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Is it possible to regain a long lost (once) "best-friend-forever" type friendship?

I had a friend, who was my best friend ever in my universe. We met for 10 years, well, I'm only 17 so 10 years is a lot of time. I knew him inside, and out. His house was like mine, and so was my house to him. Countless times have we done things together, and countless christmas and birthday gifts we gave each other. We, well at least I, didn't think that this friendship will ever end, as we couldn't pass time without each other. But, it did. Not only that, we drifted apart coldly. Long story kept short, it's basically him finding new friends and we hardly see each other during college life. Slowly, phone calls stopped and even text messages/Facebook likes stopped. 1 year passed with completely no contact with him at all. Well, his Facebook is still around and he's still living in his old apartment but we stopped talking completely, and became the coldest strangers ever. Now, during my birthday, everyone came to the party, and I had 523 Facebook "happy birthday" posts on my wall. Painstakingly, I read each and every single post on my wall, and he didn't post. I had a friend who shares a birthday with me and he had a "happy birthday" post from my ex best pal. I think he's upset and gave ignorance to me because of something. I'm here to ask about the possibility of us regaining contact, then friendship, and if ever possible, become best friends again. Undeniably, those friendship times were the most colourful I had in my life. Also, if it is possible to be friends, could someone tell me how, and maybe share some life experiences or happenings. I really want this priceless friend back, but I don't know his status or feelings. Every single helpful response will be deeply deeply appreciated (:

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YES! don't worry, if you think that he is a friend, then he is a friend to you. i had a best-friend in third grade once and by the end of the year, her best-friend was another girl. they hung out in fourth grade and by fifth grade, we were best-friends again. in fifth grade thirty new student came in, and i guess her "new" friend got a new-student-friend and forgot about my old friend, that year we were best-friends again. in fourth grade, i didn't talk to anyone, because i was too shy. now we are friends again-kind of-another new girl came in sixth grade and now they spend every waking moment with each other. i feel like the third wheel. anyways, if you guys have the same birthday, then, plan a special occasion for both of your birthdays. you would be able to meet his friends and he would be able to meet your friends. you guys would also be able catch up with each other, you guys could plan different times to hang out, too.

- Good Luck!

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You can become friends again! When it is his birthday, tell him Happy Birthday chat every once in a while. That's what I did when that happened to me!

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To get this unique friend back, first determine if your friend is mad at you for any reason by approaching him politely and asking about it. You can carry a gift with you and outline how the distance between the two of you has affected your friendship. From this point you will be in a position to make up if he is willing to.

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I would say go by his apartment talking in person is the best way to resolve issues so just write him in ask him if you guys can meet up in have a chat cause it seems as if you did something or he heard something he didn't approve of in instead of tellin you he backed away or maybe he found himself havin feelings for you in he didn't know how too approach you so he pushed you away it's all boils dwn too you two too have a looooooonnnnnnggggggg conversation WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK

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I think so. Seems like at that time you were in a high school era, who knows? He might got mock, many things can happened that you can't even be able to figure out. I believe your relationship towards to him is genuine and you were best friends, he knows. If I were you I would ask myself how badly you want him back. If you want him back you have to give yourself as well as him a chance and go for it. Now, be prepare before confront him. Just telling yourself that there's nothing to loose. You can earn him back or it might be as you are facing it at this moment. But well, you try and you got the answer to yourself. Best of Luck. ^^

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