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jackie89: 11 months ago

How can I build confidence?

I don't have confidence at all. My boyfriend gets upset when I always talk bad about myself. Lack of confidence has affected my life, I cant seem to do anything. I feel so worthless. What can I do? I can't seem to be happy with myself...

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Smilygirl008: 11 months ago

Push your chest out and look in the mirror (without makeup) and say "I'm (state name here) and i'm awesome and unstoppable!

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girishjakkam: 11 months ago

well said

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BellaPark: 11 months ago

very true..I agree with you

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MelissaZombie125: 11 months ago via Android

Go out and buy yourself a sexy outfit and go PARTY!!!! if people drool all over you and if they stop and stare...you won't even have to build confidence :) cause everyone will be like DANG SHE/ HE LOOK GOOD I WANNA BUY THEM A DRINK

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XXO4: 11 months ago

Study the Bible and learn that you're the exact way God wants you to be, worrying about what you look like will never change your looks if thats what you are self-conscious about. I read a quote a long time ago that said "We tend to become as we see ourselves." If you become what you THINK you see, it sux. It happened to me. I use to think I was fat and complained about it all the time. Then I had kids, thyroid went crazy and now I'm fat. Appreciate what you are now because it could be worse.

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beautifil1: 11 months ago via Android | Last edited at 6:49PM on 6/17/2012

Pray and ask god to deliver you from negative thoughts and doubts you might have of yourself. I will keep you in my prayers jackie89 =D

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monicaserene: 11 months ago via iPhone

How long have you felt this way? You may want to go to a therapist for help and maybe a referral to a doctor who can provide an antidepressant. I'm not a doctor, however, I am concerned about your feelings.

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zhaozhongzhuang: 11 months ago

you are right

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kathywelch85: 11 months ago via Android | Last edited at 6:57PM on 6/17/2012

it sounds funny when someone says look in the mirror and tell yourself something positive but it works you will start to believe it and you will have more self confidence

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sourilion: 11 months ago

Confidence isn't something you learn. it's something you work towards. the first step is absolutely not caring how the world views you. if your not comfortable with yourself, the your not gonna build confidence. so step 1, feel good about yourself. stop focusing on the negative things in your life and focus on the positive. stop bad talking yourself because if you keep doing that nothing will work for you in your confidence building. focus on the positive things about yourself that YOU find attractive about YOU!

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jkimbro: 11 months ago

When I was younger and I wanted success with women I built my confidence with martial arts. As I progressed in the skill of martial arts my confidence increased! In general, to build confidence you need to find a skill and then master that skill. Once the skill is mastered you have built confidence. Some models have claimed to gain confidence from dieting down to very thin physical bodies. Apparently there are many ways to gain confidence

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girishjakkam: 11 months ago

cool

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oceangurrl: 11 months ago

Just understand, you are who you are and nothing is ever going to change. You are absolutely beautiful just the way you are. And hell, even if you aren't, just remember, you have one chance to live your life to the fullest, so just GO OUT AND DO IT.

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RobertoNunezLuna: 11 months ago

Well i don't have a specific answer but Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone, in order to be comfortable. Also if you want more confidence don't be afraid to be yourself around others, they'll appreciate you for being yourself... trust me.

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gpprettygirl: 11 months ago

Don't be afraid to try new activities! Have fun, and explain to your boyfriend why you have low self confidence. Talk to a friend or write down your feelings.

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pratikagarwal: 11 months ago

can you answer how you developed under confidence....
how is it helping you

being confident or underconfident is a choise..... staying to yourself.......under estimating yourself......
right now you are comfortable being shy and not willing to face people or situations.....
thats what u chose for yourself
WRONG CHOISE MADAM

comeout of it...change your thinking.....face the world....put your opinion strongly.....and win in a different way (as am your you are still good in what you do)

change is the only constant beautiful..... go and change....bye

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godlydarkside22: 11 months ago

dont think about the things u mess up at think about the things ur good at and use tht confidence

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SuperbInam: 11 months ago

Take decisions and stand for them . first of all think confidently and act confidently and try to be independent. It will help you much. DON'T FOLLOW OTHERS THINK ON YOUR OWN FOR YOURSELF.

