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I'm 15 and pregnant and my boyfriend is pressuring me into abortion?

I know I shouldn't have the baby but I don't want to get an abortion my boyfriend is telling me to all my friends and if I tell my mom shell make me get one or she'll kick me out

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If you dont want it, put it up for adoption, someone out there, who cant have babies, would love to have it..

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do what you think you should

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Go to.a Womens shelter or.church, abortion is murder

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then what's and condom or birth control?
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^ A condom or birth control won't get you pregnant. Abortion kills the baby you're already pregnant with
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It is your choice and if you don't want an abortion I wouldn't get one. Don't let anyone peer pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. If you really don't want to get an abortion, but know you can't keep the baby just give it up for adoption, or try raising it on your own. IT IS YOUR CHOICE AND YOUR CHOICE ALONE.

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dont do it, that moment will stick with you all your life. you will regret it

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Only u know what u want

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Smart boy

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You have no feelings.
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None whatsoever
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Screwball
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I agree with holly!
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Is that really you?
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Lol no way
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If you've decided you don't want an abortion don't let anyone else change your decision. If you decide you can't raise the child yourself there are couples that would be only too happy to adopt a healthy baby and raise it in a good, loving home. Give your baby that chance.

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I don't go for abortion. Give it to someone who truly cares. Don't kill something that hasn't even got the chance to live. Adoption is the best place. If you need to talk to anybody, then I'm here. Which is weird, because I have no clue who you are, but somethings just telling me to say this.

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Are you gonna adopt this unwanted baby? or is it going to live its life in foster care being unloved abused, and then it grows up to be an unproductive member of society, abortions a better decision in my opinion
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No, I'm not gonna adopt a kid at 14! The baby is not a unwanted whatsoever!! Plenty of women can't have kids of their own so they turn to adoption!
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Abortion is certainly not the best thing the baby can feel itself getting ripped apart piece by piece. Would you like I feel that happening to you. And she could do one of those adoptions where she finds a family before its born.
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Yes!! Totally what she should do. And I don't know if the baby can really feel that, and I have no clue how anyone could know.. I wanna think not. :((
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Then why are there orphanages, and foster kids?They don't all get a home, and a lot of bad people will take a foster kid just for the gov't check. Life is not that black and white
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That's why people should get an adoptive family before the baby's born. Im not gonna go against anything you just said, cause it's all true.
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God dang, I want to know what shes thinking right now!
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I m pretty sure that they give you pills to kill the fetus before its vacuumed out
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That's horrible though and most places don't because they feel like the baby won't feel it but it does they feel getting teared apart piece by piece
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My moms boyfriends daughter got one, and she said it was terrible, and she would never recomend it to anyone, ever.
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We are not 14, we have a 4 yr old and would love to adopt a child.
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I hope things work out!! :)
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I think you should have the baby and then put it up for adoption so the baby has a chance to enjoy life

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I got pregnant when i was 15 and i chose adoption. its the easiest way to go. that way you can finish growing up and your child will be safe and happy instead of dead. im now 17 and i still know that i made the best choice. and i still get to see my son:) and thats what i thought about my mom too but once i told her i wanted to do adoption she was with me the whole way. i know shell understand.

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Thank you for sharing and doing what you did. Thank you!!!
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this is the best option in my opinion!!!! this way the child can have the best life possible. you will make someone very happy!
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Don't get an abortion!!! You will end up regreting it later in life. Tell an adult you trust. And if your boyfriend is pressuring you to have an abortion he's not a good boyfriend.

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I totally agree with Neiderer11. If you don't want the baby then put it up for a closed adoption or something like that.

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Don't get an abortion.
The abortion will put you through more pressure than having the baby itself!
thats murdering a child.
Anyway, i would give birth to the baby, and if you don't want to raise the child, put it up for adoption.
Break up witht that jerk, and never talk to him again.

Good Luck!

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Get an abortion.
The abortion will be quick and over with an you will never have to worry again.
it's not exactly murder
Anyway, i would abort the baby, then be done
Also it's your choice to stay with that guy.
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Listen your boyfriend is being a selfish jackass, don't listen to him. Put your baby up for adoption, abortion is murder and it will stick with you the rest of your life, you'll regret it.

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Abortion is not the answer. If you don't want it, put it up for adoption. Now that said, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING GETTING PREGNANT AT 15?!!??! I'm the same age, I guess it just depends on raising, parents, family, and upbringing. Hoping you learned your lesson. Good luck. ;o

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Such a lesson
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Naturally he is -- Yeah just delete it like it never happened and turn his back on responsibilities -- your mother will not nor cannot throw you out --- lose the Boyfriend being he wants to be a man and act like a boy .

