My guess is that you were raised in an environment with alcoholism somewhere. Otherwise you would find his behavior unacceptable and uncomfortable immediately. You say you don't know it at first but my guess is that you do. The signs, characteristics and actions are relatively the same in most addicts. Have you sought advice of a professional to find out why you are attracted to someone with these character traits?
let me guess these guys are ghetto guys?? mabey cuz u like the bad boy type?? i use to be like that until i realized these type of guys are no good..no future in these guys u will soon realize this trust me honey