You didn't include any examples, so I can't speak specifically about you. I would say to look at yourself, first. Do you think you are always right? Do you always have to get your own way? Do you lack the self confidence to be able to laugh at your own short comings, or mistakes? Do you lack a sense of humor? Are you incapable of debating? Do you lack the ability to see things from another point-of-view. If none of these are the problem, then maybe you have a good reason to me angry.
Personally I have a genetic mutation that has also affected my anger along with some other things (feel free to ask ill answer in 14 min because my stupid iPhone) but I use meditation that keeps my anger down
Does that mean u misbehave in a way that angers another person who also may misdirect now their frustrations & anger & so on...& so on? Alot has to do w/personality I believe. I automatically will start cleaning/organising(no matter where I'm at). It works to get me calm enough to think rather than react. Most important though is talking to someone anyone who will just let u speak your mind not so much to agree or disagree w/u. Just someone to "vent" to. Venting really helps me every time
The fact is.. it's just not worth it.. Keep that in mind.. "is my getting this mad worth me getting this mad?" I hate getting angry. N although there are times, they have been less frequent and way less volatile.. There was a good point early that was said. Sometimes being angry is called for. I believe too much will take years off your life. Right there with stress.
Whom may i ask controls your emotions... you or what ever it is that is "making" you mad? Once you realize anger is a choice of expression you "decide" to give into, you start to realize that control over anger is as simple as control over the choices you make... So make good choices!
You should ask your friends to try to make you laugh when they sense that you are angry. Even when I am angry and try not to laugh I just end up laughing when someone says something funny. Like in baseball, if I get out on a bad call and I am angry my friends will say something like "Which base was the ump looking at?" and things like this always make me laugh and my anger usually goes away.
Through asking the question (which you've done), being open to many different answers until you find the one that works for you, studying ancient methods and meditating.
We all have our "buttons" - learn which ones are yours, what causes you to RE-act in that manner. Every emotional button comes from past experiences and cause you to react to it. Action comes from being in the moment.
Anger, almost always comes from frustration - you want something to be one way, it IS another, the space in between is frustration which manifests as an anger response. Forgive yourself in that there is nothing wrong with this, but at the same time discover how your emotions and reactions are NOT you, they are just a bit of mental programming that SOMEONE ELSE gave to you over the years. While this can be understood logically, for it to truly work it has to be understood much deeper and that is where meditation assists. Breathing in and out is a form of meditation, there are many others too.
Gosh freaking dang it! How am I suppose to know? UGH >:O!!!!! Just kidding xD try to think of positive things and remember at what your mad at is all in the past and being mad can't change the past in anyway.
I have the same problem just hold it in as long as possible go home and beat the crap out of a pillow or if you are so angry you feel like you are going to burst take old glass plates and throw them against a wall and always keep one of those squishy balls on you
Just take three seconds to think about what your going to say or do. Say whatever you want to say nicely or just politely ask to walk away or change the subject. If it is online or something along that line you can always just ignore it. If it is a really big deal though, you can always bite down really hard, close your eyes, or take deep breaths.
Patients...patients...patients!! When you know you are about to erupt---smile, keep your mouth SHUT and walk away. We all need time outs to control our emotions from time to time too. You do not want to be fuel to a fire. Some examples would be calmly state, "I need time to think. I would prefer to talk about this later." Or “Let’s just agree to disagree.” And, “I don’t agree with you but I respect that you have your opinion.”
Sure this is easier said than done so you also need to PRACTICE…PRACTICE…PRACTICE.
If you find yourself anger a lot you may want to examine your life. And help yourself by seeking professional help in taking an Anger Management class. We all deserve to be HAPPY!
If you have children you owe it to them to learn self-control because you are there teachers. And believe me they are watching and listening to you on how you handle matters and how you talk about others. So think twice before you open your mouth in and angry manner.
Anger is an emotion that CAN make you DUMB.The key point is "can". If a person allows their anger level to get too high, it can impair their ability to think clearly and make good decisions. Have you ever done something dumb under the influence of intense anger?
I struggled with this issue all my life until I got professional help. Here's a simplistic way that may help on the spot: Personal vs. Impersonal (that person who just cut you off in traffic, maybe their mom just died and they aren't paying attention--it's not about you), Specific vs. General (it rains on everybody, the rain wasn't sent to ruin your day), Permanent vs. Temporary (it'll pass). Hope this helps.
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Personally I think that if you try to stop the anger it'll make things worse. Think that the ones that angered you don't deserve even to hit them. You can also imagine a pure gold light according colour therapy. There are more effective ways that you can find at the moment of the anger.. Some people that don't have a lot of control in their anger and hurt the people that is the cause of it. That's the thing that do to control it. Find a way that suits to your character.
Release anger. Paint a wall your least favorite color in your least favorite room in your house and punch a hole through it every time someone makes you mad. don't bother patching it back up. it's good.
Taking Deep breaths helps what works for me is writing in a journal and Prayer that's good for stress and too much stress can cause Anger and many have killed them selves due to that but for not dealing with the stress.
i just let it go and i for give the person Kill em with kindness, exercise also helps gets out the negative Chemicals from the stress and anger it releases the Chemicals from the body when we exercise that's one other thing i do.
and it stretches out your muscles and Hamstrings feels great after you do it and your focus isn't on what upset you.
you ever drink some nice tea and read a good book that's relaxing or watch a funny movie Laughter is very healing.
i used to write poetry and that helped not holding on to my emotions.
Watching funny movies, Prayer, Writing in a Journal, Exercise, Some Relaxing green tea and a Good book not all at once but just these work for me the Breathing exercises if in public but usually i ignore rude people so don't have lota problem with it.
anger is one of the things that stresses the heart the most. and ignoring your anger or not letting it go appropriately will place even more stress on your heart. visit a gym and hit a punching bag until your anger is worn out. lift weights, play a sport, talk to yourself in your room until your anger is released. throw your pillows at the wall, punch your pillows, kick a soccer ball. if you can find anything that will release a lot of your energy appropriately then go for it. the one thing you never want to do is ignore your anger. that will definitely kill you in the long run, no offense on the word kill part. thats a small exaggeration, but overtime it will shorten your life.
Surround urself with people who are positive, calm and not vengeful. Your social life speaks a lot of who you are and what you can become. Involve yourself in enriched activities that make you happy and bring a lot of piece.