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Is 7 years to long to wait for a proposal

he tells me he loves me and will marry one day. It feels like we aint getting any closer. We have a 6 year old son, we live together, we have had our up and downs but everyone does. I just dont know how much longer I can do this. I love him to death, all I want is to spend the rest of our lives together. Someone please tell me what the problem is?????

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Why should he marry you? He's gotten it all ( you, sex, a kid) without any real commitment, why change now? If he's not ready after 7 years and a baby, girl, he isn't ever going to be ready. Take your child and move on. You'll still get to see him when and if he visits the child.

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Green! Green! Green!
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I agree. :(
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Maybe he's just not ready yet. Guys are funny like that.

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Not really...people can wait even longer then that! sometimes people wait a long time because they don't have enough money for a wedding

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He obviously doesn't have to marry you as he is getting the milk through the fence.

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Well said!
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why marry the cow when you have the milk and chances are that is what he thinks and he is not apt to ..

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You should tellh im what you think about it. Maybe he`ll think about it more often.

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Seven years of devotion from you and he's still not sure you're the one for him? Its not going to happen. There are guys out there who long for a woman like you and you're wasting this kind of time on someone that doesnt want to make an honest woman out of you. Think about it.

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Right now your the one who has control of your relationship not him. Y? if u left him u could take your child and never let him see u or the child again. Legally the ball is in your court. If u marry him and he adopts your son and legally gives him his name then u loose control of everything just for a name and paper. If he doesn't want to get married and do the right thing No judge or jury will hear anything he has to say. He may be thinking he's in control but he isn't and never will be unless he marries u and adopts his son. Next time u have a hard spot take the upper hand and show him how dumb he really is.

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He's the father and most likely named on the birth certificate. She can't take the child and leave the state, he has rights to his child. Because he won't marry her does not mean it's ok for the child to be punished and be without dad. I don't think she would do this, it sounds like she really loves the guy, he doesn't sound like a bad guy... He just hasn't proposed ... In 7 long years. : )
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He is very happy, content, he has you, his beautiful child, you are madly in love with him. Guys think ..if it's not broke don't fix it. Maybe it's time for heart to heart, he sounds like the guy for you, he probably thinks you are happy the way it is.

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This is tricky. You love he might love you. But of he really loved you he would have married you by now. You can't ignor the feeling that he has commitment issues.

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