Actually I personally like strong, independent women, my fianc? is that type. I enjoy the challenge and effort of pleasing her, and being relevant and meaningful to her life.
However I often find when some women say they are independent, what they actually mean is they are emotionally distant or unavailable. That's a very different thing.
I don't know you, I have no idea what you are like in a relationship, so I'm not judging you, but maybe exploring what you mean by "independent" might give you better insight into why you feel men are "scared" of you.
Would you be willing to elaborate on what being an independent women means to you specifically?
we are not afraid independent women we are only afraid of women that constantly say they are independent so stop saying that
MEN want you to be equal to them.
Because men like to take care of their women. If you say you dont need a man, he feels like he's useless. I'm not a guy, but that's my opinion
it comes natural to us to want to support our women. i mean when our woman has to go out there and support herself it makes us feel bad. since we were young, we were taught to protect women and support them as much as we can. i know if i did not support my woman but she supported herself id feel pathetic. plus, independent women dont really give men the attention we want. maybe thats a good answer
MEN value an equal partner more than a dependent one.
That, in itself, goes contrary to the very question.
A WOMAN doesn't want to be dependent on someone. A GIRL wants someone to provide everything for her.
It has to do with maturity and self-esteem.
This is the easiest question I've had all day.... You hang around with the wrong type if men... For example, I think independent women are great, even sexy. You may be hanging around with some insecure men. Time to upgrade!
I don't it just matters on person :) I guess and you can't count on 1 experience .
hope this helps :)
Not afraid of independent women. Prefer them. You have to realize something though.... You are young and the MEN you speak of are most likely BOYS. You said you are 18 so I am assuming you are not hanging with the 30 something crowd. Age does NOT make a man.
Men like to feel "manly" when they are with a women. If you are fully capable of doing everything yourself then it makes a man feel useless.
I have the same problem in reverse. I can cook, sew, wash clothes, iron, and do everything except have a baby. (I not much for house cleaning though.... lol).
Let a man do things for you even if you are capable of doing them yourself. Who knows you might learn to enjoy the extra attention?
Because men are naturally dominant. We aren't afraid of independent women, we just a girl who does want us to help and look after them. I had a girlfriend once who would get angry at me for protecting her from drunks at bars and get defensive whenever I offered to help her do something. We don't want that. I certainly didn't.
whaat! thats my kinda woman
More women need to think like you! Not all, but many men need to feel important. You will eventually meet a man that wants a true partnership where you both can contribute equally. Good luck!
Find the right man... I personally love a independent woman,But some guys do feel useless around them. Most men are the same but there are a few that have different tastes... P.S. I support women when they want me to.
Not all en are afraid of independent women.Men do like to be in control that's how they are raised.There is difference between independent and controling.You have to balance the two.Let your man know he's important to you do not take him for granted.There are lots of ways to let your man know he's needed.Its not just $$$ that's important
Perhaps, the men you have told this to are immature. You look very young, if they are your age, this may be the case.
The way I was raised is the man is to take care of the woman. But yet the woman has to cook, clean, raise the kids, pay the bills, etc. I have worked and enjoy working. But when my partner says it's his job then I honor him because how I was raised. I have worked while married but he complained he never got to see me. So now I work from home as a reptile breeder and he is happy because 1 I'm home, and 2 he has a bunch of reptiles lol
Some men like to dominate, some men want to be dominated, and some men want to share equally. Hang in there for the latter. There are plenty of them out there. A very wise religious figure once stated that relationships are like birds. A bird soars highest when both wings are of equal strength.
Most men like to be the dominant & like the women to dependent on them
I would say that they are intimidated. I myself am not scared of independent girls for the most part. However you should be careful as girls in general are dangerous XP. This one girl at school kept beating on me and no teacher at school ever believed me :F. Apparently, that a guy gets attacked by a girl seems to be very unbelievable. Anyway good for you being independent.
I think the real reason is that you say that you don't wanna be supported by a man.
That sorta sounds like you don't want a man to give you anything or be around. And dealing with angry women is one of the hardest things on earth. I could use feedback from you on this XP
Laura just make it seem a little less like: "I am gonna support myself so back off from me" (says the strong independent woman who needs not you)
It sorta comes off like that XP
-from a teenage guy
Not all are you just gotta get out in the world and you'll see how many guys will line up at your door cause you are independent
Personally my man loves that I am independent. He thinks it's really sexy. Keep being who you are and you will eventually find a man that loves it just like I did.
they fear that you don't need them...even though they want you
I dated a wealthy women many years ago and it was hard for me. I simply could not compete with her lifestyle. She was always willing to pick up the tab when she chose expensive places, but it was still difficult for me to accept.
I'm not saying the attitude is right or wrong, but many men are raised to think about money and women in a specific way. It's hard to have the woman not financially interdependent with the man. I think it is easier in our society for a woman to be depend on a man for money then for a man to depend on a women.
I've had a relationship where we were both financially independent of each other, and just split the bills. That can work if both people are fair and mature about it. Of course, it requires talking about that stuff, which can be awkward in a new relationship.