Leave his stupid @$$ right now!!!!!!! Men and women should ALWAYS WEAR THEIR WEDDING RINGS NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! If he loves you,then he will put that ring on.If he doesn't well LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!! I agree with @DadE
There are perfectly valid reasons why someone can't wear their ring, and it's definitely not even remotely worth throwing away a whole relationship over. If a ring is all that is holding one's relationship together, then that relationship has other much more important issues at stake.
Also making a point of noting that unless he's actually doing something wrong, then not wearing the ring shouldn't be a reason to walk away from someone. If they love you, and you love them - then the ring is irrelevant.
I don't wear a lot of it myself, sometimes even just the extra weight of a ring is enough to drive me nuts.
Other things to consider are how long have they been married - did he used to wear it, and just suddenly stop, or has it been an off and on thing over the years?
If your relationships are so shallow that wearing or not wearing a ring is grounds for divorce .. I'm thinking your spouse is better off without you. If YOU do not have the ability to trust .. you should NEVER marry.
I would feel a bit slighted... he is married, that is why he should wear it.. unless of course he has other things in mind.., yeah, it would bother me.... so, I wouldn;t wear mine either!! then maybe he will re-think his theory.. lol good luck
No your not being a nag. He's being an @ss. Almost all married men wear their ring unless they are cheating.
Are you being controlling, paranoid or insecure? ... Remember trust, compromise and balance is key.
I see a lot of men wear wedding rings
No but the bigger question is why? How would he feel if you didn't wear yours? There's something deeper here, he's not telling. Instead of nagging, simply state that you expect him to wear it until he tells you a real reason why he feels he doesn't want to.
Well my husband doesn't wear one. Then again, neither do I.
If it's something that is important to you, then I don't think it's fair of him to dismiss it out of hand, so I would try to talk with him about how it is important to you that he wear it. However I also don't think that wearing a ring is necessaryily a "make or break" thing. As long as your marriage is strong and you aren't worried that he's out doing something that he shouldn't be, then a bit of metal on one's finger shouldn't make a difference.
Of course hubby and I have both had issues with our rings over the years, between his getting lost several times, work where it was too dangerous to wear one, and injuries, swelling where we couldn't wear them, it's clearly not all that important to us - where it might be to someone else.
If you don't trust you husband then a ring won't make a difference.
Some men (myself included), do not wear any jewelry. I play guitar and have seen men who have lost a finger when a ring had gotten caught in a piece of equipment. I almost hung myself with a neck chain, on a crane hook. If it hadn't broke It would have killed me.
Trust is important but so are digits.
Something is wrong...... Find out what he's doing...... It doesn't seem right
Even though I am no longer married nor a woman, I hope you don't mind my answering also.I wore my ring every day and when working in the factory wore a pair of gloves to keep from having to remove it for safety concerns. I agree with lilgumibear; he's being an @ss.
If that's the only reason he can give you, I'd be concerned. And frankly, suspicious. Do some "homework".
He doesn't wear one AT ALL? Yeah, you may have a right to nag. My only defense of his behavior is maybe the type of work he is in makes wearing a ring on his finger inconvenient?
I believe in rings, but a ring does NOT make a marriage. The issue here, is not the ring.. It's that he refuses to wear it.. Get to the WHY of that..
I'd only give him a pass on this IF he works as a machinist or mechanic. It is a legit safety issue there....
Otherwise... I can't blame you for being mad. And suspicious. I think he's got something going on.
May I recommend "cheaters.com"??
Im only 15 but it seems to me that you have a right to be mad. A wedding band indicates to other men and women that he is married. It is a sign of commitment and it represents your vows you made. It seems as if he does not want people to think he's married.
Well, does he have a good reason? My mom still wears hers, but that's only because she got it fitted so it would fit. Both my parents gained weight since they've been married (18th year anniversary was June 18th), so my mom didn't start wearing hers again until a few years ago. On the other hand, my dad doesn't wear his, because he gained weight since they've been married so it probably won't fit. It might go on, but might not come off, lol! He also doesn't wear it because he works on machinery for his job. So there's that. :)
you spent that money on it so b golly he best be wearing it! you be wearing yours right? or dont wear yours...see how he likes that.
Wearing a ring is a matter of preference. It's simply a symbol or token of marriage. Some like to wear them .. some don't. Don't think that if he wears his ring, that it somehow strengthens your claim to your husband .. In reality, that is simply not so. It doesn't make him stay faithful, nor does it ward off any other females from sniffing around.
It's not his ring that is important .. it's his commitment and devotion to you that is important. If you are confident about where his heart is .. no need to worry so much about his jewelry.
If you are only recently married, you may have some work cut out for you when it comes to total and intimate communciation. The greatest fear a man can have is to have his chosen partner become over bearing and controlling. Sad but true .. it sometimes happens shortly after "the ring" gets on her finger. You will have reasure him that THIS is not what that's about. He has to trust YOU as much as you are going to have to work on trusting HIM.