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Cannot imagine not wanting my child when that time comes. It would play over and over in my mind.....nice day
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So True and eat you alive -- i sure wish i had a baby with a Nice young lady -- hmm -- hmm --
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No abortion!

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It's your body - you have chosen to have the baby. Unfortunately, you'll have to demonstrate that you can raise the baby or have help in raising the baby - because you're so young. You should now be getting yourself an OB doctor - you'll need pre-natal care - vitamin / mineral supplements - and guidelines to have a successful pregnancy. You should be aware that there's a risk of autism in your baby because of your age - this is serious business - you are not going to have the same youth as your friends - you've just committed yourself to about 18 - 25 years of motherhood - unless you decide to give up your baby for adoption. Motherhood is a lot more involved than just 9 months of pregnancy - if you don't know that now - you will definitely find this out - your life is no longer about you - it is all about your child - and will be for a very long time.

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So true-children are forever.
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The states with the greatest numbers of teen pregnancies also happen to be the states with the highest crime rates, greatest unemployment, fewest resources for children and families, the most religious, least educated, and are attempting to outlaw birth control - they are also the same states that require the greatest financial aid to teen mothers. Backward begets backward.
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You guys hit so on...
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Don't do it! The moment you do it the fact that you killed your own child will stick with you for your whole life! You should have thought about the consequences of having sex before you did it! And you should get kicked out because what you did was really stupid! Btw Im pretty sure your mom won't kick a pregnant 15 year old out on the streets.

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Put it up for adoption then. Why do so many people have kids too early the child will suffer because the parents arent ready/ prepared i see it everyday

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Omg don't do abortion do you know what they do to those babies they tear them apart limb by limb it's simply horrible those babies feel what is happening to them. They feel.. Put the baby up for adoption and giving it a chance of life, a chance to have a family.

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abortion is NEVER the answer . if you cant have the baby or afford to have him/her .. just do adoption .v

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yes! No creation of life is a mistake!!!!!!! everything happens for a reason
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Birds will sometimes push their young out of the nest when they are still eggs and break them so they do not hatch a bird. It's not anything unforgivable, you would not hate the bird, but you have to realize that it is for a reason. IMO you are too young. You will be raising a child for longer than you have even lived on this planet. You don't know the things you will miss out on and I promise you will miss them when your friends are out doing whatever they want and your changing poopy diapers. Don't let your youth be taken from you. Live your young life and enjoy the freedom because it doesn't last.

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Don't get an abortion! If you don't want your baby let him or her live and give up for adoption. But give them life

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Don't do something you're gonna regret for the rest of your life. I personally don't like abortions. Who knows? Maybe the baby could grow up to be someone who makes a difference in this world? You're fifteen. Wow. My sister is nineteen. She just had a baby, and she doesn't have insurance for the baby yet. It's hard. Think of all of the things you need, and need to buy. I think you should give it up for adoption. Make a deal with the adopters, saying you would like to see the baby whenever you would like too. It's up to you(:. But, choose wisely. Good luck :*

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How far along are you? I am an o. b. nurse and will do my best to answer your questions.

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4 weeks
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Your boyfriend isn't mean enough to beat you low in the belly is he. Or Sneak a morning after pill in your drink is he?
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no and we don't usually eat together
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man mann mann tell your mom

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Don't have anyone pressure you into stopping your babies heartbeat. Adoption is always the option. If you feel like you can't keep the baby, then let it live, enjoy life, grow up with a loving couple. Some couples will help with Bills that will come with this pregnancy. Sounds like you have a awful mother, don't follow in her footsteps.

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You have to do what is right for you after all your going to be the one looking after it not your boyfriend, your boyfriend is just bein selfish and thinking about himself!
I personally think you should keep it

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At the end of the day the choice should be yours. Whatever the choice your going to have to live with and be OK with it. If you have an abortion it should your choice, not by force. Its not an easy choice, that's why you should not be having unprotected sex your 15, but you know that now. You could always choice adoption. Watch some teen mom, there's a girl on that choose adoption, been a teen mom is not a luxury. Whatever you decided think of your baby's future and yours.

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I'm a grandmother so I lived through the time when abortion was the thing to do. I never had one but I've known girls that did. Not one was happy she did it all regret they did. My niece got pregnant at 15. She put her baby up for adoption. That was over 30 yrs ago and she never regretted her decision. She gave her baby to a family that couldn't have kids and the baby had a good home. She had a good life after that and got pregnant again after she got married. You can do the same. And your Mom will be right there to help. Good luck.

