I would really feel bad if no one came for my wedding. It is my most important day and would love to share with the people that are close to me. I wouldn't really care about my funeral since I will not be there to witness it.
An amusing question! On my wedding day, I only had eyes for my bride - if SHE hadn't turned up I would have felt bad. I am grateful for all the photos taken so I could see who else was there, because on the Day I didn't really notice anyone else. I haven't died yet, so I can't be sure about the funeral - but I wouldn't be able to tell you how I felt anyway.