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What should a person do in this situation? Relationship with stepkids involved?

If a person has no children and are involved in a serious relationship with someone who has multiple children, what should they do if they feel sort of unhappy with the situation but love their partner? If there are times where the person is unhappy because they feel like they are limited at having their own children, and have limited alone time but realize their partner is a good person and really loves them. Should the person with no kids risk losing their partner because they hope to have children of their own someday, and they dont want to cause any disruptions in the childrens life? Or should the person hold on because the couple is really compatable and they really care alot about the person with kids. What should be done in this situation? And is it normal to feel that way when in this type of relationship? Or is it something that can be fixed?

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This is where no one is prefect come from. You can't find everything you want, what is most important to you is where you should go. For both you, her kids maybe even your future kids make your decision as early as possible and let her know. Only think about what is most important to you, and go for it. If you are not happy in a relationship late, no one will be happy. Since you already think about this you better think very hard,


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In my opinion, if they feel sort of unhappy, but love their partner, I would advise them to talk things out and see what conclusion they can come up to. To be precise, this is something really hard to handle and if they can't solve the situation, then they better separate or plan on how they will be seeing each other.

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seems to me like it's best you speak to your partner about this, and say exactly that. I'm sure your partner thinks about this and has an opinion on it too.

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It is hard to "fix" it's going to be you sacrificing what they may not be able to give you. You can talk to your partner but if he/she has been fixed or has the I don't want anymore kids you need to understand. They already made that decision before you met them.

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The place to start is stop thinking like a single person .. start thinking like a family man. If you are seriously considering marrying her .. Whether or not you have a family of your own .. THIS family, is YOURS now.

Embrace them .. ALL of them .. as your own. If you have more children somewhere down the line, then embrace and welcome them too. Don't try to pigeon hole people (Her children, your shared children) .. Embrace them ALL and count your blessings!

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How is this my family though? They are friends to me but they are not my family. They do not call me dad or ask me for advice and come to me like a father. Someone else has those priveleges. Im not being rude to your answer but its hard to embrace another persons child as your own when the child understands very well that theyre not yours and that they dont have to behave around you
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