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justagirl1234: 11 months ago

My BF acts like a jerk when hes out with his friends ?

Okay , so every time that my boyfriend is out with his friends he wont text or talk to me. And when he does hes usually on his way home and he acts like everything is my fault. Then for the next week or two while he is away from them and is at home he nags and picks and argues and acts less interested in me ? and to me ! Don't really know what to do because I have tried to talk to him and nothing works! We are having a baby but this is nothing new because he has always done it ? I appreciate everybodys answers thanks a lot !

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bikergirl40: 11 months ago | Last edited at 7:12PM on 7/10/2012

So why exactly is he having to talk or text you when he's out with his friends? Are you insecure by letting him just hang out with his friends and finding some reason .. any silly reason to either call him or text him? .. or are you talking about legitimate reasons for trying to contact him and he is just being rude.

You may find if you release your grip just a little .. and allow him time to be out and have some fun once in a while, that he will be happier period. No one wants to be under someone's thumb. The same goes for you and the time you want to spend with your girls. Considering your pregnant, you don't want him staying with you just out of obligation .. you want him to be with you because 'he wants to be with you'.

You two are going to have to learn to compromise a little. He needs to find time to spend with his guy friends .. and not be made to feel guilty .. and he also needs to reassure you that he's with you because he chooses to be.

Balance .. it's all about balance. The sooner you both discover how to balance the things in your lives that keep you content .. the better.

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bikergirl40: 11 months ago

I've been married for many years .. and I know I would never just randomly call my hubby while he's out with his friends just to talk .. that is just so dumb. He is out having a good time .. I don't think he needs to be chatting it up with me right at that juncture. If I need to talk to him, I will wait until he gets home. Unless it's an emergency there is no reason for me to call and bother him.

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justagirl1234: 11 months ago

I don't care if he doesnt talk to me, but what i think is stupid is that when im with my friends and i dont text or answer his calls, when i get home he argues with me thinking im with a guy or their more important , he tries to turn things around on me

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bikergirl40: 11 months ago

I understand your concern .. and that would bother me too. What's good for the goose should be good for the gander.

That's what you could a double standard. One rule for you and another for him. Never works .. always results in drama.

Sounds way to controlling for my liking .. I would never allow myself to be treated like that.

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KaitlynLeclerc: 11 months ago

Its normal...

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TinkerTuTu: 11 months ago

He sounds like a jerk. It can only get worse. Babies require alot of attention,,,he can't be the baby anymore.

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plank67: 11 months ago via iPhone

Normal

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xdubstepCrazzyz: 11 months ago

Trust me all guys to that around there guy friends.

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alva: 11 months ago

He is out playing the field

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unbidmike: 11 months ago via iPhone

agreed

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alva: 11 months ago

yep

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justagirl1234: 11 months ago

what do you mean bye that ?
like being normal or cheating ?

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treVor1694: 11 months ago

He's just tryin to be cool

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unbidmike: 11 months ago via iPhone

well its typical for guys act like a dick when there friends im guy and sometimes the same way i dont mean to be. he may be losing intrest in you or wishing he could be with someone else.

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cupelli: 11 months ago

We r all like that when we r with our friends

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newbuddah13: 11 months ago via iPhone

I understand not texting you back until he's on his way home. He's out trying to have a good time. The remaining parts seem like he's a jerk. I'm guessing that there is some info missing about what makes him act like he does. My gf sometimes texts me while I'm out and I don't answer until I'm on the way home. She understands and we have no problem. So either this guy is the biggest jerk on the planet or something else is going on

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fritzmerde: 11 months ago

Sounds like he's to good to be with you (in his mind) I'd call him to the carpet & ask what his problem is, If things don't change, you're done-bye. You don't need to be treated like crap, dump his sorry butt

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EmilyThompson: 11 months ago

Usually guys try to act like they are too cool for school and what-not. So if you are having your feelings hurt then take him aside and give him a stern but verbal talk about this. If he really likes you he will understand.

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Restorer: 11 months ago via iPhone

Tinker tutu is right

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phil30k: 11 months ago | Last edited at 11:52PM on 7/10/2012

It sounds to me like he's trying to enjoy the last few days of "freedom" because once the baby arrives, his life is going to really change. On the bright side, he knows it's going to change so at least he's not totally clueless. Try thinking of this period as his "bachelor" party, except it's his "soon to be father" phase.

When the baby comes, I suggest you follow that up by having a "baby" party. Kind of how the marriage ceremony marks the end of bachelorhood. Get him involved in the planning and preparation. Guests, a reception, flowers, friends, first viewing of the baby, congratulations to the Dad and Mom etc.

Formalizing his fatherhood this way may be a more productive way for him to spend his energies during the "soon to be father" phase then just partying randomly. And it gives him a necessary distraction. Congratulations on your baby!

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