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Well when I was pregnant I ate some moldy cheese and had a miscarriage.

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Psalms 139:16 "Your eyes saw even the embryo of me, And in your book all it's parts were down in writing, As regards the days when they were formed And there was not yet one among them." If God is able to see even the embryo of us he must really view it as precious and so should we!

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Wow I've never heard that
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It's your choice, do not let any opinions of other people take into your consideration.

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Questions like this break my heart. Why must teenagers be so irresponsible? I've been trying for over 2 years to have a baby with my husband and am pretty much infertile. I would give anything to be able to have a baby or adopt and it seems there are these kinds of questions left and right. If you were grown up enough to have sex, then you are grown up enough to deal with the consequences. If you can't handle raising a baby, put he or she up for adoption so someone like I can give him or her a loving family. As for what's going on, nobody can force you to get an abortion. I think your boyfriend is a jerk and you shouldn't be with someone like that. Talk to your mother. She might surprise you.

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your boyfriend is just a fool who isn't ready. I heard that even though it may be hard at first, your family will be there and even if they are not, then i know you can do it. You'll see; after the hardest part of having a baby, wich is the beginning, you will soon see that having a precious miracle of life is worth it and i know you can do this. So raise the child with love. Every road of life has a turn and many valleys so i can't garrantee what will happen. The choice is yours. And i personally hope you make the right choice, even though this isn't my buissness. It just breaks my heart and hope you'll look into your's. Good luck.

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Abortion is wrong , it's still murder . If you think you can't raise it , then put it up for adoption .

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Your mom can't kick you out because that is child abandonment and she would go to jail. If you don't want to have an abortion don't just give it up to adoption! Don't let anyone convince you to abort the preg. if you don't want to, it is your mind that has to live with this decision not anyone else.

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If you do not believe in abortion there are other options, such as you could have the baby and adopt the child out to another family. You have to do what is right in your heart, do not let anyone push you into doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.

If your family or boyfriend will not support your having the baby, go to a teen pregnancy support organisation or social services office in your area and they will help you. You are not alone in this, there are people at these organisations who will help you.
Take care & god bless.

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That was a very dumb move, Hannah. You and your boyfriend should have used protection..But sadly, that does happen a lot. This isn't rare at all. You need to first come forward at tell your boyfriend and family, and then do what you feel is it. There is other options that doesn't have to do with abortion. You could have the baby and then put it up for adoption and make sure that it goes to a kind, loving family. And you're only fifteen, you're still a minor. She can't kick you out. If she would do that, she would be arrested for child neglect, abuse, and abandonment. It's your body and don't let anyone else tell you what to do, good luck.

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Having an ambortion is like killing a baby, if you dont want the baby you could give it up for adoption but don't kill it.

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Adoption is the best answer but it is your choice NOT your boyfriends I went through this same thing and guess what I was gonna do an abortion I was at the office and everything gave them money and was waiting to get called back to do it and I couldnt do it. adoption was my second choice but when it came down to it i couldnt so i kept her and i dont regret it one bit and I moved out at 15 i had no help from family friends you can do it you are alot stronger than you know and if you trust god he will help you You need to think of yourself and no one else if you dont want the baby or know you cant take care of him or her then adoption is it there are families who will pay for you to go to doctors and pay your bills and take you to dinners and be there for you 100% AND you need to tell your mom she WILL be mad but you need to talk to her and let her know EVERYTHING that is going on with your boyfriend school friends and yourself that is the only way to have a healthy relationship with your mom

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First off u NEED to tell ur Mother that u are pregnant. If she throws u out then turn to the police. You are a minor. Your mother will be charged with child neglect if she throws u out. See what her actual reaction is going to be before u panic. second, tell ur boyfriend to shut up. He should have worn a condom in the first place and I would dump him if I was u. third, decide what u want to do depending on the support group u have. there are adoption programs that will give u a place to live and take care of u. Look up an agency called An act of love. this is a good agency. I was 16 when I had my first child and I was alone. But I had my baby and kept her. It all depends on the choices u make from here and what u think u can handle. Dont kill your baby tho. Good luck dear. God bless.

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Sorry, but what do you expect a teenage boy to say ... oh yes, please keep it. Of course he doesn't want the responsibility of being a father at such a young age (presuming he's the same age as you). Unless he forced you into having sex, then you are both responsible, or in this case, irresponsible. Just think about it ... are you willing to give up your youth for one bad decision! With all the sex education kids get these days, I can't believe how many teen pregnancies there are. I imagine giving up your baby after birth would be almost impossible to do. I guess you have a lot of decisions to make right now .. so good luck whatever you decide. I hope your Mum is understanding no matter what you do.

