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JamesMcCue: 9 months ago

My girlfriend is mad at me for "being insensitive." What do I do now?

After my girlfriend spent the night, she got ready to go to work, and I walked her to her car like I always do, and I noticed a big pimple under her nose. I said, "you should take care of that before you get to work." I wasn't mean, nor was I trying to be funny. I am now being accused of being mean and insensitive and that I should not of said that the way I did. Since then we have been arguing about this, since I don't understand why she is mad at me.

But this has gotten so bad where I lost my temper for her blatantly ignoring me over the phone. And it just got worse from there.

We have since settled, but I don't agree with the final results, and now I question our relationship. Any advice on what to do?

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sadiesmomma: 9 months ago via iPhone

Hey, at least you told her. Wth? Seriously?? I would mad if my husband didn't tell me I had a pimple under my nose I could take care of. Just tell her this, I'm not starting a fight...I want you to understand I thought I could be honest with you. If she takes it further it sounds like maybe she has issues. And really girls, who don't want a guy whose honest?? Seriously. I would've thanked you and taken care of it. But some girls can be like that.

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pitbullmom2: 9 months ago

I agree..... Maybe that comes with being married?

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sadiesmomma: 9 months ago via iPhone

It could...17 years with him and I would beat him if he let me out like that in public lol. No but really, even before marriage he would tell me and I never cared. Some of my friends would get mad I know if their bf/hubby said that though Maybe I'm different?

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pitbullmom2: 9 months ago

20 years and I agree..... who wants to walk around with a zit all day. But... if he tells her she's getting a big but well that's a different story than it might be world war 3 in my house! ;o)

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sadiesmomma: 9 months ago via iPhone

Lol!!! For sure! You hot that right -I smacked my hubby cause he told me my chest was getting bigger. It is but I'm in denial:(.

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hawkmann: 9 months ago via iPhone

Nothing don't change who you are for anybody

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jordanbjennings: 9 months ago

From a girls perspective. Girls are very sensitive. You could say something even simpler than that and she'd flip shit on you and turn bitchy. She probably already knew about it, and was hoping you wouldn't notice it or mention it. But honestly that does sound kind of like an asshole move. It could have been your tone of voice or maybe just the way you said it. You could have simply said something like 'Honey you look beautiful today, but you do have a pimple. Maybe you should pop it?' you gotta give her a compliment, then put it out there, then fix it with a suggestion rather than a 'you shoul' type of thing. Girls are sensitive and can be truly bitchy at times. I suggest you be more careful about things you say and think before you speak. Or maybe, who knows, you just have a straight up bitch on your hands and you need to get out while you can.

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JamesMcCue: 9 months ago

I thought I was doing the thing like, "hey you got something in your teeth?" which she doesn't mind, and she appreciates that.

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jordanbjennings: 9 months ago

Just try what I said next time. I'm 90percent sure it will work. Maybe she was just having a bad day. Maybe she's on her period, who knows? Lol. (but DO NOT go asking if she's on her period, all hell WILL break loose!

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deguy23: 9 months ago

She didn't want you to notice. She wanted to feel confident that you would overlook it. But I do see where your coming from you were just trying to warn her. Like the saying goes : Girls, you can't live with 'em can't live without 'em. Thats why we have hoes. Just jokin. For real tho

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pitbullmom2: 9 months ago

Oh boy are you in the dog house!!!!! If you guys have a good relationship don't let such a small thing cause such a big problem that's just silly. If you tell her that's she's over reacting, and yes she is, that will just make it worse. You embarrassed her..... Get her a cute card saying your sorry for embarrassing her (not that you were insensitive, cause you weren't) and tell her that even with a little pimple she still the prettiest girl around. And also that you feel so comfortable with her that you felt like you could tell her about it so she didn't go to work that way. You were just trying to help..... Good Luck!!

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TheDazzle239: 9 months ago

Really can't argue a girl's appearance or point out a flaw! No No! She hates that you are looking so close at her appearance and not her inner self. She would have caught it on her own and seen that you don't really care what she looks like. :)

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refreshme: 9 months ago

i am not going to take side over this, but really (?) and argument over a zit ??? sounds like there are other issues going between the two of you that you need to work out.

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JamesMcCue: 9 months ago

That's what I said!! That's part of the reason that I'm asking the question on here today

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refreshme: 9 months ago

this is just a dress rehearsal for what your matrimonial arguements will be like.

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JamesMcCue: 9 months ago

Oh I'm divorced already so I already now that stuff lol

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mani93: 9 months ago via iPhone

u should never comment on the girls pimples, rashes, hight...!

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SmittyJA24: 9 months ago via iPhone

I'm in agreement with sadiesmom, above.
Damned if ya do, damned if ya don't.

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elfloll: 9 months ago via iPhone

People are sensitive about different things. You hit a nerve. Learn from it. Sincere apologies never hurt.also, plenty of men are sensitive about the same thing it is not a woman thing .

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Alabama334: 9 months ago via iPhone

Well women are a different species from us men they are sensitive im yhe same way im gonna say wut i have to say im just a blunt person that is straight foreward if she cant handle who you are and how u are give her ass the boot

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reneebond: 9 months ago via Android

Yes,Tell her 2 quit with the drama,if shes going 2 get sooo upset over such a little subject,you do need 2 rethink the relationship,thats just stupid.

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knifemkr: 9 months ago via Android

if things have calmed down, let it go. sometimes we (guys) say things we think are helpful and. . . .BLAMMO!!!
If I got a dollar for every "helpful" comment that made my wife mad, I'd make a lot of money (in a really weird way)

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