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My 4 year old child is accused of sexually abusing another child by CPS, what can I do to prove he was not?

My husband has been in the hospital with severe heart problems for 4 months. We left our 4 year old in the care of a trusted friend for a couple of weeks. Recently, we found out that she (or someone close to her) has made the accusation to Child Protective Services that he sexually molested their 2 year old. The report was not made until 10 days after my son left her house. He did not leave on good terms. This woman and myself got into a huge argument. 6 days after my son left her house, we spoke in person. She told me what my son had done wrong while there, what her children had done wrong while my son was there, and what their punishments were. I now have CPS and a Detective at my door asking questions and requesting an interview with my 4 year old son about these accusations. I truly believe in my heart that the report is false and was made in retaliation of the argument that we had.

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When CPs investigates something you are guilty. Until proven innocent.
That aside if and/or when he is proven innocent you can then file charges against the accuser for libel and defamation of character.
Definately make sure you have legal representation for you and your son .

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The only way you can try and prove that is by getting a lawyer to help you through this since that is a very serious accusation. Your lawyer can help you look at the evidence provided by the person accusing your child of sexual abuse and you can go through the details step by step. I am sorry for your husband's sickness and wish him quick recovery; I also hope you get the sexual accusations claims sorted out as soon as possible with the help of a lawyer.

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Let them talk to your son with you there if they issue a have to order.

If, and I said "IF" your son done anything he could have only touched someone but, that is called wonder.

At 4 he knows nothing and cannot do anything except touch.

7 or up I would say start getting some help to teach him different so he doesn't continue at an older age and become a real bad person.

At 4 years old they will check things out but, that is why there should "ALWAYS" be adult supervision.

They don't seem to check things out as often with adults around.

I would want to know what my son did do and why but, at 4 I would not think he ever meant anything wrong by it.

There is no way CPS can take a 4 year old for something like that.

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if that's not true then u could arrest them

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It would be really hard to take a 2 year old's accusations seriously at that age because they really don't know the birds from the bees yet. Something fishy going around here!

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The thing is please dont play the denial game. What if your child did do something? A child that age isnt going to be held legally liable but if he did touch another child inappropriately THAT is a sign that your child has been touched in the same manner or seen it done. A sign of sexual molestation. If you child has been molested and you play the 'my child would never do that' denial thing you could be harming your own child by not getting him help he needs. It would be best for you to find a child psychiatrist for him who can find out who might have hurt him.

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not necessarily... i was watching sponge bob and it is a horrible cartoon, but let's remember Disney movies they kiss, they hug, children like to imitate things that they see or observed from adults and more for cartoons. Reason why is recommended children's programs like KPBS is a great because children learn and imate at 4 yrs. old learn abc.. same way if, by any chance watch a Sexy AD on t.v. they don't know they just imitate. You Moron.
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You have to talk to your son. He prolly didnt do anything. Becuase moms have that sense. Ya'know. And you should also ask the other mom WHY she thinks that your son did that!

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Have they taken the other child to the hospital to verify whether or not there was any sexual abuse going on? Because it seems to be this is just another case of someone getting pissed off and calling CPS and making unsubstantiated allegations. If they are so convinced that this has happened what is their proof of this? There are many web sites available to assist you in any questions and concerns. Plus your rights when dealing with CPS. Try http://www.whateveryparentshouldknowaboutcps.blogspot.com/
http://whateveryparentshouldknowaboutcps.blogspot.com/2009/05/section-1.html

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He's 4... Really?? I think accusing a 4 yr old of something like that says that adult has a problem with a dirty mind... Seriously... Ugh... What does anyone know about what's appropriate at 4??? That is so messed up. Kids are curious and the adult in charge should be supervising. If they had been doing that nothing could have happened anyway. I'd turn it around. Why was the child unsupervised?

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How do a two year old , and a four year become sexually abusive to each other, meaning, they know what they are doing ? Is that possible? This sounds very messed up

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Exactly... The adults make it into a bad thing. Kids are just kids...
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Wow. Maybe just let it settle down and blow over. I am sure she will realize it's a ridiculous accusation . Crazy scary and strange
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Talk to him to see what he says about it. I honestly don't think a 4 year old would do that and if he did I wouldn't get mad if he did it to my kid. He's 4!!! An the other kid is 2!! Its not that bad. If the 2 year old can talk ask her what happened. It might sound silly to ask her but they usually never lie And would love to tell you what happened because they Are story tellers
Good luck

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My 3 yr old daughter has been abused by a 4 year old boy. It is possible to abuse from the age of 2 years old. They are either being abused themselves or they need urgent help with their mental health. It is messed up but very real. Their age it does not dismiss their disturbing behavior. Children don't make this up unless it's happening. If you do your research you'll find these facts confirmed. You should not be asking how to clear your sons name but getting counselling for your son to find out why it's happening. He needs your help. My daughter was very descriptive about the abuse to myself and to the social workers. After coming forward to social services another 4 year old girl has come forward to say that it's been happening to her to. These children need the help and support of Child psychotherapists. The family of my daughters abuser is still in denial that it happened. Despite it happening to others to. It's much easier to think it's normal behaviour and they couldn't have done it.
At least my daughter is safe now. I pity their son and other female friends he will have.

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she is two and he is four.... For crying out loud!! We have became this sick society.
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It isn't a matter of placing blame on anyone's child. It's believing and protecting our own children! To the lady who's son was accused, if your son was the one who was saying some other child had touched him inappropriately, wouldn't you jump to his aid and believe him? OF COURSE you would! And no one would expect any less of you. That's your duty as his mother, to love and protect him. Because if you won't, who the hell will??? I'm from Canada, here we call it the CAS (Children's Aid Society). If the CPS ( Child Protection Services) wants to talk with your son, they just want to talk with him. It's an investigation into the allegation. Your son isn't on trial, and they're certainly not going to take him away. They just want to hear his story. Unless the little girl was horribly damaged, and I'm sure that isn't the case. I would however, be angry with your friend, the little girl's mother. Why were these children left unsupervised long enough for even the slightest chance for something like this to be possible?? Are there not baby monitors near where she can hear what's happening in nearby rooms if she's not in them? Her little girl is only 2!!! Why is she out of her sight for that long! Those issues would be my concern! I would welcome a visit with CPS to raise those concerns! In any case, try to reverse the situation and see if you wouldn't want to protect your son in the same way if he told you something similar.

Just some food for thought.

Give your son and hubby a hug and be thankful for good health and the love of your family. :)
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