Something i've learned over the years, is that men & women have different ways of communicating. Many women (not all) are verbal, cuddly communicators. Most men (not all) are not. Kinda like speaking 2 different languages! For example....my sweet hubby DOES THINGS for me, more than he TALKS about his feelings for me. I, on the other hand, am constantly TALKING about my feelings. I had to learn to "do some things" in his language, & we're still working on him "talking" more. (if that makes any sense! Lol!! ) Now....at the same time, do not stick your head in the sand & ignore certain things, chalking it up to the language / communication barrier!! Communicate your feelings, and if your gut is telling you something, listen!!
Talk to your boyfriend and say "You say you love me, but lately you haven't been doing a lot to show it." dont tell him you dont think he loves you. Just say he isn't really showing it, and that he can be doing things to make you feel more special.
Belive him I am sure your a beautiful smart girl that's lucky to have a boyfriend that has the guts to say I love you when your not even married. So you should belive him and if you love him, tell him that too.
He probably doesnt love you. He is probably infatuated with you. If he loved you you would know it. A lot of teens say I LOVE YOU without even knowing what they feel. They think that the desire to be with someone is love. I dont know your boyfriend nor do I know you but I can bet that if you dont FEEL loved..... You arent loved..... by him anyway.
I've had the same problem. You need to realize that most men are not as affectionate as women, and your boyfriend is probably confused because he doesn't think anything is wrong.
Sit down and have a conversation with him (keep your emotions in check) about how you need him to do specific things sometimes, because that's just how women work. They need certain affirmations to know their men love them, not just words. Men can be very clueless.
If your boyfriend refuses or continues his distant behaviour maybe it's time to consider dating someone you are more compatible with. Good luck :)
He probably doesn't love you. You should ask him what he thinks live is. I have news for you...it's not a feeling. It's more of a verb. Love is shown. When I tell my fiance I love her she knows that I'm telling the truth because everyday I go out of my way to find different ways to show her.
If you don't FEEL loved, he may NOT love you. Not trying to be mean here, not even a little bit. It's just that it is very easy for someone to SAY, "I love you," but it's a whole different thing to SHOW those feelings & ACT in that manner. Like the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words." Tell your b/f you don't want to HEAR that he loves you, tell him you want to SEE it in the way he treats you. If he doesn't treat you with love, find yourself a new b/f! :)
Guys and girls think differently on what that means. If he says he likes/loves you, in his mind, he's thinking he's golden and done. Without being bossy, you need to spell out what you need from him, and give examples, because a guy is not going to be able to guess.
Ask him in a really private moment if he really loves you and if he days yes than he will try harder to love you because he will know that your not feeling as loved as you need any questions follow me apeacegirl