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How can I reduce and control my temper? What can help me fix my anger problems?

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Anger issuses typically form over time from a life experience. You will need to identify the source of yor anger and triggers to it to begin to resolve it. In the meanwhile, relaxation is the key. If its a wrong against you try forgiveness. If its a self-directed anger try forgiving yourself. Outpatient Community Mental Health Services have counselors that can assist you with recovery efforts. I hope this is helpful and you follow through.

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Thanks, though i think counseling will make me feel a little crazy.
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Try a stress ball. I know it sounds mediocre but give it a try. And just listen to people's thoughts. Don't stoop down to their level if that's the reason why..

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What do you mean by stoop down? And it's just the littlest things that can piss me off right away! I don't even know ..
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Well like people who might insult you. I don't know. People who call me names is irritating but I just laugh and don't stoop down to their level. Have you ever heard of that saying?
And do things you enjoy doing then. :)
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Not really, what does it mean?
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You're better than insulting them back. More ladylike.
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Ohh okay thanks by the way :D
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Anger relates to your expectations.You want everything to be the way you want it or use to it.
To improve,
-be more sensitive to other people way of looking at things and experience.
-avoid confronting with anger situation.
-take up a hobby or interest which are more relaxing.
-spent some time to yourself away from everything.

BE HAPPY ;)

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Chris. How old are you?
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19
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Ahh, k. You seem older. Wiser too.
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Nah, I'm young whippersnapper ;)
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I see that now. :)
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Oh thanks, I'll try that out :3 hopefully I ease down more then before.
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You're welcome
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Sometimes you simply have to respect other people's rights to be idiots. It's difficult, I know, but see if you can't laugh instead of getting angry. If you get angry, the other person is in control... NOT you. But if you can laugh it off, you have taken back control, and robbed them of their power to anger you.

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Thanks fried green tomato I'll try to do that also :)
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Plus, it really ticks them off when you laugh at them. My ex used to laugh at me all the time... and I saw red every single time!
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So you have anger problems?
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Absolutely. I am slow to anger, but once I'm angry, I'm furious. So I try really hard to not get there, since it is so bad for my body and soul. If I can find something, no matter how small, to laugh about, I can head off my temper before I get to the boiling point. I do have a heavy bag hanging in my basement, and use it to punch and kick out my frustrations.
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Oh cool, I think I'll try that more often now. But me when I'm angry it's probably the end of the world, one thing that bothers me, then woop here comes the blood boiling. but I'll take your advice thanks :D
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do meditation and yoga. it is very useful for anger & temper persons.

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Cool I'll try that out as well. I just need to find a calming place first.
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Forget all of this deep stuff, where did it come from and why. Personally, I am someone who can be hot headed, I have found the best way to stop or calm down is think of it like this. How do you feel when you see someone acting angrily on the street? How do you think you look when you are angry? Its more empowering to remain calm, if you can learn how to just stay calm, you will feel more powerful from doing that then showing your anger.

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Thanks but it came from my father, he was abusive. I mean I do see people on the streets angry I don't think anything, but empowering yourself is harder than it sounds dude..
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And staying calm, if one things ticks you off, you will explode
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Well I did it, my father was physically abusive to me as a kid too. You just have to fight that feeling of losing control of your emotions. I know its tough...Trust me I know, but with maturity comes self awareness.
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I gotcha, I'll keep that in mind, thanks :) its cool to know other people have anger problems and had a rough child hood like me.
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Yeah definetly. I hope it gets better for you, I am not sure how old you are, but I am just creeping into my 30's now and its got easier and easier to calm down. I usually feel stupid and bad after over reacting, afterwards, I just got sick of feeling like that, saying things I didn't mean to people who care about me. Hurting them and hurting myself in the process.
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I too have been known to get angry too easily. What helped me was to just stop hanging around the people that were causing the problem.

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Ohh man, I'll probably end up lonely then.
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