The only real excuse for not doing this is that his work involves working with machinery or something that could catch the ring and hurt him. I would ask him why, knowing it hurts you , would he even think of NOT wearing it, because it affects you and there fore affects how you feel about him knowing he us doing something he is 100 % sure you hate, yet doesn't care enough about you to stop it so it won't bother you or make a difference in how you perceive him.
Well some people get annoyed by rings, it may just be uncomfortable for him, it does mean he doesnt love you.
Catherine
9 out of 10 times when a man doesnt wear his wedding ring,they are cheating,they dont want the other woman to know or want them to think,theyre getting a divorce,i have a lot of friends who tell me this and,i went through it with a man,take your ring off around him,see if he even notices
As twisted as it sounds .. in the real world .. a wedding ring is a flag .. a challenge. If a women is attracted to a man .. or a man to a woman .. often .. and I repeat OFTEN it's BECAUSE they are wearing a ring. It's almost like an invitation for some 'fun' without strings.
It is part of the unity, commitment, and bond. If it is at all causing you to feel insecure (not your true self), you might have to take drastic action. Better to live your life with mutual adoration and respect than to question someone's motive...even if you have to change your life plan. It may not be easy, but there are wonderful men all over dying to share the mutual bond and to wear it on their sleeve so-to-speak.
some men are like that. try some different like a gold chain (neckless) or a nice watch that you bought for him.
I believe in always giving a person a choice before an ultimatum tell him a. wear the ring B. or we can tattoo our ring fingers with a ring to symbolize our committment you've made to one another. If he still won't wear the ring take yours off too keep your eyes open because if he isn't already cheating he is definitely leaving that avenue open to himself. Start being independent and earning your own money, having your own interest and being busy with a lot of different things. He will probably get nervous when he sees that you can have a perfectly happy life independent of him and change his tune. This will also get you prepared just in case you find out what the rest of us already suspect, that he is a loser that doesn't deserve a devoted wife. What ever you do do not lower yourself to his level and cheat. I always be honest and upfront in your relationship. If you do become tempted to cheat tell him your needs are not being met by him and you want to separate. Cut your old ties before you pick up the string to tie another knot.
you should try to talk to him about this i know men can be stubborn but you should talk to him about it maybe he feels it serves as a collar or maybe he wants a little more guy time so send him out golfing or start a sports night at your house but he should were the ring it a sign that he is married if hes cute you do not want women hitting on him so give him some space and ease him in to wearing it
In my opinion, the ring does not strengthen or weaken your relationship. But your concern for each other's emotions does. So if you've clearly stated that wearing the ring is a big personal value for you, he should respect that and wear the ring; your feelings should matter to him. Of course, his feelings should matter too, but it doesn't seem to me like he has a strong belief against wearing the ring!
Either he's having it worked on to impress you, he lost it, he gave it to a hobo, has trouble remembering to wear it, broke it, or just doesn't have the heart to divorce you. Or his parents forced him into marrying you. I hope it's just the one where he gave it as charity to a hobo. ( : You are not a nag. He needs to wear it to show that he cares and is NOT available. For all we know, he could be having an affair. Best of Luck!
If a guy is not wearing his ring that means he is trying to attract a girl. dont be a fool, he might be cheating on you. It could be pretty bad, I want you to know that even if your relation ship goes down the drain because of it, you need to talk to him about it .
Hey, I'm not a woman. But I personally do not like the feeling of any jewelry on my skin. I am planning to get married, but am also planning to get a blue tattoo where the wedding band would do. Call me new old fashioned. (Sorry ladies, I'm spoken for). :p
Also, I plan to buy her the Hope Diamond. If that is not available, it will be a combination of Sapphire and Amber (one for each of her different eye colors) and the biggest bloodiest diamond ever dug out of the ground (hey if it's already out, it's already out)
If he's refusing to wear it there might be a good chance hes cheating or not wanting to let people know so he can cheat
if he says that then i would respond to that by saying"ok then i wont wear mines" i would say that with a HUGE sarcastic smile on my face
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''how many men wear one'' ::Husben who are proud to be with thir wife and arnt bothered if the whole world knows. & want the wiffy happy!! =) ((right in to dr. phil!! I would love to see his input on this subject!)) I got your back woman!! us woman hear you loud and clear and I agree with you 100%
I'm probably too young to shed real light on this, but I don't think it's a good thing he won't wear his ring and I think you need to tell him that it upsets you/makes you feel uncomfortable. I think to be able to talk it through with him and tell him exactly how you feel will help you and hopefully let him see why he should wear his ring! Good luck!
I dont want to worry you but maybe he doesnt wear it because he is cheating?
As a man, I wore a wedding ring for the 20 yrs. I was married and proud of it. A man does not wear a ring because he wants women to think he is not married. However, I do know a person who works with high voltage that does not wear a ring,or anything else metal.
my husband always wears his ring even in a war zone (in Afghanistan right now), so no excuse
most all married men wear their wedding rings, im sorry to say this but, most people having an affair leave their rings at home, i know im only 13 but im not kidding about this and that is no reason to not to trust me
a lot of men that i know do were there wedding ring no excuse so i would suggest to let him know how you feel about it and tell him what you want from it
