It is called a RELATIONSHIP for a reason. You doing stuff to/for her is one thing. The things you want is another. You should tell her this. At least be OPEN to hearing out each others opinion. LISTEN. and BE HEARD.
my godfather use to say, a relationship equals 200% because each side is suppose to put in 100%. so if your the only 1 putting yourself in completely then she's not the one for you :(, i hope my answer helped