Which would you rather be: The pillar or the person that leans against the pillar?
Pillar/person that stands up for itself
Person. Would you rather be the patio or the person standing on the patio?
I'd rather be the guy who built the pillar..at least he got to get the hell out of there...
I think the post means a person that is a "pillar of strength" versus a dependent person, who needs to lean on stronger people. My take is that everyone, at least at some time in their life, can be in either profile.