1st Question Congrats! The secret to a happy successful marriage is trust, you have to trust each other. Also you have to compromise on whats best, and often times you have to back down on disagreements. Also make sure that you have quality time together, like going on a vacation for 2. Good Luck!
I believe my friend on here who is a psychologist, said that respect is key. In my personal opinion, I believe always communicating with each other is most important. If your asking this for yourself, I'm sure you'll be happily married 'til the day you die.
we take turns in the 5050.. well ok we are willing to take turns in the 1090 too (one of us more than the other) :).. communication creates understanding.. understanding trust.. and we are ALWAYS working on different kinds and levels of trust (key word.. working).. inherent in the trust is respect. another constant that requires both understanding and work. one of these days ill have her totally trained.. its a lifetime project. wait.. whats this collar doing on my neck again?
I think the secret is the same in any relationship. Knowing there is no secret but hard work. The relationship is going to change and you have to adapt to it. The biggest problem is comfort. While it's nice,it also makes us lazy. Remember the things you did in the beginning? The flowers for no reason,the attention, putting the other person wants and needs before yours. We got off our best game. Add kids to the mix and you've a whole new dimension. I also think intimacy,respect and and faith are key. Relationships are hard work. The secret is to always bring your A game. : )
Ecclesiastes 4:12 "A threefold cord cannot quickly be torn." Keep God in your marriage. Though it may not be perfect, because the bible does warn us there will be tribulation in the flesh. But with Gods help it will be successful!!!
The most important piece of a successful marriage is mutual respect. Within this one dynamic is communication, trust, honesty, reality, love, affection, sincerity and a host of others. Think about those you respect in life.. We are willing to listen, even if we do not agree; trust that they will do the right thing by us; know they will communicate openly and honestly.. This is the biggest issue I encounter in counseling.. Respect has diminished or disappeared, and when that happens.. everything EVERYTHING else falls apart.. TY to sissy, Faded, babes.. for the high fives, but you all have it right yourselves... Hugs ;)... ~Zoe
Low expectations. Most of the time we get offended or hurt in a relationship it's because we think we're not getting something we deserve. We have our expectations set too high. Again, often we can seem ungrateful or take for granted things our significant other does for us if we begin to think it's our just due. If you keep your expectations low then you will remain appreciative and grateful and that goes a long way.
Always be willing to listen, communicate, compromise, share, include, and above all be open and honest. Don't sweat the small stuff, but remember it's there. Hold hands tightly as you and your new wife travel the roadmap of life together. Kiss often and don't hold back from saying "I love you" at anytime. Best wishes.
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There are many pillars to a happy and successful marriage. There are 4 that stand out profoundly in mine. Honesty. To be honest with one another, you must first be honest with yourself. Knowing our personal needs, being able to sustain their health, and being honest in providing support to help your mate is mandatory. If one feels their personal needs are not being met, they may feel slided. Trust. If there is even an inkling of. an issue not being addressed or questioned, it lends itself back to honesty. Someone is feeling slided. You must trust your feelings for the other and believe they are doing as they claim to be. They have not reason to lie to you, nor you to them. Go to comments please.
Both seeking Jesus. Praying together. Laughter through tears. Forgiveness. Including kissing am making up. Letting the love of God reign when you want to whop the other spouse. Remembering the good times. Fair 'fights'.