Should I tell my son that his father abused me?
I divorced my son's father when he was 3 years old because he was on drugs, selling drugs, has a horrific temper, & most of all because he physically abused me. Our son is now almost 15 yrs old & has always lived with me, but is now wanting to go live with his father. I am scared to death for him not only because of what his dad did to me, but he has also abused our son in the past too. (For example, one time his dad beat him with a 2 by 4, but he somehow 'forgets' about these horrible instances... as kids do.)
His dad has been secretly going behind my back for approx 3 months now filling his head with lies & false promises trying to get him to live with him. (for example, he said he is going to buy him a new car of his choice when he gets his drives license, but my ex doesn't have a job or even a car of his own!?!?!)
I am very confused & don't know if I should tell my son the whole truth!?!?! I want to continue to be the bigger person, but don't want him to get into a dangerous situation... again! Should I tell my son about the physical abuse I endured? Please help!