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its a baby its a life! im not saying keep it but atleast think of adoption! im in DHHS custody and people prefer to take in infants over children so think about it real hard! please! SAVE A LIFE!

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Jesus loves you and that baby!
listen to beautiful life by trip lee :)
People deserve life and that goes for the unborn ones too and thats why jesus died to give us life even the unborn lives! :)

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As a single lady who didn't think she could have children due to an infertility condition, I would have loved the opportunity to adopt a newborn. If you're not ready to be a mom, and it's fine that you aren't, please know that there are plenty of people out there who would love to adopt, love, and raise your child. If you work with an adoption lawyer, a prospective adoptive parent will cover all of your medical expenses and, in some cases, modest living expenses. Some open adoption parents will even invite you into their home if your mother really does say that you can't live with her. However, you may find that your mom is more understanding than you think once she’s over the shock. My childhood best friend & a few other special people in my life are adopted children from unplanned teenage pregnancies. They are grateful for their lives. (One is a doctor & one was VP of a bank.) Two of my girlfriends underwent abortions. Fifteen and 30 years later, that decision remains the biggest regret in their life. Talk with a doctor and counselor to help you decide what's best for you--now and in the future.

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First off, to all the assholes who are saying that she's irresponsible You dont know her situation. Maybe she was on birth control and it failed. Maybe she used a condom and it broke. Stop assuming. Hannah, I agree with most of these people. If you couldnt keep it, then go for adoption. (: If you want it, keep it. Sure, it'll be rough, but there are all kinds of places for you to turn to. This is your baby after all. (: Im not going to sit here and say "Oh you made a mistake, or oh you should've been responsible." This baby is a blessing, it is not a mistake, and I know you'll do what's right. Much love and luck going your way. <3

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Adoption maybe? :/

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Keep it. You can't kill a living person. From the second the baby is in your stomach it is alive. Yes I'm from Texas and yes keep the baby. Or put it up for adoption. Don't kill them.

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i watch to many shows when teens get pregnant and i am 13 but keep the baby be a loving mom or put it up for adoption i would never give my kid up if i had a kid say if i got pregnant at 13 i would keep it because once u give it up u r going to think y did i do tht

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I have just adopted a beautiful baby boy. Please consider adoption as an alternative. I wouldn't be able to have a family without the birth mom having considered and gone ahead with adoption. There are so many people, singles/couples/whatever, that want to adopt and it takes so long. Please, please consider this very carefully.

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Please do not get an abortion. that is murder. People go to jail for doing the same thing just to older people than a precious baby growing inside you. What i would do is give it up for adoption. There are so many people than cant have children and have to adopt. you could be making someone so happy with your baby. dont let anyone make you do anything do what you think is right. I just think if you let them convince you to get an abortion, youll regret it and i know later on in life when you have kids its affect the way you go through it all. Dont murder your baby <3

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Your boyfriend is being selfish. Don't get an abortion... If you absolutely cannot keep a baby, there's a couple that can!

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Well, I do believe it is the fathers choice too. You have to compromise somehow. If you have the baby, he is then forced to take care of it with you.

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Your parents can't legally kick a minor out of their house, and noone can force you to have an abortion. Abortion is murder, I believe your best option is adoption.

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its obvious he doesn't want the kid but the decision is up to you but remember when making your decision think about how it might affect you in the future

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do what you want, even if it means disagreeing with your boyfriend. you are the one that is going to have the baby. no offense but i think your boyfriend is a ____ing____edy____ ____ ____ ____erton. no offense to u tho :)

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One of my cousins are 15 and she is also preparing for a baby..A baby is a gift, It wont be easy, but just because you get an abortion doesnt stop the fact that you are a mother. A baby is a big piece of you, you should definitely consider keeping it:).prayers be with you:)

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Your going to make up your own mind on the matter, but here are some things to consider...
1) Do you have a job?
2) Do you have some where to live?
3) How are you going to pay for medical bills that will be thousands of dollars? 4) Will you finish School?
5) If you keep the baby Will you file for Child support?
6) Do you have Insurance?
Hon I honestly Suggest coming clean with your mother, you can't handle this pressure alone and your friends are going to want what ever makes you happy but you have to realize Having a baby changes EVERYTHING! Please talk to your mother and tell her your scared of her kicking you out, Be honest with her she may just surprise you.
( And I would dump the boyfriend for not wanting to take responsibility for the baby you both created)
Or you can give the child up for Adoption, That way you don't have to have an abortion.

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