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lee3690: 9 months ago | Last edited at 2:19PM on 8/15/2012

What would you do if you were living with a friend and the friend feels like she should be able to discipline your children?

some things that bother doesn't bother me.

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LoraK: 9 months ago via iPhone

Since its their house, what bothers them should be taken care of by you. If you don't like them to discipline your child, take care of whatever it is first. You may also ask that when they don't like something your child is doing to tell you at the time, so you can handle it. But you must take care of it and be respectful to how they feel. Other then that, you might need to find your own place:) Good luck, I know these situations can be difficult!

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lee3690: 9 months ago

I'm at work when these things happen. She tells me when I get home but she goes ahead and grounds them for waking up early. They don't wake her and they are expected to be in bed early so that's why they wake up early. They both have ADHD.

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LoraK: 9 months ago via iPhone

Have you talked to her? How do the kids feel about it? If they are ok with it, I would leave it alone and move as soon as possible. Sorry, I really know how hard it can be.

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lee3690: 9 months ago

Idk exactly what to say to her but the kids feel like there are too many disciplining them in one household.

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Mike921056: 9 months ago via Android

Let them

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lee3690: 9 months ago

Because they wake up too early? They are quiet. They don't wake anyone up. Just one example.

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TreyWhite: 9 months ago via iPhone

I say if your living in their house, you should live by their rules.

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lee3690: 9 months ago

That's what I tried to explain to my sons. One of them doesn't understand why I agree with what u say.

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jasmin166: 9 months ago via Android

Their house their rules u have to go by them oR else get ur own place its terrible to live by other ppl rules especially wen u have kids it's always a bother to the person believe me been there and at the end of the day they have the right to say what's right or wrong in there house ..good luck..

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koichan: 9 months ago

This is a good answer; I have a suggestion though: there indicates a location such as put the chair "there," the form of this word you want is "their" indicating ownership.

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jasmin166: 9 months ago via Android

Yeah my mistake... their house..oops sorry thanks for correcting me...

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jpink2: 9 months ago via iPhone

Sounds like she is watching your children? And with ADHD, they need an experienced patient caregiver! My best advise is to sit down with her and agree how you will discipline. when you are home she will need to direct all authority to you. Consistency is the key. If there is something they do that is upsetting her, you should handle it, even if you don't think it's a big deal, to show respect. All that said, if she is grounding your little ones for waking up early she seems harsh, and I would reconsider allowing her to watch your kids. Good luck :)

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lee3690: 9 months ago

I do handle what bothers them when I'm there but a lot of times she tries to correct them before I can say a word. If I was able to get my own place I wouldn't be there to begin with. I do appreciate all the answers here. I guess I have to find a way to express what I'm feeling without losing my place to stay.

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jpink2: 9 months ago via iPhone

Of course, sorry, I mean no disrespect. Is the kind of person you could sit down with and say, look I appreciate everything you are doing to help us out and I know my boys are a handful, can we both come up with a game plan to talk to them in the same way. Does your friend have kids of her own? Two women in the same house... Sigh :)

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bgscelicagts: 9 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 4:35PM on 8/15/2012

It's their house, thier rules. If you don't like it, find a place of your own. Then they can live by your rules. now they need to talk to you before a punishment. you need to correct the problem first.

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kekikaad: 9 months ago via iPhone | Last edited at 9:08PM on 8/15/2012

What form of discipline? When parents always conflict with other bout their kids, they need their own place. No one should expect to stay with someone and not expect them to say something to your kids. My friends come over to visit with their kids and I enforce them not to eat outside kitchen if they do I don't offer them nothin or tell their parents if they can't enforce it they have to limit their visit.

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