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My ex and I broke up almost 2 months ago and till this day I am not I able to turn on the television in fear that I'll come across something that we've watch together, can't come across the songs that he likes or that we liked. can't eat the same foods. seriously I been eating just brown rice and spinach for the past two months and maybe I'll have ice cream here and there because I just didn't have any when we were together. I am disgusted with male attention I would tell them to eff off. I am scared of life, I can't think if being in another relationships in fear that there will be similarities between the two. Any advice to feeling normal again?

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maybe you should go to a counselor to get back to normal ways.

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Hi mjfan56 I've been looking into getting professional help. But they are so expensive
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I'm a Counselor. If you ever need/want to talk, I'm free of charge. I know it's not face to face but sometimes that's better. Email me anytime; rev.hosanna@live.com. I'll give you my phone #.
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Severe depression, you need to get professional help.

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I'm looking into it thank you
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I wish you the best getting through this.
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family saved me

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It sound like you are still in love with me believe me I happened to me, and you are terrify he's going to be with some one else, Is normal only time heals, does he want to go back with you or is it over for sure. I didn't eat for days and every time I hear my dog bark I think is him and i cant drive or go anywhere cuz we where like but cheeks, i miss him this is my x-boyfriend, i have another one but I still love my x live sucks!

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It is a done deal and I have accepted it. He moved to another state and that was it. I will always love him and no one can replace him. I don't want to be in another relationship ever.
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I know how you feel my x just left to alaska just like that in 08 and I cry for him day and night , but it was weard beacause i went to get some blood work done right by he use to work before and i saw him i thought he was in alaska, i passed by his work and his car was there he has been here since 6 months ago and we talked nicely hug and sad to each other sorry about everything I gave him my number knowing me that i have a boyfriend and we called each other ever night called him without my b-friend finding out and a girl answer and said you need to stop calling and my stomach dropped, is not that i want to go back with him i just don't want him with another girl selfish me but i can't stand it. My new b-friend know thank god i have him cuz i would not know what to do, i wish the best for both of us
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You're still grieving over your loss.

That's normal ... for a few days.

If this continues more than a week, seek counseling.

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I don't think I can ever get over the thought of losing him. I'm starting to think that time don't heal all wounds I need help or maybe I just need to let out a good cry.
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Counseling can help, to talk about it with someone and to have someone listen to you helped me. If things keep getting worse i would definitely go see a specialist, but other wise go talk about, and remember just because you ate it or saw it with your ex doesnt mean you cant do it again. Make better memories.

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I'll try thanks
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Take something that is breakable and smash it to pieces - small pieces. Sit at a table and try to put it back together. When you throw up your hands and throw it away, throw away any thoughts of putting this relationship back together. It's NOT possible!! How much of your life, your happiness, your well-being, your self are you willing to lose forever, FOREVER over something that can not ever be restored. I hope you are smarter than that.

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I am doing the impossible and never thought that I would able to do I my entire life. I'm in my third week of medical school :)
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Wow, that's a lot going on. Maybe that saying of "taking it one day at a time" would be the best way to go for now. Doctors are some of THE BEST people in the world, so you must be very special. Hang in there.
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Thank you
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Been there!!! Time heals all!! It took almost 4 yrs to get over that guy I was with for 1year! Now I look back & cringe at how gross he is!! But he moved on way quicker then I did.. He had a new gf within weeks of dumping me!! Best revenge is to move on & be happy!! Just give it time & keep busy!!

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Learn to do what you did with him by yourself. It will be hard. You'll never forget about him and the times you had together, but you need to make new memories good and bad ones. Getting into another relationship right now wouldn't be a good idea. First you need to work on being happy on your own, and then you'll start to feel like your normal self.

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First of all - we've all been there to one degree or another. Secondly, you need to get out of your own head - it's a bad neighborhood for you to walk thru right now. Thirdly, I saw this little 8 year old African girl on TV who had been beaten, raped and her arms cut-off by a raiding tribe. If you can't see how good your life really is - then sometimes you need to look a little harder - and quit thinking of yourself so much.

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I've thought to my self that my life is not as bad as any other out there. And I am selfish for thinking about not wanting what I had before. I keep telling my self things happens for a reason and that reason may not seem fair buy it is for my own good.
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Good for you - I knew you'd come around.
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This problem is important as any other. Heartache is real and not more or less important than any other problem. Time will help but you can Also seek free counseling through a group or therapist. I know how you feel and I care too. Let me know how you progress with this.

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Thank you so much
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I know how u feel I went throu the same thing almost and still to this day I still think about my ex and a girl I let get away from me. Ik it's not the same as ur story, but at least u know other ppl feel this way 2. I felt this way for almost a yr now, I figured it was about time to tell sone one even if it may be a stranger, sorry if I couldn't help

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Hearing other people story does helps a lot, thank you!
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