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What to do if my boyfriend says he loves me but i don't feel very loved?

i have tried to tell him but he says isn't true what i said!

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Something i've learned over the years, is that men & women have different ways of communicating. Many women (not all) are verbal, cuddly communicators. Most men (not all) are not. Kinda like speaking 2 different languages!
For example....my sweet hubby DOES THINGS for me, more than he TALKS about his feelings for me.
I, on the other hand, am constantly TALKING about my feelings. I had to learn to "do some things" in his language, & we're still working on him "talking" more. (if that makes any sense! Lol!! )
Now....at the same time, do not stick your head in the sand & ignore certain things, chalking it up to the language / communication barrier!! Communicate your feelings, and if your gut is telling you something, listen!!

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That's called love languages right?
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You got it!! :)
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I always love your answers, hope you don't mind if I follow you :)
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Thanks girl!! Love followers! YOU were actually one of the first folks I followed on Ask!! :D
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Oh really? Haha well thanks :)
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Thanks at times he do things for me and he says love stuff but with the time he just stops
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Therein lies the problem with many relationships!! When 2 people have been together for a long time, they can get overly comfortable with one another, & take their partner for granted! A relationship takes work from BOTH people. :). Sometimes that work is fun.....sometimes, ....not so much! LoL!
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This link explains it better than i did - http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
I think this will help you understand, and could also be good knowledge for future relationships in case this one doesnt work out! :)
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Thank u
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You're welcome! :) i've been there before, and its not a very good feeling!! Thats when/why i had to have help understanding the language difference. Good luck, & trust your gut!!
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apparently your confidence is low

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Talk to your boyfriend and say "You say you love me, but lately you haven't been doing a lot to show it." dont tell him you dont think he loves you. Just say he isn't really showing it, and that he can be doing things to make you feel more special.

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I tell him that and he says that is not true that he really really loves me and he dnt know how to show it
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If he really really loved you it would show without having to BE shown.
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I think We ALL develop our own knowledge & understanding of love (what it is, & how to express it ) based on what we saw (or didnt see) growing up.
Kinda like manners......some folks grew up with them because they saw it at home, others didnt.
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One time i try to break up with him and he starts crying and telling me that he really loves me and that he will demostrate it and he do it but with the time he stop showing it
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Belive him I am sure your a beautiful smart girl that's lucky to have a boyfriend that has the guts to say I love you when your not even married. So you should belive him and if you love him, tell him that too.

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Guts to say I love you??? Guys have learned to say that just to try to sleep with a girl. Girls fall for it. Girls become moms at a very early age. Not a good idea.
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Thanks 4 the advise!!! ;)
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Tiffany.... she gave you BAD advice,
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I am confused because in phone he is very romantic and one time he cries because i try to break up with him and he tell me that he will show me how much he loves me and he do it but in time he stop doing it
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He probably doesnt love you. He is probably infatuated with you. If he loved you you would know it. A lot of teens say I LOVE YOU without even knowing what they feel. They think that the desire to be with someone is love. I dont know your boyfriend nor do I know you but I can bet that if you dont FEEL loved..... You arent loved..... by him anyway.

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bradahh
Great answer.
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Ok i will try to say him and if he dnt show it the next step is breaking up
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And thanks for the advise
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I've had the same problem. You need to realize that most men are not as affectionate as women, and your boyfriend is probably confused because he doesn't think anything is wrong.

Sit down and have a conversation with him (keep your emotions in check) about how you need him to do specific things sometimes, because that's just how women work. They need certain affirmations to know their men love them, not just words. Men can be very clueless.

If your boyfriend refuses or continues his distant behaviour maybe it's time to consider dating someone you are more compatible with. Good luck :)

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"men can be very clueless"... for example. girl: hi. boy:hi. girl: i love you. boy: what??! lol
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Haha my bf said "I love you" first, ha!
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He say it a lo t in cellphone but when im in front of him he is not the same
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Sounds like he doesn't actually love you, and may have never loved you in the first place. Sorry, that's just how I see it :(
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Ok thanks 4 the advise anywayd
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Yep :)
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bradahh

He probably doesn't love you. You should ask him what he thinks live is. I have news for you...it's not a feeling. It's more of a verb. Love is shown. When I tell my fiance I love her she knows that I'm telling the truth because everyday I go out of my way to find different ways to show her.

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Ok when i try to break up with him he starts crying telling me that he wiil show it and he do it but in time he just stop thats why im so confused
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bradahh
Well doesn't sound like love to me. Sounds like he is infatuated with you and is afraid to be alone.
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Ok He have 5 girls in love with him at my house and he says no because he is with me but ok if u says so
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bradahh
I think you're throwing the word love around a bit loosely.
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I dnt know im just Going to try break up eith him
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I dnt know im just going to try breaking up with him
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If you don't FEEL loved, he may NOT love you.
Not trying to be mean here, not even a little bit. It's just that it is very easy for someone to SAY, "I love you," but it's a whole different thing to SHOW those feelings & ACT in that manner.
Like the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words."
Tell your b/f you don't want to HEAR that he loves you, tell him you want to SEE it in the way he treats you. If he doesn't treat you with love, find yourself a new b/f! :)

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Ok i will try that thanks
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Good luck to you, and if he doesn't treat you with love & respect, there is always someone else out there who will, so don't waste your time. :)
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Yes thanks and is confusing because when i try to break up with him he cry a lot and i think why crying if u dnt show that u love me just do it and we can be together and he do it and with the time he stop doing it
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Guys and girls think differently on what that means. If he says he likes/loves you, in his mind, he's thinking he's golden and done. Without being bossy, you need to spell out what you need from him, and give examples, because a guy is not going to be able to guess.

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Love is a action ... Tell him to show you that he loves you and, not just tell you

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Ask him in a really private moment if he really loves you and if he days yes than he will try harder to love you because he will know that your not feeling as loved as you need any questions follow me apeacegirl

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Sorry boo......if it were only that easy! LoL!!
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I will try it
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Just shut up and smile.

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