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What do you say to a friend that will be undergoing an operation? Good Luck,'Best Wishes' kind of statements sound kind of fatalistic to me.

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"Keep smiling, I'll see you on Tuesday."

A friend was terrified of his impending by-pass surgery and his doctor told him there was only one chance in twenty that he wouldn't pull through. That's what put the frighteners into him.

So I explained that 1/20 failures was a 95% success rate and he cheered up immediately. It's all in the perception. Try and keep him thinking positively.

A few years ago there was a surgeon in England who used to shout at his patients as they were receiving anaesthetic, "You will get better. I will help you." He's probably still doing it.

Foxteach1's answer (without intending to criticise) is the last thing I'd say. Offering to pray for me would scare the bejesus out of me. "Does he think I'm that sick I'll need Divine intervention to pull through?" Sorry, but no thanks.

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Great reminders, Dozy. For me, I just use the old "Get well soon".

I remember when I had a bilateral tonsillectomy some 15 years ago. While the anaesthesia was taking effect, I heard "Don't worry, you can make it".
After the operation, I was about to thank the doctor for giving me some encouragement. But I found out the message was not from the doctor to me. It was said by the nurse to the doctor!
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LOL, that's hilarious. I'm glad you didn't know that going in.
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If someone told me to "Get well soon" when I was still high off of some gas right after the removal of my wisdom teeth, I'd have punched them. And was the British doctor thing a good thing or a bad thing?
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HI Geezers, I love that aggressive touch. ;-)

From all accounts the Brit's method worked very well. People took that positive thought into surgery with them and, whatever part the subconscious mind plays in positive outcomes, it was all good. I don't see it ever becoming part of standard medical practice though.
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Those Brits always say "think positive".......Even for an AIDS test.
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Dozy, what an encouraging answer.

When I had surgery, "good luck", "I will pray for you" and "glad I upped your life insurance policy" were all acceptable things to say to me
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LOL -- love that last bit.
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BP, Just realised what you said. I'm a bit slow today. Wonderful line.
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must have been the anaesthesia...or the weather...Lol!
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Give them a stick of Beemans Gum, and tell them you'll see them when they get out of surgery...

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The thing that some of you may not understand is that my answer was to get their mind off the surgery, and give some optmism to the situation.
Just wanted to clarify that...
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I gave you a thumbs up John. Not because I understood your answer, but I'm slow, so I figured it had to have been a great idea.
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hahahaha, thanks Raleigh, I was afraid some were thinking that I was being insensitive, but you didn't have to do that, but it was very nice of you !!!
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I don't know why it's got thumbs downs! I like it
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I don't know either nitrojunkie, but it's ok, everybody is entitled to their opinion, and I don't know y u got one, but i gave u a t's up !!!

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My ex got a copy of War & Peace to read during recovery from surgery. He didn't read it, but our marriage was so bad...I did.
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Loved it, John!
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Thanks!
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Thanks to all !!!
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^ thats a good idea. Maybe get them something to do while they are recovering?

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Thank you !!!
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No problem
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Wish them a swift recovery. This leaves no alternative but recovery and the only variable referenced is the swiftness of it.

And make a plan to do something fun, maybe something you used to do together when they get well, "Get well soon so we can get back to hiking." This gives the patient something positive to focus on and look forward to and reminds them that you care about their well-being.

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A fine answer, this would make me feel better if I were heading for surgery.
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Loved your answer and couldn't agree more!
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Very good answer. I was in the hospital recently and these would have been welcome words.
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Thanks, all.
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I always tell them I'll pray, and then I do! No matter what the eventual answer or outcome, I can ask for God's peace and His will to be done in the situation.

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