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Any advice? My aunt died last October. My, uncle a functioning alcoholic before her death, is using alcohol as a way to slowly commit suicide because of his grief.
I am a Christian; so, I know that my unsaved, alcoholic uncle will go to hell if he dies. I'm scared & really upset. My uncle has been through detox & rehab once already. We've said & done everything we can do. I'm praying & hoping for a miracle.
Can anyone help? Or sympathize, at least? If you're a Christian, prayers are seriously appreciated.

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magdalene

Jmarie, For sure, one thing we can do is pray along with you. I will right now before I even submit this answer add you to my prayer list. And, it sounds like you and your family are doing the right thing. God delights in showing mercy! So, He wants to help him! Just pray in faith and try to not give in to how hopelesss it looks, ok? When God touches a heart, it is done supernaturally, so we don't know how He can do that but He does. I'd say that at some point, maybe even when you Least expect it, the uncle will be willing to try again. Keep the faith, ok? Remember, faith, the Bible says, is "the substance of things hoped for and not yet seen." So, with that in mind, uncle getting better is certainly something you "hope" for, so just remind yourself that God can change that "not yet seen" part. He will work in your uncle's behalf. God's ways are not our ways, so it can look hopeless, but to God "nothing is Impossible"! Encourage yourself in the Bible by reading about situations where God came through in other people's circumstances, ok?

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Jmarie, I did write his name down and I did pray and will keep him in my prayers. God is able to deliver people out of depression and I will be praying for him. He also has healed many people from addiction. He loves you, your family and your uncle! Just reminding you. Thank you and I know this is hard, but God is able and we can stand in faith OK? Others will pray too, I'm sure. Thank you for your question. And take care and encourage yourself in the Bible with God's miracles for others and remember, He loves your uncle that much too, ok? He loves EACH of you so much!!
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Magdalene, I'm in tears...Thank you so much. I was losing heart...
Your words are like water to my thirsty heart. I will cherish your words as I await my uncle's salvation. (: Thank you for your prayers. I've just thanked GOD for you in prayer. May you be blessed abundantly!!! (:
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magdalene
Thank you, Precious One! I just prayed again for you and your family even before I opened up your comment area. I know God is able!! I will believe with you for his salvation and deliverance! We will expect to see the Handiwork of God, Ok? And thank you for your prayer for me and asking God to bless me abundantly! I won't forget to believe for him and your family In Isaiah 54 it speaks of God saving us and our family and I had just prayed and basically told God I believe Him for that for your uncle in your family. God does and can. That's what I believed for mine. We grow of course at our own pace, but God knows how to win our heart and show us His Salvation and Love. He's amazing! This summer, I had 3 grandchildren and my son-in-law give their heart to the Lord and get baptised. I had been praying but never dreamed it was about to happen and God did that and I saw all 4 of them even be baptised on same day. Just now, I remembered remembered the word "suddenly" God does hear and answer and I believe he is already hearing and answering you and your family's prayers. But, then "suddenly" we see the results. We may go a day sometimes, a year, varying lengths of time. But God answers when we ask in faith. He does. And, then "suddenly" we see the result of that already answered prayer. It's answered Before we see it. Rest in that ok? We will just believe for your uncle. God saves families!! Love you in the Lord, dear one!
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Your doing all you can do -- so keep on praying and try to befriend him more ..

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only he can help himself. He has to have a reason to live. Be helpful by introducing him to something he and you can both enjoy. Scripture is a life binding proposal. But you, must be willing to be a part, and show some family love in the process. Don't wait too long; he will slip away and you'll have regrets later in your life. Love life, and teach him how to as well. Mark Christopher Frimmel

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We're trying to help him as best we can, but my uncle lives nearly 2 hours away. :/ AA & out-patient rehab have not worked...I'll just keep praying.
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Sorry for your family's loss. Your family needs to sit down and come up with a game plan to help him go back to rehab or at least to AA meetings. As a family unit each of you can go with him until he feels well enough to go alone. While drinking isn't the best way to handle the loss of a loved one each person is different in how they handle their grief. He needs to see that there is a life after someone passes and it's up to us to carry on and live life for them to the best of our ability. Prayers are good but he needs more help then prayers right now. AA is really the way to get help if he won't go to rehab. Good luck and my prayers are for you all to help him fight this demon he is staring at.

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Thank you for your condolences. We are trying to get my uncle involved in our family activities (for example, he was invited to go with us on vacation). Our main obstacle is the literal & spiritual distance between my family & my uncle. First of all, my uncle lives 2 hours away. Second of all, he seriously doesn't think that he has anything to live for. My aunt & uncle were never able to have any children. (In fact, my aunt used to say that I was her "daughter". I even resemble her in some ways) So, besides praying, telephone calls, cards & letters, and invites to family functions, I don't know what else we can do. AA & rehab have not worked. Because my uncle is lost spiritually, alcohol is his fix, his "god". It's his coping mechanism. And until he gives in to JESUS'S love, he won't stop trying to fill the void with alcohol. Please pray. My uncle's name is Tim.
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Hi. If he dies he will go to Heaven. He is grieving and our Lord sees this. He will watch over him and take him Home to be with his wife. My prayers are with you and your family.

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Your uncle isn't going to hell.. If you and your family can't get him to stop drinking, then just offer him comfort where he is. The mercy of God is deliverance, but sometimes death... not hell. You would do better yourself if you didn't take all this cookie cutter nonsense to heart..... I wish a recovery for your uncle, and an increased faith and knowledge for you

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