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MTL
MTL: 1 year ago | Last edited at 1:05AM on 6/17/2012

Is it a good idea to move in with your bf and his mom?

im 22 and his 23 lately my boyfriend has been bugging saying that he wants me to move in with him i would only problem is that he still with his mom ...his all his mom has shes a single mother the rest of his brother and 2 sisters are already marry and have their own lives ..they both depend on each other shes a great lady i get along with her pretty great but i dont want to take the risk of moving in 2gether and i know at one point we will get anoid of each other and ruin the relationship between me and her am i wrong for that or am i thinking the right way ? ps i have a dodgy and a cat i love like my kids that i would take them with me she doesnt mind the dog but she hates cats and im not willing to leave her behind what should i do

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reli
reli: 1 year ago

even in countries where that kind of think is the norm, its not a good idea. maybe find a place close to her.

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younme
younme: 1 year ago

i'd say hell no, this guy is a loser first of all.

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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
Green to the hell no.
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Kimber1911
Kimber1911: 1 year ago via Android
Green to the loser! What guy asks a girl to move in with him and Mom?! Train wreck!
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cyber_sense
cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone

Oh wow! Is it ever? Don't do that unless you are really looking for trouble.

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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
The truth is that I think it is a bad idea to shack up with a guy, any guy, but I am really old fashioned. I cannot help it, no matter how many people do it, I just cannot do it myself. To add someone's mother into the mix just sounds like disaster to me.
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slaavia: 1 year ago
Sounds like disaster to me too . . .ugh.
Thanx for ur comment on my answer :)
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justushill3
justushill3: 1 year ago

no because yall wont get any privacy

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Kuckleburg
Kuckleburg: 1 year ago via Android

You don't want to do this. Great lady or not.
Moving in would ruin everything.

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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
Agree Kuckle. Green.
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heartshapedpillow
heartshapedpillow: 1 year ago via iPhone

No. Not at all!

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carlcab
carlcab: 1 year ago

do not move in with a mommies boy nor should you date a mommies boy -- especially one boy enough to ask you to move into his mommies place

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nat4930: 1 year ago

i think no cz may be u & his mommy ok now with together bt after few weeks ago problems will begin between u & he & his mother & there will never be secret life for u,,, think clearly to be happy

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Verne50
Verne50: 1 year ago

When I was your age I moved in with my girlfriend and her mom. It was the worst mistake I ever made. I had to get out just to regain my sanity. Take it from someone who's been there. Stay independent. You'll be a happier person for it.

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MTL: 1 year ago
thnks i like ure advice many ppl put that his a mamas boy and u know wat is just thaat in our colture we respect our mothers and care for them till they die his mother raised 4 kids on her own and she has no husband i think he feels bad to leave his mother alone but since ive been having trouble at home he told me not to put up with it and i coulld move in with him if iwant but that we wur going to save money to move out but he will still like for us to go visit hiss mom so she wont b alone but ppl here just right aways jump in2 the conclution they dont think b4 they speak
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Verne50: 1 year ago
I don't necessarily believe he is a mama's boy. It is ok that they depend upon each other. But if he wants a commitment with you he should move out of the situation. He can still take care of his mom without having to live with her. Sorry that you are having trouble at home. Maybe you can find work and get your own place?
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MTL: 1 year ago
yea thats wat we are hoping hopefully it hppd thnks for ure advise and thinking outside the box not like other ppl
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Verne50: 1 year ago
Good luck to you sweetie.
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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
What a nice man you are. Green.
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Kimber1911
Kimber1911: 1 year ago via Android

Bad move! Way bad move! Her place, her rules! You'll have no say in anything concerning your life! And don't expect mommas boy to stand up for you. Mommy has him right where she wants him.
He's a loser! Two is company...three is a crowd.

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Kimmberrly
Kimmberrly: 1 year ago via iPhone

Girl don't do it .. Get jobs first get your GED like you talked about before get jobs and get your own place. Don't risk inflict with your mother in law :/ besides what about the kitty lol ;)

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MTL: 1 year ago
lol yea girl thts wat im telling him i told him lets get our ged then get a job save up and move in but he thinks his doing me a fav cuz i have been fighting with my brother alot and he feels bad for me and he told me to move in with him and still have the same dream but yea i think im just going to do it my way first :)
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Kimmberrly: 1 year ago via iPhone
Aw that's thoughtful of him to want to minimize your fights with your brother but you have to remember that siblings will always fight (: it's life! :)
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rainbee20
rainbee20: 1 year ago

no way

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markaylapete11: 1 year ago
yes girl
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markaylapete11: 1 year ago
u should
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slaavia
slaavia: 1 year ago

No...
Keeping a good distance(not too far, not too close either) is a ways to
maintain a good relationship with them, I think.
Also, your cat would be feeling stressed around a cat hater.

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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
No cat haters please. Green thumb for you! I agree.
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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
You know what you are talking about!
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BobbieErdman: 1 year ago via Android

absolutely not a good idea. you are asking for trouble. this is a sure way to ruin your relationship not only with your bf but also his mother. I think too when you live with them it is unlikely that you will get married as they say why buy the cow when you get the milk for free. your in for trouble with a capital t.

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markaylapete11
markaylapete11: 1 year ago

first tell him ok and when he start sto act up leave him!!!!!<3

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cookieroma
cookieroma: 1 year ago via iPhone

If you all want to live together, get your own place together. Besides it's time.

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cyber_sense: 1 year ago via iPhone
Nice one cookie!
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MTL: 1 year ago
yea i decided on that 2 thnks :)
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TheRavenAZ: 1 year ago via Android | Last edited at 2:42AM on 6/17/2012

Umm, he doesn't want you to move in with HIM, he wants you to move in with THEM, mainly his mommie who hasn't required him to grow up yet, probably because he's the last kid at home and she doesn't want to live alone. You'll be getting yourself in a world full of $hit if you agree to this.

The best way to become this woman's enemy is to move in and let her see (and hear) first hand how much you two are in love. She'll start to see that, one day, you two will move on, leaving her all alone, and before you know it she'll be sabotaging your relationship to keep him to herself.

If he wants to play grown-up with you, you two need to get an apartment of YOUR OWN, where YOU make the rules, make the decisions - and you get to keep your pets (definitely a bonus)! You two can do things you don't want Mom to know about first hand and she can visit - occasionally. :)

Suggest this to him and judge by his response how much she has him wrapped around her finger at this point.

Depending on that, it may be better to go find a guy who's already cut the umbilical cord.

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emilypoet25
emilypoet25: 1 year ago

And his mom? Definitely not.

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rsarnol: 1 year ago via iPhone

It's a different story if his mother is disabled or something and requires someone to care for her. But aside from that hell no, it may be ok in the beginning but it will get old real fast. Don't do it!!

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