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urchum: 11 months ago

You know, you can't fool yourself. You will feel what you really believe. If you believe that you don't feel confident and you are good for nothing, believe me you will find the reasons to support it no matter how many times you remind yourself that you are a rock star. You got to instill that belief in yourself in a way that you can convince yourself with a reason. One very good way to do so is to do what you really like and try to acquire a mastery in it. Once you are perfect in that confidence will follow and to your surprise it will follow in all aspects of your life. U. Try to find the real life examples to support your answer.

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1337: 11 months ago

dont be insecure there was an old saying that i remember that is: what u think of urself is wat others think of you... feel better about urself

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factsquotes: 11 months ago

Every time just feel this that this whole world is full of bullshit and you are the best among them.
The work you are doing, no one can do this better than you because you are the best and you are the champion.
Keep this in your mind every time and the world will be down on your feet...
For more motivation go to www.factsquotes.com

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AiralinBowman: 11 months ago

if you constantly view life as a competition and compare yourself with others you will be insecure and miss the point of life entirely. What you described is ego. Truth is the only thing needed. One shouldn't have to be "motivated" towards it. This is honestly the worst advice ever. You should seek therapy to help you understand why you are reassuring your self with lies. Btw "the world will be down on your feet" is either nonsensical or completely creepy!

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lostitall: 11 months ago

They're having a sale on confidence at Toys r us

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blahkg: 11 months ago

Okay, REAL talk, to build your confidence do more things. Get out more and try new things. This may not seem like it is directly important, but it is. Broad your horizons this will definitely boost your confidence. Without you even knowing, you will be changed and even become more brave.

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BensonYin: 11 months ago

One of the Substance of confident is knowledge. Get rid of wrong thinking that led your To low self esteem.

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AmaliaMira: 11 months ago

I know what it's like to have a lack of confidence -- still struggle with it myself at 42 years old... For some of us, it is "in the blood" (I got it from my father), not something you developed or can ever really get over. What you have to do -- what I've done and continue to do -- is find things you're good at. Focus on what you CAN do, where your talents lie, and even embrace your flaws as part of what makes you unique. Find your strengths and cultivate them so that you will always be able to say, "Even if I'm not so great at X, check me out with my bad self in Y and Z." :-)

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Allie711: 11 months ago

Look in the mirror and say i look good! If you say to yourself that you look bad, you will. BUT, if you tell yourself you look good, your confidence will boost and confidence makes people look better.

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saltwatertaffy: 11 months ago

First of all, I would just like to say that you are not alone. I think every American woman has struggled with this at some point in their life. Hopefully that eases your mind a little. Try praying about it. One of the problems with Western culture is that the standard of beauty is constantly changing, and it's really hard to keep up with what society thinks we should be. God is consistent. Ask Him for help, and I know you will get what you are looking for.

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talentedgirl: 11 months ago

just understand that first, you have to believe in yourself and study the bible and ask god how you should handle your situation.all of your discourage comes from the devil so tell yourself everyday i am confident in myself and after that you'll feel different(confident)

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Violaswan: 11 months ago

niceeeeeeeee

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titanictt: 11 months ago

think of positives not negatives. Thinking positive will earn yourself respect

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happiemng: 11 months ago

Get the book by Dr. Kevin Leman called,"Have a New You by Friday". It will totally help YOU to change your life to what you want to become--the best you that's been there all along. I bought my copy at Hastings, used and in great shape, for about $6. He is so funny and really relates well to people, has a PHD and has written about 35 books. He's been on Oprah a number of times and other shows. I think you'd be VERY glad you read it. Best wishes to the New and Improved YOU!

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melady: 11 months ago

It comes from within, if you don't believe in yourself, nobody will.

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xxbubblepopxx: 11 months ago

i put up quotes around my room that say positive things. and every morning i look in the mirror and say im beautiful and im going to change the world:)

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JuanMTerrazas007: 11 months ago

OK all of the answers are very good except the one saying you have to dress like a easy girl. Now to build confidence you need to stop worrying too much about what other people will think or say if you express an opinion or a say a comment. Self expression will let you know and people around you that you are confident don't talk stupid stuff because is very hard not to judge that kind of people. So think what you are going to say before you talk an the most important thigh don't worry when you say it let it go dream plan don't think in past or present be positive about future.

