then you wont get a good job, you wont have any friends (well good ones that is) and you will just lose a lot if benefits
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one_life
Of*** benefits
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DItch, you tried once they didnt listen tell them to go get help and maybe you guys can be friends agian

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You should tell them that you'll be their friend again if they stop all that nonsence. Tell them you're risking your health just being around them.

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ellemacgregor

I would help them or get them help from someone else with prior experience. Ditching a friend when they are in a bad spot, is not what friends do...in my mind at least

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AgeofSinfoniaFan

No they're your friends...stick with 'em

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ya know what.. no because it doesnt even matter what they do if they're your friends stick by them..i went through some things and almost died because of it but if i didnt have that one friend who wasnt into what i was then i most likely wouldnt be where i am now so stand by them. no matter what.

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and no you dont need to be around that and i can tell it's kinda to much for you. but stay strong. if they dont want help they dont want it you cant change their minds all you can do is hope for the best for them and try to find better ones i know how you feel it hurts to watch your friends do that to themselves but if you try to hard your just gonna get sucked in and do something your gonna regret so try to move on. because they need support but so do you.
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Thank you! I really appreciate that.
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your welcome (:
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fritzmerde

Many of us run into this sorta thing. My best friend, saved my ass while in the Army,best man at my wedding, ragging alcoholic. Myself & a number of his other friends staged an intervention & took him to rehab, 3 times now. 3 strikes & your out, my wife& kids don't need to see my friend falling down drunk. So I've had to break off our close ties. I hope & pray that he'll come around, if he can get into a recovery program I'd love to have him over. We've been friends for 30 years,he knows he's a drunk, but he doesn't want to stop, I miss him a lot, but he's not my friend right now-it stinks but you need to take care of yourself & your family-by letting go, I hope he'll hit a bottom, & come around

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Sorry bout that... But thanks that helps.
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If you really don't want to be around them , find new friends . You can still be friendly letting them know you do not want to hang around people all the time that do drugs, knowing in your heart that you are the smart one. You really don't have anything in common with them .

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overtaker

I say to stay with em. They r your friends. Just don't do the same things they do.
Try and help them more. But don't be too pushy. Try and show them that there's more to life then just alcohol and drugs.
Ask them this: would u rather sit around doing these bad things to your bodies, or get out into the world, find your passion and live it?

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Thank you that helps a lot!
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u welcome! :)
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ditch them and until you do you are as guilty as them by association ..

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Stae widd them try to convince them aqen..
if they dnt listen juszt walk awae' im sure theyre qunna need yuuh && realize yu wusz riqht bout druqsz..(:

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rustyboilerz

Would it help YOU, if they pull you down to their level? Worse yet involve you somehow in the drug lifestyle they seem to enjoy? Just asking? YOUR CHOICE!

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one_life
No it wouldnt cause nothing will "help" me
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rustyboilerz
Ahhh! That is where you are wrong, only YOU can "help " yourself. It already seems you no longer wish to be around them, LEAVE! The lifestyle they have chosen IS NOT your concern, unless YOU allow it. Be strong, move on, SAVE YOURSELF!
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The "addicted " lifestyle is soooo "addicting "isn't it.
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This is rough. I mean friends are kinda hard to come by, but not impossible. IF you choose to stay around them and NOT drink and drug, then you are setting the proper example for them to follow and hopefully they would catch on. BUT it doesn't seem that people stop these things until they are ready, so in the mean while if you choose to stay with them, then you have to constantly bear witness to all the stupid things they do and that can get YOU into trouble just by being there. I wanna say ditch'em b-cuz they will more than likely not change anytime soon. You have a tough choice and I wish you the best in making it :)

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Thank you!
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ANYtime :) I had the same choice to make, and I chose to stay and do what they did and it messed up my whole life, so I know what you're going through.
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Keep on helping them and get them to stop but leave and get adult help if you are about to get sucked in

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From my experience, the kid is not going to be able to make his "friends" stop. They'll do it until they themselves decide to stop. This good kid needs to keep his life on the right track and not be pulled down by the trash.
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You need to leave them they could influence you
You might say they might not but it's hard to control
They need help
And they need Jesus

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