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Why do long distance relationships normally not last very long?

and how long do they normally last jw. and btw for those of u like over 6 months ago who told me that my relationship wasn't going to last a week. I just figured I would let u know that u were way wrong because we r still going strong :)

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You need trust from both sides and that burning desire to want the relationship...when one of you stop trusting the other or lets their feelings go the relationship will dwindle....keeping good connection with each other is the most important....anyone in the world with out communication will feel lonley...so make sure they know you still think about them, phone,Skype even letters...what ever floats your boat but since you dont have the physical part of the relationship you'll have to compensate with constant communication....oh and remember the golden rule...treat others as youd want to be treated...if you dont want your boyfriend talking to other girls in a flirtatious way, then dont do it yourself...keep your mind open to what the other person thinks and try to see things through their eyes...

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i have a long distance relationship, and its been 3 years. hes in england and im in america, but we skype all the time, and hes going to come here to america to finally be with me in december (':

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Omg that is so good. Congrats :)
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I use skipe for me and my dad and his mom and my friends!
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Awww That's So Cute :D !
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Wow so sweet. I'm in a long distance relationship as well and I hope it does last till I and he can be together forever. Good Luck <3
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well.... Depends on who you are. If your really in love :P then it could be a while.

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it dosnt last cause u dont get the physical connection that normal realationships do

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It depends who you are. I went out with my ex for 11 months then ended up fighting for no reason and getting sad because we never saw each other a lot

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That sucks.... Sorry...... But thanks for answering :)
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It depends. I'm in one right now he's in Spain and I'm in America. We visit each other like once or twice a year and we talk on the phone and Skype All the time. We've been in a relationship for 3 years.
But for some people long distance relationships don't last because they just don't really trust the other person...

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Really? I'll give you a hint...It's NOT because,you are so close to one anther.

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because you need to have substance beforehand. and commitment to each other to make it work. if you have that it will. if all you have is attraction, 6 months into it when the butterflies are gone and you have nothing, you'll realize you had nothing to begin with. a year and a half with my girl now long distance. a year being best friends prior. and we built on that.

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sexual needs d main problem...dude

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no its not
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no sex

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If you have your true love it'll last long but you can't really send gifts and some other guys/girls are around you. But if it's not true love he'll prob. just not be comforable without a woman. or a male around.

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It depends on the ppl!! my bro and sis in law had a long distance relationship for about 3 years and then he moved to where she lives and they are happily married with a child on the way!!!!

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it doesn't always end up like that.
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Optimism is the key =]
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give it all to god

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right, trust god with ALL your problems.
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Absence does NOT always make the heart grow fonder!

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because usually the guy since you aren't there with him thinks he can cheat on you like if ya'll were in to different towns he might try that.

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I guess one thing that personally, has always been important to me is having a physical connection with someone. Being able to hold their and or hug them or be close to them....it makes me feel closer to them.

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If you love a person truly it always feels like they're near to you no matter how far they are. I know it because I'm in a long distance relationship as well and my boyfriend and I we text day and night and sometimes we really do wanna see each other in person but the 'love' it always makes us feel like we're real close =]
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Yeah, but for me personally....I really like having them around. To each is to own.
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because quite simply, distance DOESN'T make the heart grow fonder, but usually leads to apathy because there is no closeness and personal interaction....it takes a really strong bond to survive a relationship in which the physical and emotional are not intertwined, but it can and does happen where trust AND loyalty are on both sides of the relationship

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umm because your so far apart of course and if your not close u really have no chance to get to know each other and build a trusting and lasting relationship. Friends is one thing relationship def a no no and not to mention you do not know them well they can tell you anything and that is how certain people end up disappearing and end up with some creepo on their doorstep

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Well Because Of The Fact That Their Not Seeing Each Other Constantly And Not All But Some Loose Interest In Their Boyfriend/Girlfriend .

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my boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 months(5 more days till it actually is 2 months)and we usually talk on skype alot, but so far he barely gets on nowadays...

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well actually because as your relationship gets longer you guys get too know each other better and sometimes when they get to know you too well they dont like the real you however some long lasting relationships last long because SOMETIMES the boy/girl likes the real you (p.s) it is really rare


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The biggest reason is that you cant actually interact with eachother online as much as you can in real life and it just makes relationship worse and worse.

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Truthfully it depends upon the strength & will of the individuals involved in the relationship.You could actually have your significant other in the same city with you & still feel as if you're in a long distance relationship.Communication is the key to longevity.Respect one another; love me or leave me alone!!!

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its usually because you dont talk as much as you used to. your connection lost after he or she moved. it is called long distance.

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because you don't know what the other one is doing. it never last longer than maybe 6 months.

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I'm in a long distance relationship and it's the 7th month. All that counts is love and most importantly trust.
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I guess because you never get to see each other and then you start to lose trust with each other. Like oh is he/she doing this or cheating?

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this is just like a theory. friendship that has been very good would end faster.

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.long distance relationship will last... it depends on both parties.. if their is true love, trust and understanding, constant quality communication in sure it will grow and lasts. like us were going 5 years now but still our relationship going smoothly and no ups and down. we talk almost every nite. just give trust and ask gods blessings....

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WOW 5 years? Thats cute =) I and my boyfriend have to be together for 5 years so we can be together forever! I hope we make it =p
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No one can not hope that long distance relationships.but some a unhappy moment comes and get a treble.If you face this problem, it's comes normally only depends both of you. you must be trust your other side people.

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Dafuq did I just read? O.o (lol)
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Long distance relationship is very hard.

It won’t work for most of people, as we want to have a relationship with someone because we want and need a company for life, want someone close by, want someone able to doing things together, want someone can relax together with, want someone will be there when we sick, sometime simply just want someone to be there etc. all of those are human nature.

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Yeah this is kinda true. At first its like it's gonna be okay I can wait a month or two to see him but when these feelings arouse it's real hard. But when there's true love then they relationship can last even forever!
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Actually its depending upon both of you. If there is true love and trust in your relation then distance doesn't matter.

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Commitment, patience, trust, honesty and communication need to be their in a long distance relationship. If these are lacking the relationship will not last.

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me too i'm in a LDR and were 4months now :)) just trust your partner if you love him/her.

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They do if you guys really love each other than long distance or no long distance you guys just can't leave each other because you really wanna be together. Plus the physical connection part is not true because if that guy is real serious for you than he'll wait for sure!
Good Luck <3

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long distance relationships are possible!(: my last relationship was lonq distance we met in hawaii , he was my sisters boyfriends friend .. we hung out for a couple months till we had to say qoodbye :/ i moved to vegas . And well thats when he decided to ask me out ^_^ we spent days on the phone textinq or callinq each other .. skypinq .. it lasted 2 years. & then .. well love decided to finally leave us but hey congrats on your lonq distance relationship wish for the best for you both (:

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they do last if the 2 people in the relationship really love each other actually in love love not just saying it, it only works out if the people in the relationship want it to work out if they want it to work out they'll do anything to make it work thats what people do if they really love each other.(:

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Because the fantasy is always better than reality.

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they do my cousin is haveing her arizonian bf come down so they can meet for the first time they have been dating for a year now

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both of you needs to trust each other in order for your relationship to work,it's the main key and ingredient...coupled with love and understanding....you'll survive!

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Cause people these days can't be honest and keep it in their pants. in other words They dont try.

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far from the eyes = far from the heart

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