My adivce? (I'm not a parent either so I'm not going to pretend like I know anything) She's 13? So she's starting to really like boys and care about what they think....so if she has any guy friends that you know, I would maybe talk to one of them and have them say something like "Ugh smoking is so gross, I would never date a girl who smokes." Peer pressure can be bad AND GOOD. If she know's that people her own age think that's disgusting she's more likely to not do it than if you were to punish her.
I'm not a parent, but honestly, I wouldn't post this in public cuz it's illegal to smoke under 18 or do drugs like that so you won't have to deal with any trouble... My help is to send her to counciling give her a talk, and and be VERY strict bout it
Do what my mom was made to do when she was caught. Make her smoke one after another after another until she is so sick of them she either vomits or passes out. My mother claims this worked for her. Otherwise take her to see a person with a disease caused by smoking and all the nasty effects from it. The stained teeth, bad breath, heart disease....etc. Smoking isn't cool anymore, well never was, and I don't understand why anyone would start.
Side note: Why do we allow sale of this toxic product? We outlaw lead in paint, smoking kills more than that. We banned DDT (pesticide) which effect Bald Eagles but smoking kills more than that. I just don't understand why we even allow the sale or production of a product that kills. Either allow anything or nothing I say.
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Not a parent, but maybe start with why its a bad idea..
Smoking gives you bad breath. makes your clothes and hair smell. turns your teeth and fingernails yellow makes you look pale and unhealthy. causes wrinkles. leaves you with a hacking cough and phlegm. Zaps your energy for sports and other favorite activities.
30 days with no Internet, phone, tv, etc. absolutely nothing. She is allowed to go to school, when she comes home is sent immediately to her stripped room. She is allowed to come down for dinner. Tell her, you may hate me now but I am going to save your life whether you like it it not and if I ever catch you at it again it will be SIX months.
Well, i'm not a parent but when my brother who is 17, got caught with a lighter, then he confessed to my mom, she was really angry, and she had him call her (ex husband) who smokes, different things and cigarettes, and had him talk to my brother about how smoking is bad and can ruin your life, and all sorts of stuff, so my advice would be to sit down with her, and maybe watch some videos of former smokers, or people who got cancer from smoking and try and show her all the bad and nasty things about smoking and definitely talk to the boys parents, I think it's a good idea. I hope this helped.:)
Well you said "from other parents" so that excludes me. Others have suggested making her smoke a whole pack and I've heard of this being done. I don't know if it's a good idea though because it is toxic.
Quit smoking yourself. You cannot get mad at her if you smoke. For some reason teens feel invincible to all disease, so I think telling them about all the awful things that can harm them seems to have little effect. Take away the phone and ground her for two weeks. Tell her next time she even looks at a smoke it will be worse! If possible, try not smoking around her... Good luck
After my mom caught my sister at the same age YEARS ago. She whipped her butt real good. Then grounded her from everything. All she could do was sit in a bare room when she wasn't in school. I'm all for some good old fashioned butt whippings. Thats whats wrong with most kids now a days, they aren't getting any whippings. Now I have heard of parents making the kids smoke one after another until they get sick. My Fiance said take her to the hospital floor with all the dying smokers, let them talk some sense in her while she sees what it does. Maybe some doctors can show her all the organs it messes up.
I'm not a parent but I am a teen and a lot of the kids these days do that and I see the kids they hang around and they are nothing but trouble. Except they do more than smoke cigarettes they also smoke weed and drink and they are only 13. It most likely has to do with the people she hangs out with. And she is probably thinking "its my life and my choices." which is what a girl I know had said about her parents finding out she smokes weed. You need to have a strict and serious talk with her and try your best to get through to her. NOW is the time to help her before it gets any worse. I was going to suggest changing her school maybe for her to have a fresh new start and stay away from the people who most likely influenced her to start smoking. That girl who I said had her parents finding out she smokes? She was such a good girl. I had met her once at a small party and she was so nice and smiled at everyone and now she's a lot more messed up. She's still a really nice person. This doesn't make your daughter a bad person, she just made bad choices.
Agree w/armarie. Wish the kids i hung with had that attitude! If you yourself smoke, it's gonna be hard to convince her not to. Do you see yourself quitting? If so, enlist her help. Otherwise you might tell her your regrets about starting. My dad said long ago, "when i see you smoke, i think 'how stupid!'", and i never forgot that. Good luck.