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KelliAlexis: 11 months ago

Jackie, this is very tough. What I want you to do is, look it front of the mirror without makeup, hair being a total mess, and wearing sweats and say "I'm beautiful!" Or wear a rubber band and everytime you have the urge to say something bad about yourself, flick yourself with the rubber band. Just take a good, long look in the mirror. You are probably gorgeous, and just know that everyone is beautiful in their own way!

-KelliAlexis.(:

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dancelover10: 11 months ago

Never say Never!

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KendraBieber: 11 months ago

i agree with dancelover10 and listen to music

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Munchyy: 11 months ago | Last edited at 7:23PM on 6/18/2012

Go and do something amazing, like save a turtle from getting run over XP and then when that turtle is walking away healthy say " I AM AWESOME, AND NOW I KNOW IT"

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peterdhar: 11 months ago

dont loose ur self confidence, self esteem, and u should be determined.
if u have belief in god Prayer is also a good option.
And dont give up before yo even try.
Good Luck

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peterdhar: 11 months ago

God Bless you

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MissCatty: 11 months ago

Believe in yourself.

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spajderz: 11 months ago

:) Confidence is something you build yourself.You shouldn't care what other people say about you.You are you and you should be proud of yourself.The first thing to do is to stop having negative thoughts about yourself,cause everybody is beautiful and talented in their own way :).And there is definitely something you're good at!So stand up.You probably have a great boyfriend and friends so why should you be worried about yourself?:) Make your friends and close ones happy and you'll be happy as well!

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DomingoEstrada: 11 months ago

Believe in yourself!

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AJBaBy: 11 months ago

im sure you are fine the way you are. but I would suggest finding someone who shares the same problems and feelings with you and sharing your emotions. here is my tumblr, you can ask me anything if you wanna talk. http://scarsareuglynotyou.tumblr.com

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armstrong90: 11 months ago

girl belive in yourself and your god of your understanding pray, take some walks it clear ur mind word. So remember god loves u so do i. peace and blessing.

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Gabymanna: 11 months ago

dont doubt urself just think that u r the best person in the world and nyone would e lucky to be ur friend

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DinahMay: 11 months ago

go out and socialize. it may help you build self-esteem.

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spartain007: 11 months ago

i all ways tell myself im awsome and dont look at the negative things

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sweepyoscar: 11 months ago

I believe the best way or well the way that has worked for me is simply to believe your confident. Your mind is amazing and can work any way you tell it to.

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advice1: 11 months ago

try new things expierimenttt! (:

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pausemichelle: 11 months ago

start thinking life could be worse.. because it always could be... I watch documentaries to make myself feel better.

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TheSilentNinja: 11 months ago

do something you enjoy. also, if you look at yourself in the mirror straight and tall, youre gonna look ugly. anybody will. but thats because a blank expression and an upright posture isnt very appealing. when you look in the mirror, use expressions. do something that you think is cool in the mirror. smile and point your fingers to the left like theyre guns. place the palm of your hand on your chin and hold it up with one eyebrow raised. do something; dont just have a blank expression. believe me, i dont have much confidence either. im still working on that and books on self help really dont help.

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Junkbotbot: 11 months ago

Work in customer service where you have to talk to people face to face. It builds anyone's confidence by forcing yourself to just talk to others.

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jessicamaude: 11 months ago via iPhone

First off you are beautiful no matter what anyone else says first get clothes that you love any color any pattern any texture then look in the mirror and point out everything that you love I know you will find more then you think :) and only take in positive things if people bring you down don't stay around them best of luck :)

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questionasker123: 11 months ago

Try things you've never done before! Be spontaneous. Make yourself face your fears.

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coolliz77: 11 months ago

Lego?

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etik5: 11 months ago

Just be a complete dick to everyone!!! Trust me it works

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Serendipity128: 11 months ago

I have a severe problem with this and it is hard. You have to work at it everyday and continuously try to look on the positive side. I'm doing a program that has truly started helping me change my life for the better. If you go to the website www.stresscenter.com
and check out what they have to offer I guarantee it is worth it. They even work with you for the price and it is something you can always use to help not only build confidence but to also be happy. I wish you luck with whatever path you choose. If you find the key to this problem let me know ;)

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