You are NOT certain of anything..things are way out of wack here. He files the paper and makes you his new family/priority/fiance whatever..but he files the paper now or you walk. Especially if they were married more than 3 years... she can be playing games with him and so can his own family. ARE YOU BLIND... you are the sidekick. Do you want to be a sidekick. Sweet heart, there are lots of men out there with NO baggage. He files the divorce this week or you move on dot org. This is not funny. A separation is nothing..I knew a guy who was "separated" and slept around for two years with old college "friends"and went right back to his wife. If you are to be his priority-- there should have been papers filed long ago. Take off the rose colored glasses dear. He would not want you to treat him that way.

Redsoxfan85: 9 months ago

You seem to be very level headed i have some situationsin my life im having issues with. Think you could lend some helpful answers my way?

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Tell him you cannot see him anymore until the divorce has been filed if he really cares something will be done

4u2answer: 9 months ago

That is what I was thinking, but I don't want to be the reason he gets a divorce.

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It's not up to you to do ANYTHING. This matter doesn't really concern you necessarily as long as he has a legal separation ... Unless you and he are planning to get married sometime in the near future. It's a legal matter .. not a matter of commitment.

Having said that ... If she is lagging .. there is nothing wrong with him getting the process started. She could be playing games or attempting to gain what she thinks is control over the situation.

4u2answer: 9 months ago

Thank you! What do you mean by a "legal separation"?

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bikergirl40: 9 months ago

That means he has files for a separation through a lawyer. This helps to define limits and responsibilities from a legal standpoint between estranged spouses.

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bikergirl40: 9 months ago

Ummm .. that should said "filed" not "files"

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4u2answer: 9 months ago

thank you again! I really appreciate the help.

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4u2answer: 9 months ago

by the way, he has not filed for a legal separation. :(

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bikergirl40: 9 months ago

Something you might consider suggesting .. Remember, she can get him into a whole lot of trouble because as man and wife .. they still are legal bound.

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Redsoxfan85: 9 months ago

How does this not have anything to do with committment. I would say it concerns her that her bf is married to another woman.?

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If he cant let her go you need to let him go. Only a year ago too? Sounds like hes waiting on her to see if she will make the move because he doesnt want to. This is a tricky situation. Be careful. Especially if they had kids together. If i were in his shoes and truely loved my gf then id be seeking every oppurtunity to divorce my ex out of respect to my girlfriend and what we have together. If its financial thats one thing but i dont think so because the way you describe it he hasnt even mentioned finances. Please be careful with this and best of luck to you.

I would take a break do he can get in together. He is still married how ever you put it

I agree with Stephanie but also,If you were so important to him,he wouldnt wait on her,he would go ahead and get it over with,hes putting it in her hands cuz,hes not wanting to let go of her,she wouldnt go to family functions if it is over,I think hes not being totally honest with you,hes playing the field,a lot of married men do this..