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I know the bible say honor your parents,but what if you dont even like one of them..in particular your mother is it a sin?

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Why would you not like your mother, I know parents are not perfect but what's the reason for not even liking your own mother Wow! Them on the other hand some parents can provoke their children and even irritate then to the point of angering them.======read=====Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. ?Honor your father and mother.? This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, ?things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.?
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4 NLT)

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It is a sin not to honor your parents. You should love and respect your mother despite her character. You need to talk to a friend or seek guidance and counseling to help you change the attitude that you have towards her.

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im an atheist but im going to answer this myself. does it say honor the parents you dont like? or does it just say honor your parents?

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I'm curious why you are Atheist...please share, for God has told us to share the Gospel to everyone.
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I have not overlooked you as others have.
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why do i have to explain why im an atheist? if i dont believe then i dont believe.
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Seriously nobody likes their parents anymore don't even worry about it

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The bibles laws were meant for 2000+ years ago. Even if you believe in them, keep that in mind.

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If there is a real reason for you to dislike them (abuse, neglect, etc) then no it's not a sin. Pray to God for guidance.
If their just normal parents who meddle, becoming pests sometimes and don't seem to understand you...
Then yes it's a sin and it's very normal for teens to not like their folks. You'll grow up and so will they.
Pray

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Yes it is sin. Though your mother may be bad, wrong, worst person on earth still she is YOUR MOTHER. SHE IS THE CAUSE OF YOUR EXISTANCE. Not only HOLY BIBLE BUT HOLY QURAN TOO says respect your parents and you should not utter UFF or OFF to your parents when they reach to old-age. Respect them ALWAYS. Till they ask you to do any thing which is unlawful as per holy books. You know water image of MOM is WOW.

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In my view, if you don't like your parents, just keep away from them and try not to disrespect them.

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just because you don't like them does not mean you dont love them.

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The bible just says honor your father and you mother because its the only commandment with a promise. It doesnt give conditions it just says to do it. Just because u dnt agree with certain things doesnt mean you should disrespect or not like them. I urge u to find something in common with her and just try to spend time with her and see whats behind what she is thinking. I bet u she aint all that bad. Just because u dont get ur way 100% of the time doesnt mean anything. Love your parents cuz its the closest love to the Love God has for u. Especially moms :)

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The Bible says 'Honor thy Parents' not 'honor thy parents only if you like them'.

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Paul tells us the greatest commandment is to love. Children are told to honor their parents, but parents are told not to provoke their children. As for you sinning, that is between you and God. Good luck and God bless

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While we are required to honor parents, that doesn't include imitating ungodly ones (Ezekiel 20:18-19). If a parent ever instructs a child to do something that clearly contradicts God's commands, that child must obey God rather than his/her parents (Acts 5:29).
Honor begets honor. God will not honor those who will not obey His command to honor their parents. If we desire to please God and be blessed, we should honor our parents. Honoring is not easy, is not always fun, and certainly is not possible in our own strength. But honor is a certain path to our purpose in life-glorifying God.

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Yes, it is a mortal sin, as it breaks the commandment "Honour your father and mother." We are obliged to honour our parents because they exercise God-given authority over you (Col 3:20; Eph 6:1-3). It also means being grateful to your parents for the gift of life (Sir 7:28; Prv 23:22). And you are to care for your parents when they can no longer care for themselves (Sir 3:12-16). Children should obey their parents as long as parental wishes are not contrary to the Catholic faith, while they live in their parents' home, and until they reach adulthood. After that time, children are still required to love and honour their parents but not necessarily obey them, as long as they are then old enough to make their own decisions. The fourth commandment applies to more than just the parent-child relationship. It requires us to obey lawful superiors, including teachers and those who govern (1 Thess 5:12-13). Again, this assumes one is not directed to do something that is contrary to the faith. (My answer continues in the comments)

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The fourth commandment also places a reciprocal duty on parents and those who exercise other forms of authority. Parents should educate and raise their children in the faith (Eph 6:4). They should respect their children as persons, disciplining them when necessary and providing for their physical, spiritual, educational, and social needs as best they can (1 Tm 5:8). In short, parents are obliged to love their children.
Why don't you like your mother? She gave you life and provides for most of your needs. Parents, being imperfect, are not PERFECT like God. God is the ultimate, and perfect parent.

Hope this helps! - ManOfKnowledge
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wouldnt the world be a different place if everyone lived by every word in the bible or every single comandment. . like you?
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Yes. Everyone is required to live by the Bible and Commandments.
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back to the simple question. again, you dont have to like them to love them
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do you? my soul is good God knows that times have changed.its not emparative to live by every single thing that made sence to the world hundereds of years ago.like i have said before we need a up date.
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You can only be responsible for what you do. It isn't always easy to do, sometimes when we don't agree with another's actions, no matter who the person is. But, honestly, since we are responsible for what we know is right to do on our side of things, we must. So, yes we do need to honor our parents. We are responsible to honor them in any way the Bible calls on us to do so. Although, we are not required to sin against God if required to. Otherwise, yes to honor as an obedient child to parent. God will reward you for your part in doing so.

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The word honor means to strengthen in Hebrew. It means to build the family reputation by being righteous. Affection is not required to fulfil this command, and indeed the command can be best fulfilled when one builds the reputation of his parents even when he or she doesn't like them.

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You don't have to like someone to respect them and the authority they have over you. There are probably going to be other people in your life who will have authority over you in some way (teachers, bosses, government officials) that you're not going to especially like. Think of this opportunity as great practice for later on.
Also, if you try to have a positive attitude, you might find it easier. Every teen goes through this where they think their parents are hateful, stupid people with asinine rules. Believe it or not, in not very many years, you might be grateful to have your mom as one of your greatest supporters.

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God would not expect you to honor parents unworthy of honor.
If you just get mad, that's one thing but if you have truly abusive parents then no way is it a sin not to honor them.

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you must honor your parents. maybe you dont like them thats okay. you just need to honor them. its showing respect. but i do think respect goes both ways for parent and child.
maybe you just dont like the kind of person your mom is. maybe shes just not your type. but hey what can you do? you love them despite their weirdness and annoyingness. try talking to someone about this.

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Another sign that the bible is just a tool used to brainwash people into becoming mindless, subservient sheep! Are you supposed to honor a mother that has none? A mother who has raised her hand in anger on you so many times that the wounds will never heal? Should you honor a father who abandoned you before you even got a chance to see his face? Well, if the bible says so then it must be true.

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Honor them. Respect them. Love them. Despite anything else. Nobody is perfect but god.

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