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Why do my parents have a problem with everything I do?

my parents have a problem with everything I do. well sometimes I can see but others are just harsh. today I sneezed but only with half of my nose covered and my parents took away my tv. seriously I'm not lying or exaggerating. a couple of weeks ago I was talking to a friend on the phone. he was feeling down because his parents had a huge fight so I tried to calm him down. two mins into the call my dad rushes into the room an says I shouldn't be talking to anyone on the phone because it's a waste of time. and he took my phone away for a good week. he is even threatening to take away my bed. is this a form of emotional abuse? Also. my mom and dad agree that I'm over weight and thy just go around telling everyone we know. it hurts my feeling and whenever I try to confront them about the stuff they do to me they automatically and I quote say " Don't throw an attitude with me. if u don't like it you can leave." and I usually end up grounded for the rest of the month. there is no winning with these people. I love them to death but I honestly do not think its the other way too. and I have so many things to do in the house. the only thing they do is probably clean the dishes. that's all. the rest is to me and if I forget once. once. oh geez idk how to explain how much trouble I get in! and I'm expected to act as a highclass adult but they dont let me do anything. they let my 5 year old sister have more freedom than me. :( I'm sorry this is so long but if someone can help me I would be most grateful :)

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This is coming from someone who has gotten into some pretty deep trouble with their parents. You sound like a really sweet person, with a big heart, who honestly cares about your relationship with your parents, or you wouldn't be writing this question! I think that maybe you could try talking to one of your other family members about it, like an aunt or uncle that you really trust. What you are experiencing might not be your fault, but the fault of something happening in your parents lives. But usually, parents are trying to do what's best for you. Maybe just try hard to be on your best behavior, and earn more privileges.

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Sounds like they are just doing their job, a parents got to lay down the law.

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well yes of course but why this harshly?
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are you latino ? not being racist but im latino any way most latnos especially one that are born out of america didnt get free education or worked to help pay the bills and didnt have time for school any way they r probobly copying what what their parents told them . or they r jellous they wornt able to as a kid . any way just one day of each monthe do what they want try spending time with them just for one day they probobly just dont think they no u like they think they should so one day just spend time with them it should calm down their anger or stress

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hays okay thanks :) and yeah I'm half lol
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Well, it's harsh, I'm not gonna lie. But I would tell a close relative or even a friend. So if a relative, next time you meet up. They can casually bring up punishment with your parents. And a friend can tell their parents and the parents can bring it up. But for now, just lay low. I'm sorry that happens to you. Hope I helped

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Thanks :) and I will. I'll let u know
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I would hate to be in your position :( Maybe you could get emancipated if your 16 or older. Then you could life with another family member or a friend. And if your parents are saying you can leave if you want then I would look into that especially if your being emotionally and verbally abused.

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There is obviously a lot to consider here . From what you describe , family counseling sounds in order. The difficulty for me to be helpful here is that I am only hearing your side of it. There are just too many issues.

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you only think they have a problem

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There is obviously a disconnect somewhere. From the perspective you write you are the target of overbearing harsh parents. Assuming everything you wrote is exactly as you wrote it you are in deep "doo-doo". You should take a look at your situation from various other angles and see if there is anything you can do or not do to calm the situation and over time turn the tide in your favor.

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