rphil you said in your question you fill you are ((not in love any more)), which is a clear indication that at one time you were in love with your wife which lead to you making a live long vow or covenant to be with your wife until death do you part not the courts do you part. My question to you is, are you dead yet? If not stay true to your vow and covenant that you made before God #1 and your wife #2 and many witnesses #3 .
There is a chasm of difference between "loving" someone and "being in love" with someone. That should be the defining notion of how we choose a partner and make a longterm commitment. All too often, is only after the nuptials do people actually realize or even take the trouble to ponder which category they fit into.
Trouble is .. Most often as time passes, and the 'newness' of the relationship wains, reality sets in. That's when you sit back and really analyze the choices you've made. By then .. it's too late ... commitments have been made, wedding gifts are already worn out .. and you are in big big trouble.
THAT's why it is sooooo important .. and I can't emphasis this enough .. to contemplate your reasoning BEFORE you marry .. not after.
Feelings come and go. If people abandoned their spouses every time their feelings fluctuated NO marriage would survive. Bobby is right. You made a commitment, honor it and take a good look at yourself to see where you could make positive changes. Love is an action not a feeling. Remember that!! I am speaking from experience and have been with my wife since jr high-almost 30 years. Sometimes feelings betray us, but the wise see through the facade that the grass is greener on the other side.
If you are asking your self this question, you never were. you probably fell in love with the idea of being with her and before you knew that it was not for you ,well it was to late. You are probably spearing her feelings, but that just make things more difficult and complicated. Be true to your self and her, make sure that this is not a face or doubt in your heart.
Maybe your having a mid life crisis. I say seek therapy for yourself then include your wife later on. If you have it in your head that the marriage is over. The save everyone's feelings and walk away and ask for a divorce. No point in fighting for your marriage if you are done with it.
You need 2 make 100% sure you dont love her and make sure,its not just a faze your going through then,start making plans to get a divorce,its wrong 2 stay and the both of you and those involved,you made a mistake,dont dwell,make it right now,let her have a better life as well as yourself,good luck,and PRAY to God,he will help you most
Love is not a feeling. It is a continuous decision to put another human being first. Romance may go away, but love is so much more than fuzzy feelings. If you can convince yourself that you no longer care whether she is in danger or not, then you can say that you don't love her. You have chosen not to love her. No matter what, remember that this is a conscious decision and not a passive turn of events. You can choose to love her. You can do this even on days when you don't like her. I know this is difficult but you can win this battle.