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What should I do about a drunk teenager

My friends recently died. There 17 year old daughter lives by herself now and when ever I go to check on her she is drunk, drinking, or hung over. I know she just recently lost her parents but I know that if you're so drunk you can't walk that it's not good. I don't know if I want to confront her because she may get upset and keep doing it only then I wont be able to may sure she's ok. What should I do?

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That's a serious situation. She is learning to cope with alcohol. She has got to learn other coping skills. Does she have grandparents or aunts and uncles? That is where you need to start. Her family needs to reach out to her and shame on them for not doing so she is still a minor. Where is she getting the alcohol? Maybe you could turn them in for providing to a minor. But the family needs to reach out to her and she needs to feel that she is loved from them. At 17 she really isn't mature enough to make adult decisions hint the drinking.

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Ask her to cut down the drinking a bit, or introduce her to a non alcoholic drink

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The reason she drinks is to take away the pain, a non-alcoholic beverage won't replace it.
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What pain?
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Take her to a therapist

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Do something to make her happy.

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you should first know about here feelings, what she feels nowadays. And your relation with here should be like a best friend so that she can fearlessly tell you everything.
Then according to here tension, and according to the nature of the depression, you should provide an entertainment and a pleasant environment so that she feel better.
I don't know what is your relation with here, but should treat her like a best friend.

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try to invite her to ur house more often, kind of become like her friend

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How is she living alone if her parents died and she's still a minor? And don't beat around the bush. She might get upset but if you "suggest" other ways to cope she won't listen to you. If she yells, yell back. Tell her exactly what will happen if she doesn't get off her ass and turn things around. I was a heavy drinker for a few months, my uncle dumped out my booze, told me drinking isn't gonna fix jack s**t and to do something with myself. I am now the lead singer of a moderately successful punk rock band and make a living off of it

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Does she have other family? Siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents .. perhaps they don't know what is transpiring. Not that you want to be a tattle tale, or stick your nose where it doesn't belong .. but out of concern, tell them what's going on.

I can only imagine what this girl is going through. At a time in her life, where a teenager is supposed to be having the time of their life .. she may very well be wallowing in misery. Although drinking at this age is not unusual, she may have fallen over the 'edge' between drinking for fun and drinking to escape sadness. That is a very slippery slope...especially under these circumstances.

Befriend her ..You can try to talk to her about it, but I highly doubt if that will penetrate the wall she would have built up around her. It's hard to say..without knowing what is her trigger for the drinking. But, don't be surprised if she gets defensive and belligerent. People, under normal circumstances don't like to feel ridiculed about their actions .. never mind someone who is really emotionally damaged.

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Gently confront her. BUT DO IT NOW. She needs guidance, someone to talk to. I'm sure her parents are desperate for someone to intervine, probably killing them all over again, to watch their child self destruct. She will absolutely, either end up an alcoholic, or worse, an alcoholic.. driving drunk... ending two lives. ... leaving a daughter ..of 17.

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See the video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ia0H_8prWBw, from the website www.stopdrinkingadvice.org. Go to this website and if you can, get your friend to look at this website too. This site explains the stages of alcoholism and how it often starts with grief and the loss of as loved one.
Good luck

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She has a sick grandmother and her uncle is in jail. She has a brother and a sister but she sent them away to boarding schools so they would be taken care of. She told me she begged her land lord for an apartment and he felt sorry for her so he gave her one although she's underage. I have no idea where she gets all the alcohol but she has so many bottles she could run a bar out of her house. I told its not good for her to drink so much but she (drunkenly) laughed me off. The best I can do is be around to take it from her when she's too out of it to stop me. I'm really afraid for her.
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