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How can I forgive him?

my boyfriend lied to me about something very significant about his past. he knew how upset I was, and he lied again. he later apologized after i confronted him about the lie and told me what actually happened (I hope) and asked how he can make it up to me, but I don't know how I'm going to be able to trust him after that. I don't know if he's genuinely sorry for lying to me or if he's just sorry I found out. It hurts because we are so close and tell each other everything and are honest with each other (or so i thought). hes always been an amazing boyfriend other than that and i love him very much. i don't want to end the relationship, but how can I trust him again after that?

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I am very sorry for your relationship experience. Maybe he thought that was the best way to protect his relationship. You can forgive him and promise him if it happens again, you will call it quits.

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Thank you, all these answers are helpful. I guess I'll try to just forget about it for now.
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would we believe we're just human? A wise man once told me that lies are things we tell ourselves and others to get through the day. Maybe he wanted to protect you and not hurt you. trust me.

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Thank you :) very helpful
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Awww give him one last chance and if he lies big like that again then I guess he's not the one for you unless you guys get back together or something :()

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My ex did the same. He always said he won't lie or hide anything again and ended up breaking every promise he made. In the end I was the one hurt, I would personally say let him go now before he does it again when your even more deeply in love with him which will hurt a lot more than if you did it now.

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Thank you :/ I don't know what to do
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Its personally your choice in the end. If this is the first time maybe give him a second chance but if he does it again leave him on the spot because he will always do it after that no matter how much he says he won't. I know from my own experience. Hope this helped
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Yeah this is the first time he's done that that I know of...thank you
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u have to forgive and forget, or next time u look in his eyes and ask him to tell the truth, tell that u trust him and don't be mad at him, just forget it

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