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What if you are in love with a person and there in love with you but you guys don't date but you still act like you date

I was in a realationship with this guy Austin we really weren't friends much but when I saw him I started to crush and he did too ! actually I made the first move and we. lasted for 2 months he held my hand we did everything together and he never hand anyone like me . but I messed up I kissed another guy -,- and some fake people found out and they told him and we broke up its been 7 months since that . we still talk still act like we date but we don't . we use the same date we fight like couples and buy eachother things . our parents. think we date and to be honest we dont . he said he needs time to think things over before we try anything but he also smokes weed and it messes with his feelings it's been 9 months and I'm deeply in love with him and everyone knows

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The drug thing is a real deal-breaker. There's a misconception that marijuana is not addictive, but that's wrong. Any mind-altering drug can be addictive. I have a friend who is hooked on it; it has affected his ability to think clearly, and has contributed to a panic disorder. If you can't help him to come clean off the "weed", it's time to cut your losses. Because, as long as he continues to smoke it? It comes first.

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Yes I agree , and I hate to see him suffer everytime he doesn't have it -_-
He knows that its not good for him but it helps him and i think he is protecting me from caring more about him and how it was effect us . Thank you for helping
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Avoid your feelings.

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What do you mean by avoid ?
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Yall still have feelings , which is natural. U kissed another guy despite dating or not( eveen if u acted like it) thst hurts. Move on or apologize and see

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How can I move on if he doesn't let me , he tells me I'm his and he will never forget me I can't move on if he is not giving me the signals that he doesn't want me
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Well if things arent the best then it is in your best interest to move on. You kissed another guy ha so i mean that says something. He wants and likes what yall have or used to thats why he wont let you go
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Apologize to him give him time to think and try and keep him away from the weed so he can think good it's worth a shot

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He is getting into weed not at a good age he needs to live his life rather then damaging it I agree with you (: I do apologize and he forgives but he doesn't wanna be committed because he feels as though I'll mess with his feelings but i changed from then that was in November it's June now
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Ya I agree it is bad at a young age gain his trust back let him figure it out ur better now than u were back then and teach him that was the past the old u think today love the new u hate the old u well I hope every thing works out :D
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If he doesn't stop the weed then forget it, or else he will always have mixed emotions and say he loves you one day and then will turn around and say he doesn't the next. My ex was schizophrenic and he was also like that. Its a hard thing to deal with and in the end you will be the one hurt.

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That's happening here and then .
I called him once and I was like hey babe (: and he was like I don't like you stop talking to me ! So I hung up and ignored him for a week then he called me and told me he didn't know why he said that -,- he wasn't even sure what he said but my friend said the best thing to do is try to help him and make him understand and if it doesn't work then try to forget about him . Trying to make his life safer doesn't work if they don't cooperate
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first its bad to go around people that do drugs.
so i think you should find someone that doesnt do drugs. ppl like that are ugh,ew
since you kissed a different guy that is wrong.
it seems like you must not like him enough.. that hurts the other person bad.
it made him loose trust for you .
but he may get back with you but idk since you did that,,just show him you like him & no one else
by doing things for him and hanging with him and he being the only guy you talk to..

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Thank you and I know it's better to find someone else but I already fell way to hard for me to get over - I kissed someone else in November it was a mistake and it's June now
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