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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

I want to move in with my mom, from my dad's house?

I live with my dad and we are moving to South Dakota. I have been visiting my mom for the summer in Alaska, and I love it here. Her house only has three bedrooms. She already has my three sisters living here, one baby and a five year old and twelve year old. I have switched from my moms house to my dads twice, and I do believe this time I want to stay here. She is tight on money, and we'd have to change it through the courts. She said I can live with her when she gets a bigger house, but I'm not sure how long that will be, and I don't want to go back to my dads. He's always out, he doesn't buy fresh fruits or vegetables, he's rude, selfish, impatient, and untrusting. When he has problems with women, he tends to be more frustrated with me. I also hate my brother. He's a terrible person who does terrible things. Any ideas on how to convince her?

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Cjkenkel: 10 months ago

Sit her down and talk to her, tell her you will take the couch for now. Tell her exactly what you just told us.

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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

I have told her all of these things. She seems to think that I will want to leave again. I really won't. I lied without her for two years. I missed almost a whole year of my baby sister's life. She's one now. My other sister (5) missed me so much that the things my mom does for her (brush teeth, give bath, read bedtime books, etc.) she now wants me to do. She wants to do everything with me. My other sister (12) I missed her first crush. Her first time wearing makeup. I just wish that my mom would understand that yes, I will take the couch for a while, I will be helpful, I will make sure that my sister don't end up having the wrong friends. I won't leave again for sure. I understand that they are tight on money, and I offered to get a job to pay for the custody switch in court. She just won't budge.

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CarryEleven: 10 months ago

does ur mom know the bad things of your dad and brother? tell her. she loves you and would not let you live in depression all day long. or maybe you mom and dad need a talk. ur dad is supposed to be a caring one, but not the one like you said.

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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

My dad doesn't know that I want to move on with her. He would be upset. She does know about all the things they do/have done.

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CarryEleven: 10 months ago

ur brother might be too young to act like an adult. give him somtime to grow up. ur father's having some bad time and he shows the most real feelings in front of the ones he loves. you love ur mom, ur sister, but if u move together with them, ur dad would be lonely, considerng he has an trouble-maker son , like u said before. so i think u should talk with ur dad...heart to heart talk. and if u miss ur mom and sisters, u can stay with them for couple of days. but i feel like u should not leave ur dad alone. i've seen some lonely people when i was a volunteer in gerocomium. they are really frustrated and lonely because their beloved ones left them...that also makes me sad. we deserve a better world and u deserve a better relationship between u and ur dad.

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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

My dad isn't very understanding. I tried having a heart-to-heart talk with him. He doesn't understand where I am coming from. My brother is 17. He should have been acting like an adult a while ago. Plus, I can't stay with them for some days. My mother lives in Alaska, and my father in South Dakota. That's expensive. I am at my mom's for the summer, but then I go back and I don't get to see them for a year.

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Cali_Kid: 10 months ago

Just tell her your in need
An don't want to put up w all the bs at your dads... sorry it's not much help but I'm trying
Semper-Fi
(always faithful)

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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

Yes. I understand that you are trying to help. She knows most of the things that go on at my dad's. It's funny that you say Semper-Fi. My dad is a marine who is currently working on retiring. That's why we are moving.

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annavillegas03: 10 months ago

Till your dad

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bella904: 10 months ago

Does she have a basement? How old are you? Does your mom have any relatives living near her that you could live with until your mom buy a larger house. I hate to say this, but if your mom is tight on money she probably does not have the money to buy a larger house. If your in high school, you may just want to finish where you are and apply to colleges and universities in Alaska. I'm so sorry your going through this. Pray and ask God to be in charge of this situation.

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MaraLemoncake: 10 months ago

She does not have a basement. There are no relatives. My father and I reside in South Dakota, and my mom in Alaska. It's quite a stretch. :/
I have asked God over and over for guidance, help, answers. Nothing new has happened.

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